Good Love: Self Work To Find Romance

In this course, we'll talk about the validity of wanting romantic love and some of the common blockages that may be holding you back from good, healthy love. We will look at shame, fear, past trauma, and the model your first family provided for you in thinking about what relationships are supposed to look like. We will also consider your intention when you think about what you want when you move into your next romantic relationship.

This meditation gives us an opportunity to honor our longing for love and consider our true intentions around it a little more deeply. We will also meet any fears or anxieties that may come up around this intention. We'll get curious about what each inner part of us has to say.

When we think about love, we know there is a little bit of luck or mystery to it. Am I looking for my soul mate or my twin flame? How do I know if I've found them? What if something energetic or spiritual is blocking me from love? How do I shift through that? We will discuss all these questions in a way that returns your choice back to you to allow you to move forward with the spiritual perspective in line as well.

In this ritual meditation, we will release any energetic blockages that are standing in the way of our search for good love and ask for help from a spiritual guide to move us forward in that journey. You may want to have a candle lit for this magic spell and a journal nearby to write down any reflections afterwards.

Attachment theory is a highly useful framework to help us look at our patterns in adult relationships. This applies to all our relationships, but our attachment styles and responses tend to be particularly triggered in romantic relationships. Let's learn what our style might be and how to work with it in a useful way.

I wanted to add a little bit more information for those of you who identify with disorganized attachment and/or being an adult who wants a relationship but has never had one. I think these demographics often get glossed over, but they are valid and not uncommon, and there are plenty of things we can do to help ourselves if we relate to these groups.

In this meditation, we will explore what happens in our bodies when we experience stress within our relationships. We may get a little bit more information about our attachment styles and how they have changed (or not) from our first caregivers. This meditation does require some engagement with family relationships and stress, so if that doesn't feel safe for you today, feel free to skip it or do it another time. We also end on a gentle stress relief exercise to let it go.

In this lesson, I share the communication skills and patterns I've found most useful when we are preparing for and building our new relationships. We talk about the value of vulnerability, the dangers of people pleasing, and using anger as a tool for intimacy.

This meditation works with the core emotion of anger and what it might be trying to tell us, especially about our needs and boundaries. We will sit with the experience of anger and listen to it so we can understand its messages and then choose what to do with those messages.

In this lesson, let's put together all the inner work we've done and think about the actions we can take to put ourselves in front of the people who might be a good fit for us. We'll explore "The List" practice and how to approach online dating and otherwise to give ourselves the best chance of finding that good love.

In this meditation we will take some time out to really reflect on what we want in relationship and what our goals and values are. Bring your journal and take the time to think clearly about the practical aspects you want and need in a potential partner. Feel free to take your time with this meditation, pausing as you need to, and come back to it when you want to reflect again. This is our last lesson, so don't forget to post questions and comments in the course page. I'd love to hear what you think! And all the best in your love journey.