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How To Accept What You Cannot Change | Day 7/7

by Rianna Hijlkema

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Every transition forces you to let go of the familiar and face the future with a feeling of vulnerability and uncertainty. In this series, you'll be introduced to the A.C.C.E.P.T. Model™ and learn 6 strategies to deal with a reality that you cannot change.

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Transcript

In this series we talked about the six steps of the Accept Model.

Acknowledge the situation,

Control the controllable,

Creating a calming routine,

Expectations with compassion,

Positive feelings before thoughts.

Tribes improve your life.

And if you have to remember one thing from this series,

Know that the moment you can accept your transitions,

You can let go of the old paths and you can open up for the possibilities of the new.

And you know all those struggles are shaping you in the person you are today.

Let me share a short story by Paulo Coello.

A man spent hours watching a butterfly struggling to emerge from its cocoon.

It managed to make a small hole,

But its body was too large to get through it.

And after a long struggle,

It appeared to be exhausted and remained absolutely still.

The man decided to help the butterfly and with a pair of scissors he cut open the cocoon,

Thus releasing the butterfly.

However,

The butterfly's body was very small and wrinkled and its wings were all crumpled.

The man continued to watch,

Hoping that at any moment the butterfly would open its wings and fly away.

But nothing happened.

In fact,

The butterfly spent the rest of its brief life dragging around its shrunken body and shriveled wings,

Incapable of flying.

What the man,

Out of kindness and his eagerness to help,

Had failed to understand,

Was that the tight cocoon and the efforts that the butterfly had to make in order to squeeze out of that tiny hole,

Were nature's way of training the butterfly and of strengthening its wings.

Sometimes a little extra effort is precisely what prepares us for the next obstacle to be faced.

So let go of resistance and step into acceptance.

Thank you.

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Rianna HijlkemaAntigua Guatemala, Guatemala

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June 23, 2025

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