Hi,
This is Ori Krug,
Board certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement based meditation on healing abandonment wounds.
If you've experienced trauma of rejection,
Abandonment or heartbreak in the past,
And you have not yet healed your abandonment wounds,
Then this meditation is for you.
You're probably experiencing a lot of difficulty being in healthy relationships today because the abandonment wounds tell you the story that love only ends in hurt.
So today,
I'm going to guide you to connect with your body in order to understand what needs to happen to really heal these abandonment wounds and create healthy,
Lasting,
Loving relationships.
To begin,
We'll take in three deep breaths together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
And again,
Breathing in and breathing out.
And one more time,
Breathing in and breathing out.
I'm going to invite you now to tune into the feeling of abandonment,
Whether a memory comes up or thought or feeling or just a sensation in your body.
Just tune into this feeling of abandonment and notice where you feel it in your body.
You may have immediately felt butterflies in your stomach,
A shortness of breath.
You may have noticed your shoulders tensed up.
There is no right or wrong.
Just notice where you feel this abandonment in your body.
And whatever you're feeling,
It might be painful,
It might be hard.
I'm going to ask you to invite organic movement to respond to this sensation as a way of asking your body to meet your needs.
So if you felt a shortness of breath,
You might feel the desire to take a deeper breath so you can breathe easier.
If you felt butterflies in your stomach,
You might feel an urge to put your hands gently on your stomach and rub it and comfort it.
Maybe you felt this entire body sensation of wanting to collapse to the floor.
You can respond by allowing yourself to safely come to the floor and meet yourself there and even come to a lying down position if that's what your body is needing.
Because you have to ask yourself in this moment,
Are you willing or able to give yourself what you need through this difficult emotion of feeling abandonment?
Because the truth is,
Most people who are still holding on to old abandonment wounds are still abandoning themselves constantly.
So what happens in those moments in your life where you feel abandoned?
Are you connected to your body?
Are you aware of the sensations that come up in your body through these feelings of abandonment?
And lastly,
If you feel the sensations,
Do you give yourself what you need?
Are you there for yourself or do you abandon yourself as well?
Do you disconnect from your body?
Do you escape through social media?
Whatever way you're coping with feelings of abandonment,
Ask yourself if those very same patterns are making you abandon yourself too.
Because the start of healing your abandonment wounds begins with you being there for yourself.
And no longer abandoning yourself.
And then the next time you feel abandoned,
You know that actually,
You still can count on you.
You can still comfort you.
And when you feel this all of the time,
When you have this strong,
Solid sense of self,
It makes relationships easy and free of constant hurt and fear that you'll be abandoned again.
So take this lesson in this movement meditation.
However,
You're connecting with yourself right now.
Maybe you're holding yourself.
Maybe you did come to the floor,
Even in a fetal position and allowed yourself to feel vulnerable.
Whatever you did,
The hope is that you stay connected to your body and you responded with what you needed.
And if that was too hard this time,
You can revisit this movement meditation and it will likely get easier the more you try.
Let's take a deep breath in and out.
And create one last pose or movement to symbolize your commitment to being there for yourself,
Even when you feel abandoned,
Even when you feel rejected.
This pose might be a hand on heart.
It might be hugging your knees.
It might be holding your cheeks with the palms of your hands.
There is no right or wrong.
Just do whatever feels right to you.
Thank you so much for trying this vulnerable and courageous meditation.
And I hope you know that you deserve to be fully there for yourself,
Fully loved,
And no longer stuck in the fear of abandonment.
