COURSE

Boundaries For Compassionate People

Through heartfelt and conversational teachings, learn how compassionate boundaries create trust, safety and freedom in all aspects of your life and relationships. You no longer need to feel exhausted, resentful and anxious because you are constantly putting the needs of others before your own. Boundaries are compassion in action, and it all starts with you. Learn to honor your needs without apology or excuses while enjoying deeper connection with the people in your life. You are valuable and worthy of love, exactly as you are. Let this introduction to compassionate boundaries guide you to living from your authentic self!

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Meet your Teacher

Jessica Amos

Salem, OR, USA

Jessica is passionate about creating an open-hearted learning environment accessible to everyone. She believes meditation and mindfulness help you embrace yourself with compassion and grace, as well as encourage you to rewrite your personal narrative through deep emotional and psychological healing so you can live a life of peace, clarity, and joy. Through the power of acceptance and non-judgment, Jessica’s teachings are heartfelt and conversational. Her teachings and meditations are off the cuff, fueled by her desire for you to feel like you are connecting intimately with a safe and trustworthy friend. She hopes you feel deeply supported and valued through her teachings and meditations, as well as encouraged to trust yourself to heal and grow in accordance with your own inner guidance. Jessica is founder of Stay with Yourself: The Practice of Being Who You Are, Where You Are. She loves finding presence and joy in the midst of life’s surprises and contradictions. Having spent most of her life struggling with severe anxiety, Jessica is a life-long student of self-compassion, non-judgment and acceptance.

10 Days

7.7k students

4.8 stars

16 min / day

Healing

English

Lesson 1

The Benefits of Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are an authentic transmission about yourself to other people. Boundaries help you feel cared for. They help you flourish and thrive. Boundaries bring joy, lightness, flow, and ease into your life. Boundaries are designed to help you expand while making peace with your limitations. With boundaries you are free to BE.

Lesson 2

Create Trust, Safety and Respect

When you practice healthy, compassionate boundaries, others feel respected by you because you mean what you say, and you say what you mean. Being honest about yourself is deeply compassionate and trust-building. Even if others are disappointed, they still feel respected and safe because you have treated them as capable. Think of someone you admire (real or fiction) for their honest, kind and trustworthy nature. Consider how you might learn from their example.

Lesson 3

People-Pleasing to Earn Self-Worth

You are valuable and worthy of love. You do not need to earn love and connection through DOing. You are enough, just as you are. When you drop the habit of people-pleasing you are choosing to find out you can be loved for who you are, not what you do. From this place, you are free to honor yourself and others without fear.

Lesson 4

Guilt, Shame and Obligation

You are worthy, valuable and deserving of respect and kindness even if others are disappointed or upset when you don’t do what they want you to do. Being forthright and honest about your limits without lying, making excuses or apologizing can cause fear and anxiety. Through love and compassion, you can stay the course. Remember, when others guilt, shame and manipulate you it’s about them, not you. You are not obligated to make others happy.

Lesson 5

Release Expectations

Release others from your expectations and hopes for them to be different. When you are able to accept others exactly as they are, you are free to decide for yourself what your limits are in your relationship with them without expectation for them to change. Don’t put your healing on hold because you’re waiting for someone else to do the work for you.

Lesson 6

Self-Care

You are a human BEing with limits. You need to be loved and cared for. Who better to do it than yourself? You know your deepest needs – what would replenish, revive and restore you – so you can enjoy your life with a sense of wellbeing? Self-care is monumentally important to practicing healthy and compassionate boundaries. You are valuable for you are, not for what you do. Taking care of yourself will help you feel less stressed, anxious and resentful.

Lesson 7

Simple Practices

Keep communication about your boundaries simple, kind and repetitive. Make room for others to feel disappointed and surprised at the changes you are making while continuing to honor your needs. Go slow and be gentle with yourself. This is new. Communicate your truth clearly and simply, and affirm for others how important they are to you through practicing compassionate boundaries.

Lesson 8

Learning to Say No

You are not mean, bad or rude for saying No. You are free to kindly and compassionately introduce No into your vocabulary without guilt or shame. No is a complete sentence and communicates your boundaries clearly and simply. When you say “no” to one thing, you are saying “yes” to something else. Practice saying No and discover all is well. You are well.

Lesson 9

Practice, Not Perfect

There’s no perfect way to practice boundaries. Have compassion for yourself and others as you explore this new way of BEing. Learn to listen to yourself and act according to your inner wisdom. You are a human BEing, not a human DOing. It takes time to change old patterns and behaviors. Let compassion guide you slowly and gently through the fear and anxiety.

Lesson 10

Freedom to Be Yourself

You are full of wonder, joy and delight. You are valuable and worthy of love. You are kind, compassionate and caring. You know your limits and knowing your limits creates freedom to be yourself, fully and completely in all you do. You are worth honoring and considering in EVERY decision you make. It’s the kindest most compassionate way. Boundaries support, create and sustain your freedom.

Ask your teacher

This course includes 155 community questions and 135 audio replies from Jessica Amos. The community classroom and teacher audio replies are only available via the app.

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Recent Reviews

Christine

February 13, 2026

So good! I will be coming back to this course. Thank you.🙏🏻

Bruno

December 2, 2025

Probably one of the best courses I’ve ever done here on Insight Timer. So well sequenced and full of insights. Deeply transformative, I’ll keep coming back to it.

Amanda

June 1, 2025

I have got much better at saying no as I have got older, but I still allowed people to make me feel guilty. No more! Thank you!

Karin

February 25, 2025

Great

Laura

January 7, 2025

Excellent and kind guidance. I feel better equipped to face the world. Thank you!

Jason

January 6, 2025

Wow, sometimes uncomfortable and just a great course. As a conditioned people pleaser, so many of these ideas seemed selfish to me...but now I understand many root causes for pent up resentment related to not feeling able to kindly requesting these boundaries. Not flattering and rough to admit, but this has all been great and fostered good reflection. Thanks!

brandy

November 4, 2024

This was a fabulous course for learning how to set and reinforce boundaries. Thank you so much. I know I'll be visiting this again.

Mariah

August 1, 2024

Wonderful course! Very helpful and practical suggestions

Candice

July 13, 2024

I absolutely loved this course. I looked up the course you suggested but it no.longer exists. Please could you do a more detailed course. This has been so helpful and probably the best information I have had regarding boundaries and i have read many books on this topic. Thank you so much Jessica

Stefan

July 4, 2024

Every self reflection is for good. I think making boundaries conscious is the way forward to a honest relationship with yourself and others. Thanks!

T.T.

July 3, 2024

Wow exactly what I needed. Thank you for being here on IT❤️

sarah

May 8, 2024

Amazing course. Relevant and extremely helpful.

Rose

April 17, 2024

Worthwhile

Rachael

March 14, 2024

Incredible course, learnt so much and the compassionate approach was so comforting and connected to my deeper wisdom.

Stacy

December 6, 2023

Thank you🙏❤️

Whitney

November 11, 2023

Jessica’s course was timely and one I will revisit. I appreciate her storytelling and suggestions for practice. I often get overwhelmed when thinking about how to have healthy boundaries because it feels like there’s so many things that have to change, but in this course I realized the ask is not about those things outside of me that I actually have no control over or obligation to, it’s about sitting with, and staying with myself. That wise one within. Freedom.

Elizabeth

October 16, 2023

Outstanding, helpful, practical, and implementable. Teacher was warm and compassionate herself, clearly speaking from a place of “I’ve been there and I understand.” She conveyed throughout a “You can do this!” mindset. I’ve marked this course as one I want to come back to often.

Jocelyne

October 7, 2023

This is an amazing and insightful course. It spoke to my soul and coincidentally happened as I was finishing brain spotting and IFS therapy. It’s a do again and I will be returning to it to help anchor self confidence and boundaries setting. Thank you for such an inspirational piece of work.

Debbie

September 13, 2023

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