Speak to yourself like you really,
Really,
Really love you.
I want you to tune in to the way you speak to yourself usually.
Not the nice words you post online or message to other people.
I mean,
I want you to tune in to the private soundtrack in your own mind.
That constantly plays nastiness to yourself.
I wonder if he would ever talk to a friend that way.
Somehow I don't think he would.
So why do you keep playing the same crappy soundtrack to yourself over and over again?
The truth is you became fluent in self-criticism long before you learned self-kindness even existed.
Your mind tells you that your harshness to yourself is what keeps you safe.
But constant self-attack is anything but safety.
All it does is cause tension and dis-ease inside yourself.
Tension that keeps you disconnected from yourself.
Your intuition and your peace.
And dis-ease that impacts your body.
Your mental health.
Your emotional well-being and your spiritual path.
So I want you to do something radical today.
Instead of forcing positive affirmations on yourself that you don't yet believe.
I'd like you to simply start learning a new language.
The language of deliberate and gentle kindness.
If you spill your coffee,
Tell yourself.
It's okay.
Humans spill things.
If you find yourself procrastinating and not getting enough done,
Say to yourself.
.
.
I must be overwhelmed.
What do I need right now?
And if you overreact again,
Whisper to yourself.
Ah yes,
That old wound just rose to my surface to wave hello.
This new language is called emotional intelligence.
Self-kindness.
It's a new inner language that changes everything.
It's you reparenting the scared parts inside of you with absolute love.
So right now,
Please put a hand on your chest and say quietly to yourself.
I'm learning to talk to myself like someone I love.
Say it one more time.
I'm learning to talk to myself like someone I love.
Just notice if any resistance comes up.
If your inner critic laughs at this,
Just let it.
The inner critic is.
.
.
Part of your old inner language.
And it will quieten the more you practice talking to yourself another way.
Language is vibration and vibration shapes reality.
Kindness literally changes your hormones,
Slows your pulse.
Invites your whole body to exhale and the whole of you to heal.
That's not poetry.
That's physiology.
So every time the critic starts its crappy soundtrack again.
Please just smile to yourself and interrupt.
And say.
.
.
I'm sorry.
I don't understand what you're saying.
Because I speak in a new language now.
If you can do this,
You'll be amazed how quickly your life begins to reflect this new language.
Of inner kindness.
