A Guided Practice For Letting Go & Release The Weight

Knowing why you are holding on is one thing. Actually releasing it is something else entirely. This track goes to the layer most people never reach: the identity underneath the loss. The version of yourself that existed inside the relationship, the role, the dream, the life you had planned. That is what you are really holding on to. And that is what this guided reflection is designed to help you find and begin to release. You will come away with more than awareness, you will have a way to work with the pattern in real time, the next time the pull to hold on shows up. This is for the person who has done enough reading and is ready to actually feel the work. For the full course, find How To Let Go: A Practical Guide to Releasing What Holds You Back on my profile.

Transcript

I want to tell you about the moment I realized I had not actually let go of something that I thought I had moved on from. My name is Rianna and in this guided practice for letting go, I want to share a story. It was not a dramatic moment. It was a Tuesday. Something small happened. A song, A street, I cannot even remember exactly what, And it hit me with a kind of freshness that felt completely unfair. Because months had passed. I had done the work, Or what I thought was the work. I had processed it. I talked about it. I understood it. And there it was again. As present as the day that it happened. My first response was frustration. I thought I was back at the start, But you know I was not. I was just meeting a deeper layer. And that is how letting go actually works. And nobody tells you this. It is not a single moment of release, If only. That would be so lovely. No, It is a series of them, And each one going a little further than the last one. And the one that feels like going backwards are often the ones that take you furthest forward the most. And what I had been doing, I realized, Was letting go of the story of the thing, The narrative, The version I told myself and other people. But I had not let go of the identity. I had not let go of the version of me that existed in that context, That relationship, That life I had been building. I had released the event, But I had not released who I was inside of it. That's the layer most people never reach. And it's actually the one that matters the most. This is what I mean. When you lose something significant, A relationship, A job, A friendship, A dream, A version of your future, You do not just lose the thing. You lose the identity that lived alongside it. Who you were to that person. Who you were in that role. The story your life was telling when that thing was in it. And your mind holds on to that identity long after the circumstances have changed. Because identity is how we know who we are. And losing it feels like losing yourself. So the holding on is not really about the thing. It's about you. About not knowing who you are without it. I want to guide you through something now. It's a short practice. You do not need to prepare anything. Just try to be as honest as possible with yourself. Bring to mind what you're carrying right now. The thing that you are here to release. The thing that made you listen to this in the first place. And try to be as specific as possible. Not the whole story, Just the thing itself. And then I want to ask you, Who were you when this thing was intact? When it was still there? Not who you were as a full person, But who were you in relation to this specific thing? What role did you play? What did it make you? Loved? Valued? Capable? Purposeful? Secure? Whatever it gave you a sense of. Try to name that. And sit with that for a moment. And then ask, What do you believe about yourself now that this thing is gone, Or changed, Or not what it was? What is the story your mind is running about, Who you are without it? You know, That story, That is what you're actually holding on to, Not the event. It's the meaning the event made about you. And here's the truth. That meaning is not fixed. It was a story you built in a particular context. But now the context has changed. The story doesn't have to come with you. You get to decide what this means about you. You get to decide what kind of person moves through this kind of loss. You get to write that part. Take a breath. And complete this sentence slowly in your own time. I am someone who has been through this, And I'm still. . . Let whatever comes, Come. Do not try to change it. Not judge it. Just finish that sentence. I am someone who has been through this, And I am still. . . That's the beginning of the identity on the other side. Not the absence of what you lost. Something new that you're building from this point forward. Now here's your challenge. Write down the story you've been running about what this loss means about you. And then write the story you choose instead. So not the toxic positivity rewrite, Okay? I don't like that stuff. Really a true honest one. The one that makes you someone who survived this and kept going. And not a version of like everything happens for a reason and blah blah blah. That kind of stuff. Sorry, I'm not good with that. It just bothered me when people say that. Because our loss is true, Right? And it's painful and it's hard. And now it's the real work of letting that go. Not diminishing it, Not forgetting it. Not making it a lesson or something. Just let it be. And then write the story you choose instead. If you want to understand this more deeply, The full process, The practical tools, What this looks like step by step, You can find my course, How to Let Go, A Practical Guide to Releasing What Holds You Back, In my profile. And that's where we're going to do the rest of the work. Hope to see you there.