How To Resolve Conflict Effectively

Humans are a social species, our connection to others is essential for our survival. Yet we so often find ourselves wrapped up in endless conflicts with the people we care about the most.

How do you navigate yourself and others safely out of these conflicts? How do you identify what is going on underneath the surface, and initiate a healthy way to communicate your feelings and needs?

In this six session course, you will learn how to become better at understanding your own and another persons needs, and in doing so, manage to move from conflict towards connection.

Leçon 1: How The Mind Creates Stories

This first session is about your own internal experience. How we construct a model of 'reality' in our mind hugely affects how we interact with others. And so the first step towards building better connection with someone else, is to honestly and openly reflect on how our own experience came about and was (re) constructed in our mind.

Leçon 2: How To Analyse Your Stories To Create Mental Calm And Clarity

In this session, you learn how to analyse your stories, and separate facts (observations), feelings (emotions), and thoughts (stories). This practice in honestly having a look at your inner experience will help you process difficult interactions or experiences, so you don't get stuck in a thought loop that seems never ending.

You can use this practice whenever you notice you are overwhelmed and there are certain negative stories coming online that are hijacking you and keep you stuck in overwhelm, distraction, and frustration.

Leçon 3: Identifying Your Needs

In this session, we take a closer look at your needs. Often, when we experience internal and external conflict, the conflict has to do with an unmet need. Identifying our own needs can be very useful in understanding what we really want from the other person, and communicate that in a kind, clear, and effective way.

Leçon 4: The 3 Types Of Conflict And Vulnerability

In this session, we discuss the three types of conflict, we discuss the importance of honesty (being aware of your own internal conflict and holding it with kindness and compassion), and we learn that vulnerability (allowing another to see our imperfections) is key to healthy conflict resolution.

Leçon 5: Creating A Safe Space, And The Art Of Listening

There is so much to listening. The key to conflict resolution is to learn how to truly listen. To listen in order to understand the other truly, and make them feel like you want to understand them.

This may seem easy. You just shut up and take it all in. But there are some essential behaviors you can use to make this process run more smoothly.

Leçon 6: How To Resolve Your Next Conflict

In this final session, you will create a strategy around resolving an important conflict. You will put everything you have learned into practice, and you will apply it in this journal practice. Together,m we will write out all the steps you will take in order to safely and empathically share your internal experience with the other person, and hold space for the other person to do the same.

Reviews

Fantastic, thank you Inge for your perfect delivery. The beauty of class is that I can listen over and over again to gain better knowledge of how to deal with conflicts internal and external. 🙏