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The Struggle Of Relationship Conflict
With Margo HelmanHeated conflict with important people can make us feel so distressed, not only during the argument but sometimes for days afterwards. We tend to believe that the other person's behaviour or the unresolved issue is the source of our misery. But though the other person's behaviour may be unacceptable, and the unresolved issue may be distressing, the cause of our misery is within us. Understand what the source of upset during and after heated arguments. See how it's what you are focused on that increases the pain you feel in difficult relationships. Learn about the importance of the intention or goal that you have during conflict, and how this determines how conflict affects you and your relationship. Shift your focus during conflict and bring healing to your relationship as well as to your life.
Discover what causes the most pain during and after conflicts in your most cherished relationships.
About this course
Heated conflict with important people can make us feel so distressed, not only during the argument but sometimes for days afterwards. We tend to believe that the other person's behaviour or the unresolved issue is the source of our misery. But though the other person's behaviour may be unacceptable, and the unresolved issue may be distressing, the cause of our misery is within us. Understand what the source of upset during and after heated arguments. See how it's what you are focused on that increases the pain you feel in difficult relationships. Learn about the importance of the intention or goal that you have during conflict, and how this determines how conflict affects you and your relationship. Shift your focus during conflict and bring healing to your relationship as well as to your life.
Meet your Teacher
Margo teaches how to bring mindfulness to fights and arguments in your couple or family. That’s where we truly need our most precious tools and wisdom. You can stop conflict from ruining your day and undermining your confidence. Choose your response, instead of being triggered into action. Bring healing to your relationships. Be peaceful or be fierce. Or both. It’s up to you, according to your values and goals. As a clinical social worker, and daily meditator, Margo often brings mindfulness principles to her therapy clients. One moment years ago, she suddenly noticed how pointless it felt to get up off the meditation cushion or yoga mat, walk into the room where her family was, and lose it! Because what’s the point of being mindful and wise on your cushion if those resources disappear when you need them most? Of course, there is a point any time we connect with our inner peace and the present moment. But your greatest opportunity and obligation for right action are in the painful moments of your precious relationships, where you can powerfully improve your life and the lives of your loved ones. Learn simple, doable practices for heated conflict, and what to do when everything goes badly. Stay connected to your clarity and intention, no matter how the other person is acting.