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Why You Shut Down (or Blow Up) In Conflict
With Stacey Bennington | Psychotherapist & CoachMost relationship conflict is not really about what it appears to be about. Underneath the argument about dishes or tone or who said what is a nervous system responding to something much older and deeper. In this course, you will learn what actually happens in your body when conflict arises, why you either shut down or escalate depending on your attachment patterns, and what it looks like to stay regulated enough to actually hear each other. Each lesson builds a fuller picture of how conflict works beneath the surface, and what becomes possible when you stop reacting from the wound and start responding from the self.
Understand what your nervous system is doing in conflict, and learn how to stay present without losing yourself.
About this course
Most relationship conflict is not really about what it appears to be about. Underneath the argument about dishes or tone or who said what is a nervous system responding to something much older and deeper. In this course, you will learn what actually happens in your body when conflict arises, why you either shut down or escalate depending on your attachment patterns, and what it looks like to stay regulated enough to actually hear each other. Each lesson builds a fuller picture of how conflict works beneath the surface, and what becomes possible when you stop reacting from the wound and start responding from the self.
Meet your Teacher
Stacey Bennington is a registered psychotherapist in Colorado and a nationally certified school psychologist with an Ed.S. in School Psychology. She is also a board-certified medical support hypnotherapist, a certified integrative nutrition health coach, and a certified integrative attachment theory coach. With a multidisciplinary background, her work integrates attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and practical, body-based approaches to emotional well-being. She specializes in helping individuals and couples understand how early attachment patterns shape their relationships, communication, and emotional responses, including the anxiety that underlies so many relationship patterns, and how to build more secure, connected ways of relating. Stacey's approach blends science-based insight with accessible, everyday practices, supporting people in reducing relationship anxiety, reconnecting with their bodies, building awareness, and creating meaningful, lasting change.