Hi,
This is Ori Krug,
Board certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement based meditation to help you relieve your relationship anxiety.
To begin,
You can position yourself however it best feels to you in this moment.
There is no right or wrong way to start or experience this meditation.
So you can be sitting on the floor,
You can be lying down on your bed,
Maybe standing up against a wall or whatever feels right to your body in this moment.
We're going to take three deep breaths together,
Breathing in and breathing out.
And breathing in.
And breathing out.
One last time,
Breathing in.
And breathing out.
I'm going to invite you to close your eyes or lower your gaze and imagine,
Visualize or sense in your body what it feels like to have relationship anxiety,
To constantly be asking questions if your partner is the right one for you.
Over analyzing every move that they make or every word that they speak,
Questioning your own ability to be in a relationship and whatever other intrusive thoughts haunt your being.
Tune into the first sensation that comes up.
Where do you feel it in your body right now?
There is no right or wrong.
You may have felt butterflies in your stomach.
You may have felt your toes scrunch up.
Maybe you felt a tingling at the top of your head.
It doesn't have to make sense.
I just want you to pinpoint the first sensation that has come up as you're tuning into what relationship anxiety feels like in your body.
From whatever that sensation is,
Whatever that first sensation is that came up,
Tune into it even more.
See if it's moving in any certain way.
The butterflies in your stomach may be moving around in a circle.
They may be expanding,
Taking over the rest of your torso.
They may be traveling to a different part of your body.
Whatever sensation you felt,
See if there's any kind of movement happening with it.
You may notice if there's a texture or a color.
Just get to know it really well without any judgment because there really is no right or wrong here.
You can't mess this up.
Keep breathing.
And now,
Whatever is happening with this sensation,
I'm going to invite you to invite organic movement into this sensation.
So if you felt a tingling at the top of your head,
You might have the urge to roll your head around in a circle.
If you felt butterflies in your stomach,
You might feel the impulse to move your torso in a circle,
Just like the butterflies are moving.
If you felt a constriction in your chest,
You might feel this impulse to take a deep breath and expand your chest and maybe even expand your arms.
Again,
There is no right or wrong.
Whatever sensation you are feeling,
Whatever sensation you are tuned into right now,
Just invite whatever movement comes to you.
And this is going to be different for everybody.
For the next minute or so,
Keep going.
You may be repeating the same movement over and over again.
Or maybe your movement is developing into something different.
If you started with circling your torso,
Maybe now your arms are also involved.
Perhaps if you started with rolling your head around in a circle,
You're now finding that your shoulders are moving around,
And that your arms and your waist and different parts of your body get included.
There's no right or wrong.
You can have your movements be as small and subtle as you're feeling that they need to be.
Or you can take up lots of space and be really expansive with your movements and anywhere in between.
Just keep following your body's impulses.
Keep meeting your anxiety where it began with that first sensation and move with it right here right now.
Because this is the key to relieving your relationship anxiety.
It's not about forcing it out.
It's not about quieting down the anxiety without acknowledging it.
It truly is about acknowledging the anxiety and how it resides in your body and then moving with it so you can move through it.
Take a deep breath here.
Whatever you're doing,
However you're moving,
Let's take a deep breath together.
And out.
Whatever your experience was today,
It was important and it is important whether you were able to meet yourself where your anxiety started and moved through it.
Or whether you noticed that you weren't able to move through it today.
You were getting stuck in your head.
All of it is important.
Is meaningful.
And you can always come back to this movement meditation to continue the practice of befriending your relationship anxiety,
Of meeting it exactly where it starts in your body so you can move through it gracefully,
Organically,
And without trying to shut yourself down.
Which inevitably just leads to more anxiety.
This meditation is here for you whenever you need it.
Thanks so much for joining.
I hope you know that you deserve to be able to let healthy,
Lasting love in.
