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Why We Keep Hurting Each Other
With Stacey Bennington | Psychotherapist & CoachMost of us were never taught how to communicate in a way that feels safe or connected. We just learned to survive conflict the best we could, usually by pursuing harder or shutting down completely. And then we brought those patterns into our adult relationships and wondered why nothing ever got resolved. This course breaks down the psychology behind why we hurt the people we love, even when we do not mean to. Across five lessons you will learn what is really underneath your most common conflicts, how your attachment style shapes the way you pursue or withdraw, what the attachment loop is and why the same argument keeps happening, and how to start expressing your needs and taking space in ways that actually bring you closer instead of further apart. This is not about becoming a perfect communicator. It is about understanding yourself well enough to do something different when it matters most.
An attachment-based guide to understanding why conflict keeps happening and how to finally change it.
About this course
Most of us were never taught how to communicate in a way that feels safe or connected. We just learned to survive conflict the best we could, usually by pursuing harder or shutting down completely. And then we brought those patterns into our adult relationships and wondered why nothing ever got resolved. This course breaks down the psychology behind why we hurt the people we love, even when we do not mean to. Across five lessons you will learn what is really underneath your most common conflicts, how your attachment style shapes the way you pursue or withdraw, what the attachment loop is and why the same argument keeps happening, and how to start expressing your needs and taking space in ways that actually bring you closer instead of further apart. This is not about becoming a perfect communicator. It is about understanding yourself well enough to do something different when it matters most.
Meet your Teacher
Stacey Bennington is a registered psychotherapist in Colorado and a nationally certified school psychologist with an Ed.S. in School Psychology. She is also a board-certified medical support hypnotherapist, a certified integrative nutrition health coach, and a certified integrative attachment theory coach. With a multidisciplinary background, her work integrates attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and practical, body-based approaches to emotional well-being. She specializes in helping individuals and couples understand how early attachment patterns shape their relationships, communication, and emotional responses, and how to build more secure, connected ways of relating. Stacey's approach blends science-based insight with accessible, everyday practices, supporting people in reconnecting with their bodies, building awareness, and creating meaningful, lasting change.