Droplet Of Wisdom No 1

I can't be pretentious enough to say this is powerful advanced wisdom or some kind of philosophically and impactful brilliance from the Universe. I can only claim it is a bit of common sense that has occurred to me and I thought it good enough to share with you. I call it a droplet because that's all it is. It's a true story with a moral that may appeal to and amuse the listener. I sincerely hope you enjoy it. If you don't it's only 3 minutes and it will soon pass.

Transcript

A droplet of wisdom.

Hi,

I'm Graham Dexter and I'm going to send out a few of these droplets when they occur to me.

So,

Cutting the strings.

It's sad to say that when one's parents pass,

Along with the sadness and loss,

For some of us comes a sense of freedom.

I've got a good idea.

Let's not wait for that day to arrive.

Let's have more freedom from today.

As we grow up,

We learn from our parents,

Our seniors,

Teachers,

Idols,

And lots and lots of proverbs and instructions and sayings and things that later turn out to be a confinement stops us being free.

Here's a story which illustrates this.

One day,

I was on my way to teach some nurses at the local hospice about some aspect of psychology.

Sadly,

I encountered heavy traffic.

I knew that I was going to be late.

I heard my father's voice in my head.

Always allow plenty of time.

Don't let people down.

It's disrespectful to be late and waste other people's time.

As I heard his voice,

I noticed my knuckles going white on the steering wheel,

My body getting more tense.

I actually considered driving onto the pavement to get past this traffic.

I didn't,

Of course.

Even my dad wouldn't have harmed pedestrians just to be punctual.

As if from a dream,

I awoke and began to think more sensibly.

Yes,

Dad,

You're right.

It is disrespectful to be late.

And I understand that.

And I will apologize and be more determined to leave more time next time.

But for now,

I need to make my own priorities.

I know it's better to be safe and apologize than to blindly follow your words in my head.

I love to hear your voice.

Yet your voice in my head will have to be quieter.

I'm not a puppet.

I'm not going to be a puppet.

I won't be a puppet.

So I'm cutting the strings and from now on,

I will have to be my own master.

So the moral is clear.

We all have lots of these messages in our heads.

They're powerful.

Some are really useful.

Others,

Not so much.

Assess them all and keep the ones you want and only those that serve you well.

Thanks for listening.

I'll be back again soon with another snippet.

Another droplet of wisdom,

Which I hope you will enjoy.

Reviews

I love your droplets of wisdom. Not only do they put a smile on my face but are excellent advice. Thank you💮

Thank you for sharing this precious wisdom. I can certainly think of some legacies from my mother which are better left behind and which have often served only as a hindrance. I shall enjoy a new freedom now in the last trimester of life. Namaste

Thank you for your little droplets of wisdom very timely and helpful

It stings that I’m probably the one who filled my, now, adult children’s minds with all this kind of information. They’ll hear my voice long after I’m gone. Thanks for this perspective.

Hopefully the start of 10 droplets of wisdom to think over during the day.
Told by a older wise sounding man with a slow peace in his voice

Thank you for this gift to us all
🪢Njoy🪢

I just came across this having listened to another earlier....firstly I'm from the UK Hertfordshire but moved to NZ when I was 15...it's nice getting a 'droplet' from a man with a familiar accent. (Also my Dad remained in the UK as my parents got divorced) This post SO resonated with me as my Mum's voice is a l w a y s in my head. Cutting the strings has been hard as there are just 3 of us here. Boundaries have sometimes caused friction and trying to please has resulted in white knuckles. It was so nice to hear this. Thank you. (She's 89 this yr so timing was relative too) The words 'duty' and'guilt' come to mind but lightened by your words

so true. I struggled for years with my late grandmother's superstitions, before managing to find the lighter side....thsnkyou.

This came at the perfect time. Thank you for your wise words. 🙏

Thank you for sharing this lovely story. It’s a beautiful reminder. 🙏🏻

Nevertheless, your father taught you to be considerate and respectful of others for which we can all be thnakful. Glad you reminded us all to let go of the harshness with which we often hear are parents' messages.

Thank you for sharing 🤍🙏 Looking forward to your next droplet.

Well said! I love this droplet of wisdom format. Thank you so much. 💕

Loved this! Sometimes no matter how much time you leave ahead circumstances can make one late! I will say quiet down to the voice in my head when it tries to shame me..my dad didn’t do that…judge ..but there’s many that do! Yes .. and I think the reason we are our own worst critics or blame ourselves is because others do . They were taught that! So all we can do is our best! Ty! 💜🪷🙏

Three of us listened to this and it made us all smile as we reminisced about our parents. We will find more of your droplets of wisdom. Thank you! 💙

I enjoyed your story and the reminder to be willing to question/challenges the voices in our heads

Thank you. This is the first time I've heard someone acknowledge that the loss of a parent can come with a sense of freedom.