Overcoming Jealousy

Jealousy feels really ugly on the inside, but it's hard to eliminate it when we've experienced trauma that constantly makes us feel like we're not good enough. If you dare, come and join me to explore what this jealousy feels like inside your body, so you can understand how to dissolve it. About jealousy, feeling insecure, comparing to others, and wanting more self-confidence.

Transcript

Hi,

My name is Ori Krug,

Board certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.

Today,

I would love to guide you through a movement based meditation to help you overcome jealousy.

To begin,

We'll start with two deep breaths,

Breathing in and breathing out.

Again breathing in and breathing out.

I'm going to invite you to visualize and think about the last time you felt really jealous of somebody else's success or relationship or the way that they had showed up on social media.

What's the first feeling that comes up in your body as you think about this?

Is there constriction in your chest?

Do you feel like you want to hunch over?

You might even feel like there's a sensation of wanting to puke.

You might be surprised by what you feel and it's okay if it's uncomfortable.

Just tune in.

Now that you're tuned in,

I'm going to ask you to invite movement in that takes care of you right now.

If you feel like you want to hunch over,

Maybe you go ahead and meet yourself right there and hunch over and kind of hug yourself at the same time.

If you feel like you might puke,

Maybe you put your hand to your chest and put some pressure there,

If that feels right.

I'm just giving you examples,

But please do whatever your body organically wants you to do to support yourself and take care of yourself right now.

And notice what feelings are coming up.

Maybe you find that you're hugging yourself and actually feeling really sad.

What's that about?

Instead of trying to answer that question with your mind,

Just keep engaging yourself with your body.

Maybe you do a little bit more movement.

Maybe a hug turns into now gently squeezing your arms,

Going up and down your arms,

Giving a gentle squeeze or maybe it's a light caress.

Maybe if your hands were on your chest,

You begin to move them gently up your neck and actually starting to feel more of yourself.

And as you start to feel more of yourself,

You might notice you're thinking less of the other person who you are jealous of.

You might start to realize that you haven't been giving yourself what you need.

And that makes it really easy to disconnect and leave your body and want what everyone else is having instead.

But when you connect back in,

Really feeling yourself,

Really giving yourself what you need physically,

Emotionally,

Spiritually,

You realize that you have so much and that all you need to do whenever you start feeling jealous of anyone else is to come back to you.

Take another breath in,

Hand out.

You might still be moving.

You might be making physical contact with yourself,

Maybe hand on heart or still hugging yourself.

But remember this pose.

Remember this movement.

The next time you feel jealous,

Come back to it and come back to yourself.

You may repeat this meditation over and over again until it feels more natural and internalized.

And if this was helpful for you,

I'd love it if you could leave a review.

Thanks so much for joining me and I hope you know that you are amazing.

Reviews

This was a helpful way to acknowledge and reframe the jealousy I've been feeling about the new person my partner is dating. Thank you!

This helped me deal with some difficult feelings, and I loved the movement element to this. I will definitely come back to this again

Beautiful and soothing to help settle the burning feelings inside.

This is a simple but really great meditation, puts you in touch with what sometimes and somewhat we avoid feeling and it’s important to take a moment to feel it

Wow! Who knew my jealous emotions would point back to me needing empathy and compassion for myself.

Thank you, what a wonderful way to work through such uncomfortable emotions—movement. So simple yet so powerful!

I appreciate this different approach to handling jealousy.

Exactly what I needed right now. Thank you for making me feel better in this vulnerable moment.

Wow, that was really simple but helpful. Thank you!

That...was something. I got signal to hug myself and when I did it, I started to cry as if I was a child who's looking for comfort and support. At first, I felt sadness but later I felt relief. Great meditation! Thank you!

A wonderful short meditation, exactly what I needed right now. Thank you 🙏

Amazing! Helped me go back to what matters and what’s important to me!

Gentle and effective. I never knew that movement could be so effective in bringing us back to our core, remembering our core selves, core needs. The guide was compassionate. Thank you 🙏 💛

Amazing!! I'm still smiling ... and hugging myself 🥰

This really was helpful and amazing!!! I’m going to make this a habit every time I feel those jealous feelings. It was so effective. Than you!!!

Very helpful! I Just found an old belief..."My work is always worse than others" ...and it has been sitting there for decades!! Thank you! 💝🙏

Thank you… Yes, I was feeling disconnected from myself…physically, emotionally, spiritually…I need to tend to mySelf in the present moment…

It’s just what needed, I feel better

LOVE! thank you so much

I have felt triggered into jealousy in a couple of relationships in my friendship group. I think it triggers early sibling jealousy. I know I was jealous of my older sister & she's no longer alive so I can't work it through with her. I think our mother favoured my sister, or maybe all siblings think that! This practice helped me explore some of those early feeling responses & feel the sad, lonely pain & silent call to be seen for who I am. Thank you. I will work on this some more with movement which frees old pain.