Hi,
This is Ori Krug,
Board-certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement-based meditation on enjoying intimacy and desire without anxiety.
This is for you if you often find yourself in your head,
Having anxious thoughts,
Or not being able to be present with truly feeling pleasure and the benefits of intimacy in intimate relationships.
To begin this meditation,
Find yourself in a comfortable position that feels supportive to your body right now.
You may choose to lie down,
Sit,
Or stand.
Once you settle into this position,
Let's take two deep breaths together.
Breathing in,
And breathing out,
And breathing in,
And breathing out.
You may close your eyes,
Lower your gaze,
Or keep them open if that feels safest to you right now.
I'd like to invite you now to imagine a version of yourself that enjoys intimacy and desire without anxiety.
You may see yourself on a movie screen or as an image in your mind's eye.
Whether you're alone or interacting with a partner,
How do you see yourself enjoying intimacy and desire?
Notice your body.
How are you holding yourself in your body as this version of you enjoys intimacy and desire without anxiety?
What is your posture like?
How do you move about your life,
Whether you're walking down the street or walking from your kitchen to the bathroom?
Do you notice anything particular about the way that you're moving and embodying yourself?
Whatever you're noticing,
I'd like to invite you to start bringing that into your physical body right now.
You may do this literally,
Where you bring your body to the positions that you saw yourself in,
Whether that's standing up tall or hugging yourself.
Or you may do this a little bit more abstractly.
For example,
If you saw yourself moving with more flow,
You may invite some fluid movements into your body right now.
Or if you saw yourself holding yourself with more confidence,
You may play with what movements make you feel more confident in your body right now.
And as you're inviting these movements in,
Let go of the idea that any of this could be wrong or not the way that you quote-unquote should be enjoying intimacy and desire.
Many people have their own expectations or expectations from society or other people on what it should look like and what you should look like in order to be intimate.
You can challenge this right now by letting go of all of those shoulds and organically following your body right now of what feels pleasurable,
What feels good to you,
What makes you feel like an empowered,
Intimate,
Desired,
And desirable person.
How does that make you want to move?
Do you want to move with bigger movements?
Moving your hips more?
Taking up more space?
Or simply standing firmly in one place?
Standing up tall?
Walking a certain way?
Let go of all of these things you can try on right now.
And whatever it becomes,
It becomes.
If it becomes playful and silly,
That may be your way to enjoying intimacy and desire.
No one said you have to be serious.
No one said you have to look a certain way and can't laugh about it.
What does your body authentically desire and crave and want to experience in your experiences of intimacy?
It never looks one way.
And it is completely unique to you on any given moment.
So take the next minute.
Lead with curiosity.
Lead with play.
And explore embodying intimacy.
And whatever you're doing,
However you're moving right now,
Start to bring your movements to a gradual close.
Perhaps landing in an ending position that might resemble your authentic,
Intimate self.
The movements that made you feel authentically you in an intimate setting.
And when you find this position,
Let's take a deep breath together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
When you're ready,
You may open your eyes gently.
Look around the space.
And make physical contact with yourself to bring yourself back into this present moment.
It's important to note what helps you feel authentically in your body.
Authentically feeling pleasure in your body.
Instead of what you may have previously thought you should feel and do in your body to enjoy intimacy and desire.
Because it is those shoulds that create the most anxiety.
That make you feel like you're doing things wrong.
Or you're embarrassed about the way you're showing up.
You're not feeling attractive enough.
Because you're not looking a certain way.
But the most attractive thing that you can do is to be your authentic self.
To be embodying this confidence in receiving and giving pleasure.
So that you can enjoy intimacy and desire without anxiety.
As you become more comfortable with being yourself.
And trusting that whatever movements you're doing in relationship to yourself and others is good enough.
Then you can just go with the flow in intimate situations without all the self-doubt and fear.
You can come back to this meditation over and over again.
And keep practicing.
Keep embodying your ability to enjoy intimacy.
Until next time,
You deserve all of the intimacy and pleasure that you desire.
