Droplet of Wisdom 6

In this droplet a true story is told. The mind is a great asset when used thoughtfully, and when it isn't its sometimes really good for someone close to tell us a hurtful truth. Pain can often be not only physical, but transcend to our psychy. This short anecdote may prove useful to those of us who want to substitute positivity for pain.

Transcript

Hi,

I'm Graham Dexter with a short droplet of wisdom.

I call it,

Notice your thoughts and curb your tongue,

Then see what needs to change.

When you get up in the morning,

What's in your head?

A jolly tune?

A loving message?

A smile?

A grimace?

A groan?

So let me tell you a story.

Many years ago I had a neck injury and for two years I suffered and was unable to work efficiently.

I woke up each morning and spent the first hour medicating and moaning and sharing my misery with anyone I could.

Fortunately my long suffering partner had just about had enough.

She asked me if there was anything she could do that she hadn't already tried or done.

I answered truthfully that I couldn't think of anything.

I verbally revisited all the professional help that she had arranged for me.

The MRI scans,

The neurosurgeon,

The hypnotherapist,

The chiropractor,

The reiki practitioner,

The medical herbalist and the acupuncturist.

Well then,

She said,

Does the moaning and the vocalisation of your pain in any way seem to help you?

I thought about it and concluded that it really didn't.

Well,

It's hurting me,

She said.

I hate to see you in pain and I feel so helpless.

Do you think you could be a little less vocal please,

To help me?

Well I felt outraged.

I felt betrayed.

I felt unloved,

Let down.

For days I mauled over what she'd said.

I vowed to never moan or groan,

Wince,

Grimace or in any way share my pain with her again.

Then eventually I realised how brave and honest she'd been.

I began to realise how selfish I had been.

As I disciplined myself to avoid thinking about my pain,

And when I did,

I started to compose this mantra.

It's only an aversive sensation.

Maybe I can control it.

It's of my own making in my head.

I can tell my brain to stop.

Stop those messages.

Stop those sensations.

I told my brain I'm aware of the injury.

I just need less alerting.

Many weeks later I awoke one morning and noticed that my pain had virtually disappeared.

I returned to work.

I haven't looked back.

As I get older I now have aversive sensations in my knees,

In my back,

In my hips.

I shall resume my mantra when all the professional and therapeutic investigations are complete.

I will take whatever treatment is offered.

I'm not stupid,

But I have definitely stopped moaning.

Thanks to my brave and loving partner.

My message to you is to put in your head what you really want there and cast out the rest.

And thanks you for listening to this droplet of wisdom.

Reviews

A really meaningful droplet for me, told in such a lovely way! Thank you.

This meditation is helping me to be curious about the messages in my brain, the messages I tell myself, and how my expressions affect those around me. Perhaps I have more agency than I think I do. Thank you for sharing your experience.

You know, I have heard this before yet the first thing I did this morning was to rummage through in my head what I had to do too say instead of greeting myself “ Good morning, it’s going to be a great day!” “ I am excited to see what happens today, who I meet and what I learn!” I’ve decided this is what I’m going to start saying to myself every morning. Thank you for the reminder that what we think does make difference.

Wisdom indeed. Thank you. It seems so easy to get into these loops of negativity and hoping that something from the outside will just make it all better and make it go away. I'm hoping that some sort of blanket will come down from God, come over me and take all the pain away. Both psychic and bodily. But that never seems to be the case. I wish I could be better at disciplining my mind. To learn new tricks on how to be in the world more comfortably. It seems like the bad patterns are grooved into my brain, like concrete tunnels or roadways. I would love to know the trick to always looking on the bright side, without even having to think about it.

Thank you for this very helpful meditation Graham, namaste 🙏🏾☀️

exactly whst was needed. thankyou for yet another sparkling droplet.

Love it. Maybe that is my cure for procrastination… put in my head what I really want there … and just STOP procrastinating! Many thanks 🙏

I appreciate your droplets and feel the loving kindness in your relationship 🕊

I LOVE your droplets of wisdom!! Thank you, Thank you ❤️

Thank you for sharing your experience and insight. 💙✨💙

Brilliant sharing of the power we forget we have to heal. Thank you!🙏🏼

Excellent! I have tried this advice through the years and it has usually worked for me. Thank you, again.