Dealing With Rejection In Relationships

Past trauma can make us feel hyper-sensitive and more vulnerable to rejection in relationships. Even when you logically know "it's not that big of a deal" or you tell yourself you're overreacting, it still hurts. A lot. This movement meditation will reveal to you what you need to do differently to feel less wounded and more empowered in your relationships.

Transcript

Hi,

This is Aurit Krug,

Board certified dance therapist and trauma and relationship expert.

Today I would love to guide you through a movement meditation on dealing with rejection in relationships.

Unresolved past trauma can make rejection feel so painful in our bodies and in our minds,

Even when we know logically that the other person really didn't mean to hurt us or that it's something so silly that we're feeling rejected over.

It doesn't matter what the actual situation is.

With unresolved trauma,

It will always feel so painful and so hard and uncomfortable to feel.

So in this experience,

I would love to help you get to the root of understanding how you can feel less rejected and less wounded through all kinds of situations in your relationships.

You can do this meditation lying down,

Sitting down,

Or perhaps even standing up.

Let's take three deep breaths together.

Breathing in and breathing out.

And breathing in.

And breathing out.

One last time,

Breathing in.

And breathing out.

With your eyes closed or your gaze lowered,

I'm going to invite you now to imagine,

Visualize,

Or feel into feeling rejected in your relationships.

What's the first sensation that comes up in your body as you tune into this?

How does it feel in your body to feel this rejection,

Maybe even abandonment?

Hold on to the first sensation that comes up and now,

Before even thinking about it,

Start to invite organic natural movement into your body.

So how does your body naturally want to respond to this feeling of rejection?

For example,

If you felt a sensation of your heart dropping,

Maybe you have the natural urge to immediately bring your hands to your heart to hold it into place.

If you felt an overall sensation of losing your ground,

Maybe your body has the natural urge to bring your whole body onto the floor to surrender your weight and be held.

There's no right or wrong.

Just listen to your body and sense what it naturally wants to do and how it naturally wants to move in response to feeling rejected.

You may notice that your mind wants to push this feeling away,

To avoid the discomfort,

Or even come up with a solution and fix it,

Make it all better.

But that won't resolve your feelings of rejection.

Instead,

If you listen to your body right now and you follow its organic movement,

You'll experience and understand what you really need.

What do you really need right now?

What do you need to give to yourself right now to comfort and nurture and be with these feelings and move with them instead of pushing them away?

What does your body need?

This is key because the truth is when we feel rejected,

We then go on to reject ourselves.

We tell ourselves we're not good enough.

We tell ourselves there must be something wrong with us.

And worst of all,

We often disconnect and escape our bodies to try to protect ourselves from the pain of feeling rejected.

If you can't even be there for yourself when you feel rejected,

If you reject yourself when you feel rejected,

How can you expect anyone else to be there for you,

To comfort you,

To nurture you,

To do all the things that you truly want but that you don't give to yourself in these difficult times?

Start changing this pattern right now and feel the sensation in your body and give yourself what you need.

What do you need right now?

Do you need to slow down?

Do you need to make your movements smaller?

Do you need to make more physical contact with yourself,

Self touching,

Self caressing?

Do you need to allow your body to just lie down and rest and do nothing?

Maybe it's a simple pose or a simple movement that you need in this moment.

Perhaps a gentle sway or your hands on your heart.

Don't think about this.

Instead,

Let your body continue to fluidly and organically respond in every moment.

Because every moment right now is an opportunity to meet yourself exactly where you need.

And you can do that through movement.

So keep tuning in,

Keep moving,

Keep being there with yourself and for yourself.

And in about a minute,

I'll prompt us to gently start slowing down and find an ending.

And that's the place,

Isn't it?

Whatever you're doing,

However you're moving right now,

Start to slowly and gradually bring your movements to a close.

Take your time and don't rush this because you deserve closure.

You deserve a satisfying ending to this deep,

Intimate experience with yourself.

You may find that you naturally land in a pose that feels right for you right now,

Or maybe not.

Let's take a deep breath together,

Breathing in and breathing out.

Gently open your eyes,

Look around the space.

You may even make physical contact with yourself to show your body that you are right here,

Right now.

Come back to this meditation whenever you need the experience and reminder to be there for yourself,

To be your own best friend in a natural and grounded way,

To reconnect to your body and stop rejecting yourself so that you can stop feeling so rejected by everyone else.

You deserve to be able to let healthy,

Lasting love in.

Reviews

Very supportive somatic practice. I felt very soothed afterwards 🤍

I cannot express how deeply this meditation helped me to connect with my wounded heart and to begin healing it. Thank you from the deepest place in my heart 🙏

Excellent. Different. One to return to again and again. Thank you.

i’ve been realizing that feeling rejection in my case is aligned with break of trust and connection, i was really nurtured and still am in my nucleous family obviously there could be better communication but it does not come from there and it’s a relief to be aware of that

I love all your meditations. I love how freeing and movement based they are. I was able to give myself so much love and I’m grateful for the space you hold.

You have such a soothing voice. Also, I would've really appreciated if there were like 2 minutes of total silence in between - as a thinking space maybe with pleasant music at the backdrop. Nonetheless, thank you! ❤️😊

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Love this approach. Never realized simply giving myself a hug was quite soothing. Thx u.

This was so helpful. Through movement I was able to release so much. A lot of unexpected things came up for me. Thank you! 💕❤️🙏

Thank you! I started rubbing my midriff and tummy and it made me really happy and content! It was quite funny!

Thank you so much🥰, this was perfect as always🥰, and it was what I really needed today in this moment🥰. This is the first time I’m recognising these feelings coming up in a relationship, and it’s an honour to be able to do the inner work with this beautiful practise🥰. Have an amazing day ✨

Really helpful even at a short session. Helpful concepts and practice. Thank you 🙏

Incredible, thank you

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Thank you! It was amazing!

Thank you! Love it!

I feel calm now and more in love with myself, thanks and thanks again.

So simple yet so right. Thank you
Prosta ale celowa medytacja. Technika do przywoływania wtedy gdy jest potrzebna.