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Droplet of Wisdom 5

by Dr Graham Dexter

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A common failing of human beings like myself is that we often become irritated or frustrated when we don't know what to do in some kind of dilemma. I think that I know the answer to that. In this short droplet of wisdom, I can reveal not only my own dilemmas, but maybe how to make a better decision or two.

WisdomSelf ReflectionDecision MakingGoal SettingHappinessPersonal GrowthPursuit Of Happiness

Transcript

Hi,

I'm Graham Dexter,

With a short droplet of wisdom.

I call it,

What Do You Want Instead?

Have you ever been in a situation that is hard to know what to do?

Well,

You'd be a pretty remarkable human being if you haven't.

Well,

What I want to say to you is,

When you hear yourself saying this,

Especially if it goes like,

What am I going to do?

What am I going to do?

What am I going to do?

Instead,

Try to remain calm and understand you are asking the wrong question.

Never ask yourself what you should do until you can answer the question,

What do I want?

So often we jump into action without considering what it is that we really want.

For example,

If I said,

I don't like my job,

Then I'll get another one.

Six months later we might be heard to say,

I don't like this job either.

Similarly with my car,

My house,

Even my partner.

As an alternative,

Consider,

What do I want in a job?

What am I good at?

And what I might enjoy doing?

What are the ingredients in a car that might make me like it for a long time?

What are the personal characteristics that I want in a partner?

Might make more sense in the long run.

However,

Before acting,

Reflect,

What do I really want?

What would make me happy?

What can I achieve or accomplish that I really desire?

Only then should you decide what to do.

Thanks for listening to this Droplet of Wisdom.

Meet your Teacher

Dr Graham DexterLagos, Portugal

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Recent Reviews

Anna

December 24, 2025

Love this shifting of perspective! Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ™

joe

September 1, 2025

Thank you for sharing this with us Namaste my friend. Have a beautiful day.

Deborah

August 25, 2025

Very simple, but absolutely what I needed to hear today. Iโ€™m struggling with a big decision (whether to relocate) and I havenโ€™t really asked myself that simple question. Thank you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

Robin

July 14, 2025

As small as it it is it is so large! I know I want to hear more of these!

Andres

June 30, 2025

Brief, simple and clearly presented! Thanks so much!

Carmel

April 11, 2024

Simply profound. ๐Ÿง I know what I want to do. I resolve to do it everyday. But why do I procrastinate and do everything else but the thing I know will make me fulfilled and happy? A droplet on overcoming procrastination please if you have one Dexter.

Betsy

December 9, 2023

Thank you for the reminder we can choose how we think ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

Melissa

September 17, 2023

I need to start reflecting before acting. Thank you once again ๐Ÿ’ฎ

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