Dr. Megan Kirk Chang

What really stayed with me is the powerful idea that someone else's disappointment is not an emergency. I live with a family dynamic which is sustained by my belief that if I don't try and fix things then everything will collapse. With the help of therapy I am beginning to challenge that view.

Thank you. I needed this as Thanksgiving approaches. This year I honour my boundaries 🙏

I needed this today and I know I will need to remind myself often of the good advice that was given here. I thank you and I will return ❣️ I returned to this today … “not disappointing but healing “ so important! Thank you for reminding me ❣️

Thank you for sharing your experience. I have CPTSD and although am in regular theropy your podcasts lets me absorb the information by far easier to stay on this healing journey. Being able to create an comfortable environment at home (safe place) allows my mind to focus and body to fully relax. Understanding what is happening in my mind and body is key to nurturing healthy outcomes. 🦋

Well, this was perfect timing. I have spent so much of my life trying to make everybody else comfortable and feel better just to end up making mistakes, not doing or being "enough" or when I simply cannot do something being viewed as uncaring or toxic. It has taken such an emotional toll on me that some days I don't even know what I truly want for myself because there's nobody else that it's going to impact. I feel I need to know that what I'm doing is going to be approved or accepted or benefit somebody else and I've really lost track of me. When you said not to abandon yourself, I feel like I've done that for most of my life. Now that I'm trying to get back to myself, this way of thinking, you saying that it's okay to disappoint somebody else as long as I'm not abandoning myself, that disappointment is ok if it's not hurtful was so very helpful to hear.

Thank you. Needed to remember that grief has no hierarchy

I greatly appreciated the delineation of different types if grief that a person can experience. Thank you for sharing these insights. 😊

Hard subject to acknowledge but it is needed so you can move on. Sometimes a loss can occur that is seen and felt by others as well as yourself but then other losses come up to the surface while grieving. 🙏🏻