The Struggle Of Relationship Conflict - by Margo Helman

COURSE

The Struggle Of Relationship Conflict

With Margo Helman

Heated conflict with important people can make us feel so distressed, not only during the argument but sometimes for days afterwards. We tend to believe that the other person's behaviour or the unresolved issue is the source of our misery. But though the other person's behaviour may be unacceptable, and the unresolved issue may be distressing, the cause of our misery is within us. Understand what the source of upset during and after heated arguments. See how it's what you are focused on that increases the pain you feel in difficult relationships. Learn about the importance of the intention or goal that you have during conflict, and how this determines how conflict affects you and your relationship. Shift your focus during conflict and bring healing to your relationship as well as to your life.


Meet your Teacher

Margo teaches how to bring mindfulness to fights and arguments in your couple or family. That’s where we truly need our most precious tools and wisdom. You can stop conflict from ruining your day and undermining your confidence. Choose your response, instead of being triggered into action. Bring healing to your relationships. Be peaceful or be fierce. Or both. It’s up to you, according to your values and goals. As a clinical social worker, and daily meditator, Margo often brings mindfulness principles to her therapy clients. One moment years ago, she suddenly noticed how pointless it felt to get up off the meditation cushion or yoga mat, walk into the room where her family was, and lose it! Because what’s the point of being mindful and wise on your cushion if those resources disappear when you need them most? Of course, there is a point any time we connect with our inner peace and the present moment. But your greatest opportunity and obligation for right action are in the painful moments of your precious relationships, where you can powerfully improve your life and the lives of your loved ones. Learn simple, doable practices for heated conflict, and what to do when everything goes badly. Stay connected to your clarity and intention, no matter how the other person is acting.

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5 Days

92 students

5.0 stars

6 min / day

Anger

English


Lesson 1

The Conflict Within

The source of your misery is not the other person. In this lesson, learn what is the source of the destructive frustration and distress that often accompanies and outlasts conflict. Also in this lesson, important guidelines about the nature of the practice I'm teaching are provided.

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Lesson 2

The Impossible Goal

During a heated conflict, we expend enormous energy trying to accomplish what is impossible. We try to convince, to fix, to be heard, or to make the difficult feelings simply go away. These goals are a non-starter and only lead to more intense frustration and misery. In this lesson, you will learn to recognize these self-defeating patterns and see how they set you up to fail.

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Lesson 3

Self-Blame And Self-Shame

We're devastated by conflict, not because of the way the other person is treating us. Though their behaviour may be completely unacceptable, it's the way we treat ourselves during conflict that is the underlying source of our misery and the way conflict wreaks havoc on our entire lives. We feel disconnected from the person we believe we are, and that's what hurts the most. Underneath our fury at the other person is a hidden anger at ourselves.

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Lesson 4

Conflict Can Be The Deepest Practice Of Your Most Beloved Values

In this lesson learn how practicing mindfulness during conflict, for even one moment, can transform your experience of conflict, bring healing to your relationship and deeply strengthen your ability to bring your most beloved practices to every other area of your life. Because if you can do it there, just a little, you can do it anywhere.

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Lesson 5

The Most Important Compassion To Practice During Conflict

More important than noticing the humanity of the other during conflict is to prioritize self-compassion. Since self-blame and self-shame are at the root of the destructive misery of conflict, self-compassion is the most important practice.

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5.0 (22)

Recent Reviews

Philip

February 17, 2026

Extraordinary listen And learn!

Jude

February 12, 2026

Helpful concept and well-paced. Love your voice, it’s so rational and relaxed.

Sandra

December 17, 2025

As short as this course is, it was gem-packed with aha-moments and insights!

Heidi

October 18, 2025

What a little gem of a course. It was very affirming to my process over the last few years. One of the few courses on insight timer, I wish everyone could have access to. Learning how to deal with conflict is afoundational part of living a fulfilled life. Some of us start learning about it a bit later in life! I love the down to earth, compassionate, and adaptable feel of this course.

valerie

September 21, 2025

Margo’s voice is so soothing and kind. I resonated with her teaching and each lesson left me with something to consider.

Eve

September 21, 2025

Thank you for an excellent course

Arvin

September 19, 2025

Amazing Course.