Learn How To Become A Great Father - by Felix Schaefer

COURSE

Learn How To Become A Great Father

With Felix Schaefer

In this course you will find eight different topics around fatherhood that will be analysed and discussed for you. The course is for soon to be fathers; fathers of young babies; and anyone interested in the role of the father in modern society. This course is not about how to deal with children, but how a father can grow personally. Frank Pittman said it beautifully when he wrote “The guys who fear becoming fathers don't understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man. The end product of child raising is not the child but the parent." This course is designed to be a starting point for this journey.

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Meet your Teacher

Felix Schaefer
Berlin, Germany

Felix Schaefer graduated from “Ludwig-Frank Gymnasium” in Mannheim, Germany in 2003. Shortly after, he moved to Auckland, New Zealand. There, he completed a “Diploma in Ayurvedic Lifestyle Management” and a “Bachelor in Performing Arts”. Ayurveda sparked his interest in health and the connection of the body and mind. He coaches individual clients, teaches health and communication and works in the film industry. In his time in New Zealand he also discovered a passion for dance, in particular contemporary style. He tries to constantly challenge himself to find new combinations for mind and movement patterns. Felix currently works as a freelancer in Berlin, Porto, Bali and Auckland.

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6 Days

183 students

4.8 stars

8 min / day

Connection

English

Lesson 1

The Mother Of Your Child

The first topic of this course around becoming a father is the mother of your child. Way before your child is born your journey as a father begins. Your journey begins when three words have been spoken, and these three words are “I am pregnant”. No matter what you feel in this second, it is not as important as you think it might be. The way you feel in that moment is a reflection of your mental state of that very moment, it is not a reflection of your capacity of being a father. No matter who you are, you have the capacity to be a great father.

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Lesson 2

Understand The Value Of Time

Now we arrived at the next topic around becoming a father which is time. Let me start this section with a quote by Theodore Roosevelt. “There are many kinds of success in life worth having. It is exceedingly interesting and attractive to be a successful business man, or railway man, or farmer, or a successful lawyer or doctor; or a writer, or a President, or a ranchman, or the colonel of a fighting regiment, or to kill grizzly bears and lions. But for unflagging interest and enjoyment, a household of children, if things go reasonably well, certainly makes all other forms of success and achievement lose their importance by comparison.”

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Lesson 3

Become A Tree

Our next topic around fatherhood is to be a tree. Often the metaphor of being the rock is used when talking about fatherhood, but I think a tree is much more fitting. Let me explain what I mean by being a tree. In order to be a great father you need to be able to tap into your masculinity. If asked of you, you need to be able to be a guidand. You need to be able to offer strength and certainty without dominance. You need to be able to be strict without being controlling. You need to be able to be firm without being harsh. You need to be able to make the right decisions, not the easy ones. You need to be strong, but flexible, you need to be a tree.

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Lesson 4

Be a Cuddle-Bear

Now that we have looked at the masculine strength that is required of a father, let us also look at the softness that is required. Let us talk about being a cuddle bear for your child. Cuddling is extremely important for a long list of reasons, and it is often something that is hard to do for lots of men. There is often a misconception that being soft with your child makes you appear weak. I don’t think that is true, I think being soft with your child is extremely important. I would argue that a father who is in touch with his masculine side, with his strength, can allow himself to be soft and cuddly whenever needed

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Lesson 5

Health and Trust

Health You might have been able to get by with your level of health so far, but it might not be enough once a baby is with you. Don’t get me wrong, a baby will give you energy, joy and excitement that you can use, but your baby will also have demands beyond the so far experienced capacities. Your baby needs your time and energy. And if you are already just getting by with your level of health, then it is time to go on a health journey. Trust It is maybe the biggest topic of fatherhood. The importance of trusting yourself, or even more so trusting your instincts. I truly believe that your instincts are more important than any information in any book you read, any podcast you listen to, any doctor's advice, any study you read, any experts opinions. When it comes to your child, your instincts are a million times more valuable than the words I speak right now. I truly believe this, and I truly believe that deep down you know best for your child.

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Lesson 6

Be An Inspiration And Final Thoughts

Inspire So, the last topic around fatherhood is to inspire. I will attempt to explain why it is so important to be an inspiration to your child. Charles Kettering said “Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.” So when I talk about inspiration, I definitely do not mean inspire him with what you say to him or her. Your words to your child are important, but they do not in any way inspire your child. It is your behavior that inspires your child. It is your actions that inspire your child. Final Thoughts Now we have arrived at the final part of this talk and as mentioned at the very beginning I never wanted to give warnings, and also not really specific tips. As already mentioned before, everyone's journey as a father is different and unique, and what might work for me, does not have to work for you. John Wilmot wrote "Before I got married, I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories."

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4.8 (11)

Recent Reviews

Kalvin

October 7, 2024

As a soon-to-be first time father, this course helped preserve the calmness that’s already within. Excited as can be, I’m even more confident and curious about this next journey and am grateful to have come across these words and perspectives.

Falk

April 24, 2024

Sehr angenehm und inspirierend. Die Stimme hat mich an Allen Watts erinnert und auch der philosophische Ansatz. Vielen Dank für die beruhigende Worte. Ich fühle mich bestärkt auf meinem Weg, ein Vater zu werden. Gerne mehr davon.

Michael

April 21, 2024

Beautiful!

Joe

January 21, 2024

Absolutely loved this course/podcast. Great inspiration from a great father

Sudarshan

January 9, 2024

I’m a dad to older teenagers, yet this course has been so inspiring and educational. Thank you 🙏🏻

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