The Shattering: Heart Break & Uncertainty

There is a sacred initiation associated with heartbreak. Heart break is not a failure; it's an initiation into truth. In the shattering, what is illusive and unreal is stripped away. We are left naked, exposed, and vulnerable. The attitude and perspective we maintain while descending into this pain will define the path we take forward.

There will be moments in some of our lives that we feel abandoned by life, unguided, uncertain, and doubtful about which direction we are walking. There will be moments in some of our lives that we will be called to the Void, to know ourselves more deeply, to be stripped bare of our attachments to the material world, and to be thrust into the world of subtlety. The invitation then is to expand in capacity of what we allow ourselves to feel and endure, and from there we can choose to dive deeper, or to remain. Heart break, loss, and grief are entry points to this expansion, in their severity they have the power to transform us in the way that fire transforms glass, yet we must be willing to be changed.

Pain, when met consciously, becomes a fire of purification and transformation. The ego burns, and what is left is essence, is truth, is clarification. This is the alchemy of heart break, when we truly allow ourselves to be broken open, we allow ourselves to be fully transformed from our willingness to surrender to love. There is a sacred function to suffering that allows the false self to dissolve. There is no brighter, stronger, and more radiant way to enter the fire of transformation than through the pain of losing a beloved love of ours. Yet, this immense emotion that you may feel, can be steered towards deep devotion to life and to your path.

We have the ability to use our personal stories of pain, and loss as entry points into the collective well of grief. Here we awaken our relationship to the universal heart. We release ourselves from the burden of our individual pain, and give over our losses to the collective field. From the personal space, we enter the transpersonal. Here the severity of our pain and loss can be enough to deepen our somatic experience of life, and delve us deeper towards our centers, and closer to our truth. Within this expansive period, if we surrender to the fire, to the void, to emptiness.... we may begin to also dissolve our ideas of separation. We can allow our pain to soften us. We can become become better, instead of bitter.

If we allow ourselves to take the journey into the void, if we allow ourselves time to dwell there, if we allow the emptiness to hollow us out, and if we listen closely enough we will begin to trust. When we are held in these deep spaces of expansion, of transformation, of chrysallis...we are being given a gift. When we make the journey, and show face, we are given the tools to rise again. Stronger, clearer, and more trusting. When we truly meet grief, it transforms what is dull in us. We can learn to live with an open, luminous and radiant heart. This kind of journey is not for the faint of heart, we must be willing to live very close to the edge, and trust that if we fall....we will make it to the other side.