Listening To Upset Thinking

When you listening to your upset, have you noticed what happens? You react! To the world outside to the people around you. To your own feelings. Quite often that can make things worse. I understand your confusion. It looks like the upset is coming from outside. So it looks like sorting the outside will make you feel better.

Getting angry
Sending THAT message
Saying what is on your mind.

But that's like thinking the warning lights on your dashboard are coming from the car next to you.