Trust Them To Be Exactly Who They Are - June 01

It can be tempting to feel frustrated when people don't behave in the way you think they should. But what if you could trust everyone? In today's 5 Minutes In Nature, Liz reflects that even if someone is totally untrustworthy, you can still trust them. You can trust them to turn up with exactly the strengths and weaknesses that they have. What would it be like to trust everyone to be exactly the way they are meant to be?

Transcript

Hello and welcome to Five Minutes in Nature with me Liz Scott. Walking back home down a lane that's going to lead from Dartmoor down towards my house. Quite a mucky, Muddy lane. Got lots of puddles around it and the trees are all fully in leaf, Leaning over this lane, Creating a green tunnel that I'm walking down as I speak to you. And yesterday, Do you remember we talked about just trust and how that phrase, Which I remembered from my pilgrimage, Really helps me and helped me yesterday when I remembered it, Because it reminded me of trusting the energy behind life. And that's what I feel is so important in all that I do, Is that there's a recollection, A remembering, A reconnection with this energy behind life. The creative energy. God energy. Universal energy. There's lots of different words for it. It's the underlying energy from which everything is created and ultimately everything falls back into. It is ever-present. It is eternal. It is not like our thinking or our bodies or the world we see around us which will rise and fall. When I say just trust, I'm talking about that energy behind life. And today is a further reflection on trusting. And it came about with a conversation I had with a friend. She was feeling a little bit upset and we had planned to connect with each other to talk about a topic, But as it was, She was feeling a little bit upset. So we just spent a bit of time talking about what was at the forefront of her mind. The upset that she was feeling and I just listened, Deeply, Deeply listened. And one of the things she was finding quite troubling was that she found her husband, Who she adores and who adores her, She finds one of his character traits quite troubling in so much as she just said, I can't trust him to do what he says he's going to do. And that just makes me really unsettled. He's brilliant at spontaneity and doing things in the moment like he's resourceful and he's hugely resilient but when it comes to saying that he'll do something and then him doing that thing I just can't trust that and it's really unsettling. And this occurred to me around the conversation around just trust. And with trust, There's something to be said for how we trust other people to be themselves. So for example, With her husband, Well, You can trust him. You can trust him to not keep his word. You can trust that he's brilliant at being resourceful and spontaneous. Trusting means that you can see the pattern in somebody else and know that that is their pattern. That is trusting. I've got a friend who is habitually late to things. That is her pattern. I can trust her. I can trust that timekeeping isn't one of her strengths. Like, I can trust that. And I think that sometimes what happens is we have a set of rules, At least let me talk for myself, I have a set of rules of how I think people should behave in the world. And when they fail, I get frustrated. I get frustrated that they aren't sticking to the rules that I think are the right rules of behavior of how we should all behave. And what I've found is that it's much more helpful to trust people to be themselves, To trust people to live up to their strengths, To trust people to live to their weaknesses or their downsides, But ultimately it's just to trust that they are the way they are. There is nothing more frustrating than trying to get someone to change who they are. Today is about trusting. Accepting someone for how they turn up for you in their lives. So what do you make of that? Does that make sense to you? Rather than trying to get someone to behave in a particular way, Trust that they're just going to turn up and be the very person they're meant to be. That's what it is to trust someone. Let me know your reflections. And of course, Don't forget to join me tomorrow for another five minutes in nature.

Reviews

This makes sense and it feels like it would be the right thing to do but honestly, can I do it right now? No, I can’t. A friend who is always late feels like they are being disrespectful to me. I get that if you expect them to be on time and they aren’t then that’s just destroying your own peace but to just accept they won’t be on time is too hard for me where I’m at right now but kudos to you for that. I love these talks, there’s always food for thought and I love your perspective, thank you 🙏🏻

This is really helpful for me to remember right now in working with my sister on something we need to accomplish. Thank you for this insight!

Thanks 🙏🏼 Liz for this interesting view of Trust. That makes sense as if you trust they will turn up late or whatever the issue is annoying me, then I can make alternative plans so I don’t become frustrated with them.
It then allows for assertiveness and lack of resentment from me towards them.
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I love this way of looking at the issue of trust Liz. If you expect someone to be something they’re not you will be constantly disappointed. I used to be too trusting and give people the benefit of the doubt, and now I try to trust that whatever happens is what’s meant to happen. In the case of a family member not expecting them to do something that does not play to their strengths. It causes too much friction and upset.

Thank you 💗🙏

Happy June 1st Liz. I was waiting for it and here it is in a burst of colour the June nature image. So vibrant I look forward to your sessions this month certainly going to be filled with warmth and life.

Thanks Liz ✌️❤️😊