When Healing Hurts

This course has a key message: When we turn toward ourselves in the service of growth — we feel more, and within this is an opportunity for us to heal.

Not because we’re breaking, but because we’re opening.

Spiritual growth — or if you prefer, self-growth — comes hand-in-hand with emotional healing.
And this process isn’t always soft or serene.

Sometimes it stings. Sometimes it breaks open what we’ve spent years holding down or hiding.

But the pain we feel isn’t a sign that we’re going backwards. It’s a sign that something within us is finally ready to be felt — to be met with gentle willingness, rather than buried again.

And while it hurts… it’s honest, necessary, and deeply human.
It is the tenderness of mindful change.

This course is here to honor that part of you — the one where clarity burns, where grief catches you off guard, where old patterns unravel and leave you raw.

But through it all, you are not broken. With gentle willingness you are becoming whole.

This is a 5-day micro-course.

Each day offers:

• A brief, heartfelt message from the waves of change
• A moment of validating self-talk
• And a closing, rhyming affirmation to carry with you

Each day explores a facet of this deeper growth:

• The clarity that comes after experiencing alignment
• The tenderness that returns as the freeze begins to thaw
• The healing in grieving what once protected you — and now no longer needs to
• The willingness to stay present with your pain
• The sensitivity that deepens your spiritual clarity

This is a gift — to you, and from you. Thank you for being part of the change.

Lección 1: When The Contrast Clears

Day 1 - When the Contrast Clears (The clarity that comes after experiencing alignment). As you begin to glimpse peace, what no longer aligns becomes harder to ignore. This day invites you to honour your increasing sensitivity — not as a burden, but as a sign of growth and truth. Today offers a brief, heartfelt message from The Wisdom of The Waves, a moment of validating self-talk, and a rhyming affirmation to carry with you.

Lección 2: When The Numbness Melts

Day 2 - When the Numbness Melts (The tenderness that returns as the freeze begins to thaw).
Healing reawakens feeling. You’ll explore how emotional thawing can feel overwhelming at first — not because you’re getting worse, but because you’re finally safe enough to feel again. Just like yesterday, today offers a brief, heartfelt message from The Wisdom of The Waves, a moment of validating self-talk, and a rhyming affirmation to carry with you.

Lección 3: When Letting Go Feels Like Grief

Day 3 - When Letting Go Feels Like Grief (The healing in grieving what once protected you). Old coping patterns, even the harmful ones, once kept you safe. This day gently honours the grief that arises as you thank them — and release them with compassion. Today follows the same structure: a brief, heartfelt message from The Wisdom of The Waves, a moment of validating self-talk, and a rhyming affirmation.

Lección 4: When I Choose To Stay

Day 4 - When You Choose to Stay (The willingness to stay present with your pain). Instead of fleeing discomfort, you begin to sit beside it. This day explores the quiet strength of staying with what hurts, and how gentle willingness can become your turning point. Absorb yourself in the brief, heartfelt message from The Wisdom of The Waves, a moment of validating self-talk, and a rhyming affirmation to carry with you.

Lección 5: When Sensitivity Guides Me

Day 5 - When Sensitivity Guides You (The sensitivity that deepens your spiritual clarity). Your openness to feeling is not a weakness — it’s a sign of evolution. Today reminds you how your sensitivity can become a sacred guide as you continue to grow and return to wholeness. This will be the final heartfelt message from The Wisdom of The Waves, that moment of validating self-talk, and our last rhyming affirmation to carry with you.

Reviews

Thank you so much for this deeply healing and insightful course Reuben. I was feeling lost and confused but this has given me clarity and helped me realise I’m exactly where I need to be. 🙏❤️💫

I liked the 5 suggested categories or manifestations that naturally occur when we lean into feeling our stuff. Gentle and affirming

Really helped me be more steady in this process which is very challenging for me right now. Much appreciated. Have already gone through it twice, I’m sure I’ll listen again. 💖

This have been the longest 5-days in my life. I am not sure why i struggled so much with this course but i do believe its because its so deep, and maybe just right now im in a place where that deepness was not available for me. Still this course has given me great comfort because everything you say is the truth even if it has been hard for me to accept this part of my healing. I would very much like to try this course again next summer and see how it then feels. Very impactful so thank you Reuben 💖 As always im greatful for everything youve provided for a safe healing journey here on Insight timer💫

Amazing, thank you ♥️. It’s interesting, the coping mechanism that I used to manage my grief and trauma was to continue to love this person and show kindness to this person because I couldn’t handle being anything other than that towards him. This really resonated with me I no longer want to give him my attention in this way, I want to be free. I want to become free. I feel like I am transitioning from being numb to feeling the hurt to them being OK, this was a good start..

Thank you Reuben. I valued the wisdom to help with healing from pain - for the past, present and future. I found it really worthwhile and repeated each day to get more out of it 🙏❤️

I didn’t think I would use the words purity and serenity journeying with this course but those two words were with me as I went through this course. I listened to each session twice, why? I was drawn to do so and I went deeper within while doing so. On the last day I actually listened to all the sessions again and wow, I would recommend doing this if you can, to feel the connections of them all, the depths, the peace and tranquil afterwards. Thank you for creating this course, I know I will visit this course against as a source of comfort, purity and serenity…..like a warm blanket. 🧡

Very helpful way to deal with pain. Thank you Reuben.
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Another terrific short but impactful course from the incomparable Reuben Lowe.

This meditation helped me when I was in pain, feeling all those things I was unwilling to feel for so long. It made me be strong enough to sit with my pain instead of running from it...it made me understand that feeling is a sign I'm growing not breaking. Thank you.

A beautiful course, thank you so much 🙏🏼
I found great depth and relevance to this part of my journey in these short sessions. Highly recommend this course to anyone presently experiencing hurt in their healing ✨

Phenomenal, groundbreaking course about the healing process! Profound wisdom, delivered with soulful kindness, and in a very easy to understand way 🤗 I have written down a lot of what Reuben said on post-it notes and placed them around my home. And i will definitely listen to the course again. Thank you so much for your wonderful work, Reuben! 🙏 May you always be blessed 🪷

So much wisdom in this sweet, short course. I’m going right back to lesson 1 and do it again❤️‍🩹🙏❤️‍🩹

Fills me with self-love and appreciation for how far I've come out of a dark place. All things are possible with space, light, and love ❤