When Relationships End: Honoring The Process

You don’t need to know where things are going. All you can do is listen to yourself, honor yourself, and show up as best you can with respect, kindness and love. Sometimes the end of a relationship is your choice, sometimes it’s not. Either way, you can trust the timing of things to unfold exactly as they need to for your higher good.

In today's lesson we will discuss the five stages of grief and loss. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance exist on various levels when relationships end. For many there’s also feelings of shame, blame and resentment, directed towards ourselves and others. Whether you’re in the midst of an ending, at the beginning of an ending, or the ending has already taken place, it’s important to feel all your feelings and let your heart grieve the loss of relationship before you can move forward. Find a safe outlet and let your heart guide you.

It’s natural to struggle with questions about what life will be like after a relationship ends. Fear of being alone can often leave you feeling stuck in a relationship that’s not working. You are valuable and worthy of love, always. You are enough. Always. You deserve being in relationships that reflect this back to you. Don’t let fear of being alone hold you back from finding out how valuable and worthy of love you are.

Life is always changing. You are always changing. Others are always changing. Your relationships are always changing.The more you can embrace change and accept things as they are, life opens up and flows a bit easier. The only thing you have control over is yourself. Change is essential to growth and connection. Change is a normal part of life. It’s essential to growth, health and vitality.

The only person who can give you what you need is You. Trust yourself and be on your own side. When you are centered, integrated and at peace with yourself, you can own your mistakes and your humanity as well as your kindness, goodness and loving intention. You do not need to earn love or belonging. It’s yours already. You are the person you are looking for.

Today’s lesson is about accepting others and circumstances as they are in this moment, and release your ideas about how you think things should be. When you release others from your expectations of how they should be and receive them at face value – for how they show up – you are free to choose what works for you without blame or resentment. When you don’t tie your well being to another person and how they choose to be, you find your freedom.

Compassionate boundaries are about honoring who you are by expressing what you need and want with kindness. Boundaries are about being clear on what’s important to you in your relationships. You are responsible for how you show up and fulfill your own needs.

You might be scared of conflict and showing up with your true heart, especially if you feel unsure of yourself, or you are afraid of how the other person will respond to your vulnerability. You might fear rejection and loss of connection. The best you can do is show up, do your best and trust that it’s enough. Get clear on yourself and own what’s going on with You. Use “I” statements, practice boundaries, and give yourself permission to walk away if the other person doesn’t play nice.

To be alive is to be full of desire, longing, passion, and want. Your heart knows what’s best for you and will not lead you astray. Your heart knows the truth about you. You are valuable, just as you are. Find trust within yourself and trust where your heart and desires are leading you.

Relationships end so we can grow. Let your heart guide you into freedom and Big Joy! Rebirth, new beginnings, fresh opportunities are waiting for you. It’s never too late to start over. It’s never too late to awaken to yourself, your heart, your passions, and desires, and make the changes necessary to connect with the Big Joy already inside you. Show up for yourself. Be on your own side. Freedom and Joy are yours.