Self Affirmation - For When You Don't Feel Appreciated.

Sometimes we do kind things for others that go unnoticed and unappreciated, so this is an affirmation audio journey to acknowledge and appreciate yourself when others don't. Sometimes it isn't other's afffirmation that you really need, but affirmation from yourself.

Transcript

Welcome. Welcome to Self Healing Mondays. How are you my fellow traveller? How are you doing today on this crazy journey called life? However you're doing, Whatever you're feeling, I'm genuinely happy that you're here. I'm genuinely happy that you've given yourself this time. This is a safe place for you to relax, To slow down, To connect to yourself and to heal. And in order to do that, You need to let go of everything else, Just for a little while. Just for the next hour. Let go of everything. Let go of work. Let go of chores. Let go of lists of things to do. Let go of doing more, Being more, Getting more. Let go of pressures and all responsibilities. Just for now. Just for this time with me. So you can fully recharge your battery and nourish your soul. If you haven't already closed your eyes, Then I invite you to do so now. And to start, We're going to take some long deep breaths together. Breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth with a big, Long, Releasing sigh. So let's begin. Breathe in deeply through your nose, The stillness of this present moment that is all and only about you. And breathe out of your mouth, Releasing everything else with a deep, Satisfying sigh. And again, A deep breath in through the nose and breathe out all racing thoughts and responsibilities. And one more time, A deep breath in through the nose and a deep, Long sigh out letting go of everything. This is your time. This is your time to slow down. This is your time to let go. This is your time to simply be. Today's affirmation audio journey is about affirmation. The definition of affirmation is a statement intended to provide encouragement and emotional support. And we all need encouragement and emotional support. We all need to feel supported, Acknowledged, Encouraged, Seen and appreciated. We all need to be affirmed. Our hearts yearn to know that we are seen, That the things we do are noticed. But sadly, We don't always receive the affirmation that we long for. Sometimes we do so much, We try so hard, We give so much of ourselves and it goes unnoticed and unappreciated. And that hurts. That hurts our hearts. Because we deserve recognition. We deserve thanks and appreciation for the things that we do. But here's a secret that you might not know. The affirmation that you're craving doesn't have to come from somebody else. The affirmation that you're craving can be given to you by you. You can give yourself the acknowledgement and appreciation that you need. You can give yourself exactly what you need. Your heart longs for affirmation. But most of all, Your heart longs to be affirmed by you. Your heart wants to know if you see all the amazing things that you do. Your heart wants to know if you notice how hard you're trying. Your heart wants to be seen and acknowledged by you. So let me ask you, When was the last time that you affirmed yourself? When was the last time you gave yourself the affirmation you so long for? Have you ever affirmed yourself? Have you ever said to yourself, I see you. I see the good and kind things that you do and I'm so proud of you. Because you should affirm yourself every day. Because you are so worthy of hearing affirmation from yourself. I know how proud I am of you. But it would mean even more to your heart to hear it from yourself instead of somebody else. Have you ever considered that the affirmation you so deeply long for is actually self-affirmation? That the affirmation you really need can come from you? That's what we're going to explore in this affirmation audio journey. We're going to affirm ourselves together. So I invite you now to try and recall a moment when you did something kind and thoughtful for someone else that went unnoticed. Perhaps it was something you did for your kids, For your partner, A colleague at work, A close friend or even a perfect stranger. Maybe there's someone in your life that takes you for granted all the time. Maybe you did extra hours at work and your boss didn't even notice. Maybe you opened the door for a stranger and they ignored you completely without even saying thank you. It doesn't matter what the moment was for you. What matters is how it made you feel. It's about tapping into the feelings of being unnoticed and unappreciated. So take a moment now and remember a moment when you felt unseen, Unheard, Unnoticed or unappreciated by somebody else. Notice where you feel that discomfort in your body. Perhaps it's an empty hollow feeling in your stomach. Perhaps it's a pain in your heart or a tightness in your chest. I know for some of us it's very hard to connect to our feelings, Let alone connect to the parts of our body where we feel those feelings. So just take your time. Try to connect to that moment when someone took you for granted. When someone didn't notice your kindness, Your love or your generosity. How did that make you feel? Hurt? Angry? Sad? Resentful? Disappointed? Frustrated? Alone? There are no wrong or right feelings here. You are allowed to feel any and all feelings. So how does it make you feel when you aren't seen? I invite you now to put one or both of your hands on your heart. The physical act of placing your hand on your heart is a very beautiful and powerful way to connect yourself. To tell yourself that you care about you. It may feel strange and uncomfortable if you haven't put your hand on your heart in this way before. Maybe you're not used to showing yourself you care. But maybe care is exactly what your heart needs to feel from you when the things you do go unnoticed by other people. So now we're going to show ourselves that we care. So with your hand or both of your hands on your heart, I'd like you to simply repeat the following affirmations after me, Out loud or in your head. It may feel uncomfortable because learning to heal ourselves can feel uncomfortable. Saying kind and loving things to ourselves when we're not used to can feel uncomfortable. Feeling things out of our comfort zone feels uncomfortable. But there can be great healing in the discomfort. So with hands on your heart, Connect to that feeling of being unappreciated and unnoticed. Whatever the feelings are for you, Tap into those emotions and repeat after me. I see you. Maybe they didn't see you. But I see you. Maybe they didn't appreciate what you did, But I do. I appreciate what you did and I appreciate you. I notice the kind and thoughtful things that you do and I love you for it. And I'm sorry if other people don't always notice. But I want you to know that I always notice. And I'm sorry you didn't receive the affirmation you deserve. I'm sorry they don't see you for all that you do. But I see you for all that you do. I see you. I notice your kindness and your love. I see how hard you try. I see how much you love. I acknowledge the kind and loving things that you do. I am so proud of you. I want you to say that line again, But this time with your name at the end of the sentence. I am so proud of you. I am so proud of who you are, Of how far you've come and of how hard you were trying. How does that feel? How does it feel in your body, In your heart, In your soul when you affirm yourself? Is the pain of being unnoticed still there in your body? Maybe it is. Maybe it is but not so much. Or maybe the pain of being unnoticed has evaporated. There's no right or wrong here. Just be with what is. Try not to resent the people who don't appreciate you. Maybe they find it hard to appreciate you because they find it so impossibly hard to appreciate anything about themselves. Maybe their lack of affirmation comes from a pure place, A pain place, A wound deep inside of them that prevents them from seeing the beauty of you and all that you do. But try and have faith in the belief that if they could appreciate and affirm you the way you need them to, They would. Maybe they are incapable. Maybe they will never be able to affirm you the way you need them to. But just because they can't give you the affirmation you need, Doesn't mean you can't give yourself the affirmation you need. Maybe, Just maybe, From now on, Whenever you make a kind gesture, Do a loving thing or say something to uplift another person, Maybe you can place your hand on your heart and tell yourself it didn't go unnoticed. Even if that person didn't notice, You can still affirm to yourself that you did. If you hold the door open for a stranger and they ignore you, Place your hand on your heart and tell yourself, I'm proud of what you did. It was a beautiful, Kind and thoughtful gesture whether they noticed it or not. And if you hold the door open for a stranger and they smile and say thank you, You can still place your hand on your heart and say, Well done, You just made someone smile, You just brought a little bit of joy to someone else's life even if it was just for a brief moment. You can choose to notice and affirm all the kind things that you do. First and foremost, You can choose to love and affirm yourself whether anyone else does or doesn't because you are the most important person in your life and your feelings matter most to you. So from now on, You affirm yourself all the time. Provide yourself with the encouragement and the emotional support that you need and watch how beautiful your life will become.

Reviews

Wonderful meditation. Peaceful and encouraging. ❤️🙏🏻

Thank you! This brought me to tears.

I’ve spent a lifetime making people, including total strangers, feel happy. People have told me, “Give yourself a minute and you can make someone’s day. But in the years you’ve lived with yourself, you’ve never thought about making yourself feel happy.” And that’s the truth. I’ve always had trouble with self affirmations because they’ve always sounded self centered and somewhat unconvincing. I was and am still having a choking sensation in my throat from the meditation. This was a great meditation…you brought up excellent points, especially about that people are just unable to affirm others because they lack the ability to do so. Thanks very much!

Thank you for this beautiful talk and affirmation. It is just what I needed to hear at a time when I needed to hear it. 🙏

This came at a time when I needed it the most. Thank you so much 😢❤️