What Our Emotions Tell Us - LIVE (Meditation Without Talk)

This is a (partly) recording from Femke's weekly Friday LIVE (14 July '22). This audio contains only the meditation practice of this LIVE talk, in which Femke lets you experience how you can use your focus to deal with emotions. If you would like to hear also the talk and Femke's answers to the questions of participants, check the recording of the full talk & practice in Femke's tracklist.

Transcript

Let's meditate and experience this process for a moment in the meditation where we recognise the feeling and we see what it has to tell us and then we see if we can reach for a little bit more. And then afterward I will come back to see if you have any more questions and I will tell you a little bit about that workshop because it is going to be a great workshop, Four hours in a row with some breaks in between, Coming Sunday starting at 12pm EST. Later I will tell you more. Now let's meditate. So sit comfortably or lie down comfortably, Whatever suits you, Whatever feels good. And when you're sitting it's perfectly fine to lean against the back of your chair or the sofa or the wall. You don't have to. If you're comfortable just sitting up that's also really great but the key here is comfort. I don't want you to be struggling with your meditation. I want you to feel comfortable and good during the meditation. Now gently close your eyes. And just take some time to feel how you are sitting or lying. The touch points with the ground, Your feet on the ground. Your thighs and buttocks resting on the seat. Your back against the chair or the mattress. Your arms, Your hands relaxed in your lap. Is there any tension somewhere in your body? If there is then shift a little bit and see if you can settle. Pay especially attention to your forehead, Your jaws, Your shoulders. Is your belly free, Not tucked in? These are the notorious places to keep tension so be aware if it's there then just shift, Move it a little bit so you can let go. If it's really hard you can make first a lot of tension by making a lemon face or pulling up your shoulders and then just drop it and sigh it out. Now I would like you to put your hands on your heart, On your chest for a moment. Because our heart is the core of our emotions. We don't always experience the emotions in our heart but our heart is that sensitive organ that keeps us alive, That keeps the juices flowing through our body. And the organ that we associate with love and fear and emotions. And I think that when you think of emotions you could see fear at the bottom and one of the most unpleasant emotions. A lot of our unpleasant emotions are connected to fear, Fear of pain, Fear of loss. And then on the upper end I would say that love and joy is like the top of emotions. So whenever you feel love it means that you are 100% compatible with your authentic self. So I would like you to think for a moment of when you felt love last time. And it can be really small, It doesn't have to be a big love for a romantic partner, It can just be loving your coffee or your pet, Smelling a rose and just loving that smell and that sight of the rose. Love is in the smallest corners of our experience and we are not always so aware that this is love and that this is at our fingertips. We so often look for others to love us and it's really beautiful if others love us. But the only thing that happens when someone loves us is that we allow ourselves to connect to this feeling that is already within us. We are love. We are love and we are so loveable. When someone loves us we feel free to experience that feeling but it's actually us loving us because someone else is helping us focus. But you know the truth is we don't need someone else to do so. It's really great when they are there but you know when they are grumpy or not there on a vacation or they go away on whatever reason then we feel not so loveable anymore and that's not true. You are loveable. It's right within you and the beauty is that when you connect to this you feed yourself, You feed your soul and then the love from someone else becomes richer because it just resonates with what you already know about you, That you are loveable and worthy. You are love. So think of that last time that you felt love and again it doesn't have to be big. Where do you feel it in your body? It might be that you don't feel it in your heart, It might be that you feel it somewhere else. That's okay. And if you prefer to put your hands there, Maybe it's in your stomach or your belly, Maybe it's in your throat, Your forehead, Maybe it's in your hands, Maybe you just want to give yourself a hug to feel it. Wherever it is just go with it and feel it. That feels good right? Really, Really recognise the experience of your body when you connect to that feeling of love. And if you find it hard, Because that is okay when it happens, Some people find it hard, It just means that you forgot how to train yourself to connect to this feeling and that we are working on right now. So it's okay, It's okay. If you don't feel it then think of someone, Think of someone that loved you unconditionally most of the time. You know, That beautiful grandparents or one of your parents or your siblings or your best friend or maybe just your dog or your cat because you know, You feel that they love you then think of them and you know, Use their focus on you to make that connection. That's okay. It's okay to use another being to make that connection as long as you know that you are doing it yourself. So now again, Where do you feel this in your body? Alright now imagine that this feeling that you are feeling right now would pop out of you, In front of you and would become a being in itself, Getting a shape. Let it happen, Let this feeling pop out of you, Be in front of you. It might tickle a little bit but for sure it's an uplifting experience. It doesn't feel bad, It doesn't feel unpleasant, It feels pretty good. Maybe you have to laugh or giggle a little bit. And now use your fantasy, Just let bubble up how this being starts to shape. Maybe you see yourself, Maybe you see someone you know, Maybe it's a fantasy being, Maybe it's a unicorn, Maybe it's your dog, Maybe it's a flower, It doesn't matter. Just see this being, The reification of your love for you, That feeling of love. So take a look at the shape, Or know the shape, Does it have any legs, Hands, Is there a face, Is there a smile. Just let it shape. And it's really great because when you look at it, When you look at your own love standing in front of you, You just feel so much love. It's not, It jumped out of you but it's like so connected with you, It's so still part of you and when you look good you might see that there are like little beautiful colourful strings between your heart and this being. This being is really really part of you, Sending you so much love. Because when you look at these little strings you can almost see like sparks flowing through it from you to them, From them to you. You know, Let those sparks grow bigger, Let's just do that, Let those sparks grow bigger and bigger. Yes, Open yourself up, You know the strings might just become like tubes and this love is just going back and forth, Back and forth, Lighting up and it would be really really great if you could give this a colour of your liking, A colour that means love for you. And if you don't know what colour it is then just make it like this warm golden sunny light but if you want to make it green or purple or white or orange or whatever colour you like, Pick that one, Yes, Yeah that one, Don't over think it, Just let it be. And can you feel that rush, That sense of how this feels in your body, How it feels to allow this flow in, How it starts to fill your whole body, Not just your whole heart and your chest but it also starts to shoot in your arms and your fingers, It just shoots out of your fingers as if your fingers are fountains in itself and it shoots up into your neck, Into your head and it shoots out of the crown of your head like a fountain actually and now it's also going into your belly, Over your stomach, Filling your whole belly, Your pelvis, Your upper legs, Your under legs, Your feet and now it shoots also out of your feet into the earth. And with it shooting into the earth there is a sense of grounding, It's like it's creating roots, Roots into this beautiful earth, Connecting you with the power of the earth. You know what, Let those roots grow deeper even, Let those roots grow into the core of the earth, You know, Where the love and the fire of the earth rests in the middle of its core and when your roots come there then that beautiful earth love is shooting up into your roots coming up, Just filling you, Mingling and mixing with the beautiful light that you have already and now you know that not just you love you but also the earth loves you always. This earth is always here to support you so whenever you cannot connect to this feeling of love then just imagine your roots into the earth knowing that you are connected and supported by mother earth. Mother earth, Can you hear those words? She's not called mother earth for nothing, Having her warm arms, Her loving energy flowing all over you, In you. So when you are feeling this rush of love through you and you see it expand from you, From your chest, Through those tubes, Through that being in front of you that represents your love until it encompasses you, You're now in this big bubble of light, Big bubble of love together with this being that represents your love. Who would want to go now to an emotion that doesn't feel so good? But we can probe a little bit so while you feel this connection I'm just asking you, Can you think of something in your life that gives you an unpleasant emotion? And you know, I bet you can but I want you to feel the difference between thinking of it right now and thinking of it when you're not in such a good place. Do you feel there is a difference? Do you feel there is some light heartedness that you think oh yeah, Yeah I'm always feeling so angry when this person is doing this and this and this but it's almost as if it cannot touch you because your heart is so overflowing with love. And that is the power of training yourself to this connection with your authentic self where contentment is as a baseline present and contentment is just a little bit less energised version of what you're feeling right now. And knowing that that baseline is there, That you can hold yourself onto it, That this is where you can always bounce back to where it's going, You're going down or up, You will bounce back to that baseline. That will help you. But okay, Let's say that you now can think of this emotion that is sometimes bugging you and don't dig too deep for a really really big one because you're way up too high now to go there but I bet you can find something that is annoying you, Irritating you, That you sometimes think about and it doesn't feel so good. So think of this for a moment if you can. And if you cannot then just enjoy this flow of love, Right? Because that's good. If you cannot go there it means you have this flow really strong but if you can think of something then I would like you to materialise also this emotion into a being. Just place it next to this loving being that is you. So just let it jump out of you and you know, You don't have to label this emotion right now, That's okay. You don't have to explain to yourself why you're feeling it, You don't have to give words or explanation, You just know this is sometimes there and you just let it pop out of you in front of you and you let it shape into a being. And just watch what kind of being it becomes. Maybe it's you, Maybe it's someone else, Maybe it's someone you don't know, Maybe it's a fantasy figure, Maybe it's a unicorn. It can be anything. Just take a look at the shape, Does it have arms, Legs, Does it have a face, Is there a smile or a growl? That feels different right? Yeah, Can you feel that difference? Alright, Now when you have some clarity about this being and I mean that you get a sense of its presence, You see it or you know it to be, But you don't have to clarify, You don't have to really dig deep to understand what is there, Just get a sense of it. I would like you to ask it what it needs, What it needs to feel better. And you can ask this just by words or you can just know that you want to know this answer. So let's ask, What do you need from me to feel better? And now let the answer come, You don't have to think about it. Your subconsciousness is going to give you an answer and you might understand the answer or not and that's okay. If you don't understand, It will come later. And if you do understand, Then that's also fine. You don't have to explain it to yourself, You don't have to make it bigger, Just let it be there and this answer can come in a sentence, In a word, In an image, In a sound, In a knowing, In a feeling. All right now, You now know what this being needs right now. Before you know it, Your loving being who is there, Who is part of you, Who was observing is now going to give this being exactly what it needs. So if this being said, I just need to be hugged to feel better, Then this loving being will give a hug. When this being says, I just need to hear my favorite song, Then your loving being starts to sing or puts on the radio where the song is. Maybe this being needs to know that it's safe. Then your loving being will make sure it feels safe, It will hold its hand, Its arm, Whatever you can hold and tell them, With me you're safe. So I'm going to give you a minute to let this happen and don't overthink it, Don't think about it. Just let your fantasy do the work and whenever you think, I don't have a clue what's going on here, Just observe it, Just let it happen. The understanding will come later because your subconsciousness, Your inner being is so wise, It knows exactly what needs to happen here. So go ahead. Notice what you are feeling when you are observing this. Can you feel a sense of relief? Can you feel some release maybe of that emotion? It might be that you become emotional in the sense that you will start to have tears or maybe even cry and that's okay. Crying is good, Crying is releasing of tension, Crying is letting the emotion run out, Letting it wave through you and that's okay. Don't be ashamed of your tears, Don't push them away, It's all part of your human experience, It's okay. So now see how this being of the unpleasant emotion starts to change when your loving being is giving all that love, Is giving everything that is needed, The shape, The color, See what changes. Maybe they dissipate, Maybe they get a smile, Maybe they change shape. Whatever happens is okay, Just observe it and just know that something within you is transformed right now. Something within you is healed right now, Maybe it's just a small part, Oh it still has to be done but that's okay, That's okay. You have your whole life to work on these things and you made such a beautiful start right now. All right, Now I would love for you and your loving being to say goodbye to this other being and when you do so you can see that they are satisfied, They have been fulfilled with their need. Maybe they even dissipated, Maybe you don't even see them and then you don't have to bring them back because then you did your job and maybe there is still some part there but you can just send them love and know that this is something that you will come back to. Now put your hands back on your heart and bring your attention again to this loving part of you, This loving being and thank them, Thank them for being so pure, Being so loving, Showing you that you are love no matter what. Now ask them to join you again, To blend with you, To bring all that love, That connection closer within you back into your heart and just imagine how you would like to do that. You can just pull them in or you can just let them dissipate and just know that it's within you again and put your hands on your heart again. Can you feel that, Can you feel that presence, That innate presence of love? My dear you are love and you are so loveable, You are so worthy, You are unique, You are capable, You are powerful, You are love. Now before we get out of this meditation I would like you to ask yourself what is it that I need right now? What is it that I need right now? And whatever the answer is just take it seriously and make a note that this is what you will do now or later today or later this week but you will honour this need because you are now so in touch, So in tune with yourself that it's really easy to hear your needs from the moment. So if it tells you you need to take a nap or go to sleep and you can then do that. If it tells you to start working on that beautiful letter that you wanted to write to someone you love then just do that. If it says go take a walk in nature then if you can do it or do it this weekend if you cannot now. Whatever it is, Promise yourself that you will honour this need now or later. My dear friends this is self love, This is self gentleness, This is being kind to yourself, This is understanding what the message of emotions is and how you can work with them. And when you are in a really difficult emotional place with a lot of difficult unpleasant emotions going on I understand it's hard to get here but then you could also strive for a pleasant emotion that is a little bit lower in energy than love is. So for instance you could search for what would just give me a feeling of contentment right now or what would give me a feeling of hope, What would give me a sense of optimism and just probe for practice or thoughts that will help you get there. And of course meditation is such a beautiful tool to do that. Alright now you can let your attention go from your heart, You can put your hands in your lap again if they are not aware already and I invite you to slowly come back but if you feel you want to sleep then don't come back, Just close me off, Close your eyes, Turn around and go to sleep. So take your time, Just wiggle your fingers and toes, Stretch your spine and whenever you are ready you can gently open your eyes but take your time.

Reviews

I listened to this today as I had a difficult emotion come up, it really does WORK! Thank you Femke I'm so grateful. Its really helpful to have this meditation as a distinct recording. My visualisations are so powerful when I listen to this one.