10 Secrets Of Getting To Know Yourself Well - by Dr Graham Dexter

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10 Secrets Of Getting To Know Yourself Well

With Dr Graham Dexter

In this course, you will learn principles, skills, and processes that are key resources for a mindful and satisfying life. These skills and processes not only enable you to be more effective and content, but they also enable you to share your compassion for others in supportive and effective ways. These are skills that lead to success in your personal terms. They are developed from evidence-based practice and purposeful guidelines. To give counsel is to become a mindful and attentive listener and problem solver, both for yourself and others. In these ten simple lessons, you will learn quickly and easily the basic skills of caring for yourself and those around you that you love, in a systematic and powerful way. Drawing on a lifetime of personal experience in the helping process, Graham will gently guide you to a more thorough and enabling understanding of yourself. You will learn through tutor input, guided reflection, and examples from personal cases, how to more easily solve problems and develop opportunities in everyday life. Utilizing your own resources you will study your thoughts and emotions and expand your capabilities to live your authentic self. A transformative course for a better life.

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Meet your Teacher

Dr Graham Dexter
Lagos, Portugal

Dr Graham Dexter has spent his whole life as a skilled helper. He is a qualified mental health nurse, general nurse, teacher of nurses, counselor, coach, and therapist. Graham is known for sharing his wisdom through his own unique style. He is an engaging tutor and is passionate about supporting people to make their best lives. He teaches now from a position of semi-retirement, reflecting on the most valuable learning from his life and continuing to follow his calling to help others. Graham gained his Masters in Education and Ph.D. in Counselling Psychology as a mature student with extensive experience working within the field of mental health and well-being. He is a qualified trainer in Neuro Linguistics and has studied and practised Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction meditation techniques. He is well-published in his field. One of Graham's key skills is to make the complicated simple, using examples and guided reflection to relate theory to practice. The course is interactive, entertaining, a deep-reaching learning event.

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10 Days

4.2k students

4.9 stars

8 min / day

Clarity

English

Lesson 1

The Basic Skills of Listening: Julia's story

Effective listening is the foundation of intentional and transformative practice, whether listening to yourself or others. How often do you feel full, and attentively listened to, and what gets in the way of you sometimes affording this luxury to others? In this session, using the story of Julia as an example, we will explore the ethos and impact of attentive careful listening. We will hone up on the importance of listening with the intention to the meaning behind the words, and the emotions behind the experience. The session will end with a guided reflective practice.

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Lesson 2

Finding the Leverage

When great listening has taken place, it helps us to knit together the connections between thought, feeling, and action. In this session, you will continue the process by exploring how to choose the best point of leverage to begin to move forward, by identifying key values, and you will begin to map the direction of change. The session will begin with a short talk woven around the story of Roger and will move to an interactive exercise for you to identify your priorities. It will end with a short affirmation to calm and soothe overwhelm.

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Lesson 3

Cause and Effects: Challenging Assumptions

Cause and Effect: Challenging assumptions Often when we are not feeling at our best, when there are problems to be moved through, we fall into unhelpful traps. We may forget to see where our agency lies, or we might be blinkered by the problems so that we cannot access our strengths and resources. In this session, you will learn ways to step into the ownership of your issues, access your strengths and resources, and develop a more deeply empathic understanding of the self. You will learn through tutor input and the story of James, and the session will end with an affirming reflection on your strengths and talents.

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Lesson 4

Waving the Magic Wand

In this session, you will explore ways of visioning your future wants, aligned to your values and matching to the ecology of your life. One of the key secrets of mindfully creating a successful future is to distinguish between what is a valued outcome, and what is a means of getting there – a strategy. When you are able to move fluently between these two, you will open a treasure trove of means to get you to where you want to be. This session will begin with tutor input and will finish with a guided reflection to access your valued goals.

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Lesson 5

'Values and Priorities'.

Our intrinsic values form the very essence of our being, and we tweak our external values along the way. They are often influenced by our lived experience and perspectives. In this session, through tutor input and invitation to actively participate, you will learn how to be very clear about your values, and relate them to experiential rehearsal. The session will be illustrated through a series of questions which reveal our deeper values. and will end with guided reflection at different levels of your thought processors.

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Lesson 6

Behavioural Goals and Rich Pictures

In this lesson we will explore more explicit descriptions of your future. Putting flesh on the bones of the abstract ideas for your future. In this lesson, using prompts, Frank has to think carefully about a more realistic description of his future if it was to be both realistic and ideal. What specifically do you want to be doing, thinking, feeling. Who do you want to be with and without. Explore your preferred future in detail, without the constraint of having to find strategies to fulfill it.

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Lesson 7

Being Careful what you Wish For

Many people jump ahead with plans before fully assessing the possible costs and consequences not only to themselves, also to valued others. In this session, you will learn a short and focused method on how to be really thorough in your forward planning, to create a truly valued outcome. The principles will be illustrated through the story of Angela's quest for freedom. We will finish with a guided practice to help you set a truly valued and well considered outcome that is important for you.

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Lesson 8

How Many Ways? Lateral Thinking for Moving Forward

Have you ever noticed how sometimes you create a way forward and for some reason, it just doesn't get completed. In this session, you will explore how to identify multiple routes which can lead to your outcome so that there is room for flexibility and you are ready if you find that there are limits to the 'only one way' mode of thinking You will learn here about the need for plurality, and ways of discovering and rediscovering hidden resources. The session will be illustrated through Margaret's story of how she creatively found unexpected ways to fulfill her dreams. Your take away will be a set of prompts and questions which will prove invaluable when you are working through your personal issues and opportunities.

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Lesson 9

Detailed Planning

Over the last sessions, you will have identified the issues and themes that are important to you and explored a means of working with them that leads you to valued outcomes, and to have discovered multiple resources which will help you to reach them. In this session, having identified so many resources, now is the time to organise them, through tutor input about the steps to follow and a sequence to lay them out in. The session will be illustrated through Roger and Charlie's story, noticing the plan that she first had became much more robust and set to succeed using the suggested method. The session will end with a guided reflection to explore the method in your own life.

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Lesson 10

Reviewing The Whole Model

You have now followed a model and a set of processes that will be effective for self-counsel at any time. In this final session, we will review the learnings and they will be mapped out in terms of three easy stages, and three easy questions. You will jog your memory on the key principles to remember, and the session will end with some final affirmations. You will then be taking with you a simple yet invaluable means to be your own counselor for life.

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Recent Reviews

Brian

February 10, 2026

Very Good, thank you!

Sue

September 21, 2025

Simple yet effective.

Adi

September 13, 2025

Thoughtful steps and actions

Denise

June 15, 2025

Excellent course on getting to know myself. In the future I plan to repeat this course. Thank you 🙏

Tety

June 1, 2025

Amazing! I absolutely love it. I will treasure it and repeat, so I can live it. Thank you so much!🙏🏻

Dani

May 23, 2025

Excellent course! Will come back to it

Roger

May 3, 2025

Simple,practical and actionable advice.

Bettina

February 24, 2025

🙏Thank you for this course!

Omar

February 10, 2025

Thank you 🤩 for the great course. Very helpful

Cindy

January 27, 2025

This was very helpful and insightful and easy! Blessings of gratitude and Abundance for this course and the resources that I’ve gained and the insights I’ve gotten about me🙏

Jello

January 18, 2025

Insightful & thought provoking. Practical exercises & tips. Loved the affirmations at the end. Definitely will go over it again

Courtney

December 29, 2024

Thank you 🙏 I will listen again and again!

Wendy

December 28, 2024

Simple and rich course. Practical. Useful. His voice is engaging.

Clare

December 15, 2024

I’ve really enjoyed this course and will repeat it again. It provides you with the space to feel your emotions and look at different ways to open up to other possibilities

Stacy

December 11, 2024

Wonderful! Thank you!

Yvette

July 24, 2024

Dr Dexter please make more courses! This was brilliant. I will make sure to return to this course as it gave me so much insight. Loved the examples given, the soothing voice, and the srructure of the course. Thank you

Daphne

March 21, 2024

Thank you. You make it sound so simple. Maybe it is - there's a lovely thought! Perhaps I will repeat the course and see where it takes me.

Teresa

February 16, 2024

Dear Dr. Dexter, I am grateful for the content and presentation of these important self encouragement and communication skills. I appreciate your tender presence, and I will continue to practice. Sending every good wish for your wellbeing and happiness. 🌻

Stephanie

January 4, 2024

This is extraordinary and so useful! It was so good, I would love to have a part 2 with even more :) I really learned a lot, and look forward to repeating the course for deeper insight and practice. With much gratitude!🦋💫

Jude

December 25, 2023

Great teaching style. Thank you.

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