Hello and welcome to five minutes in nature with me Liz Scott.
There's just a few spits and spots of rain around and I'm hoping I'm going to stay dry.
I've just paused on my walk.
I've got probably another good mile,
Maybe a mile and a half to go and I just wanted to share with you something I came across on a photograph and I'd obviously taken a photograph of this particular thing.
It was a note I'd written or doodled so I've no idea if it was a note I doodled for myself or if I'd heard it maybe in a podcast or an interview but I want to talk about it today.
What it said,
This little doodle which I'd taken a photograph of,
Is when I forget I'm okay I forget you're okay.
When I forget I'm okay I forget you're okay.
And it really landed with me as I saw it again of the in those words.
Can you see that?
When you cease to realise that you are okay,
When you lose sight of your diamond,
That inner diamond we were talking about yesterday,
When you start to distrust yourself or you start to believe the stories you're telling about yourself,
The scary stories that you're telling about yourself,
Then you start to close in,
You start to protect yourself and as you protect yourself you start to see other people as a threat.
When your ego feels threatened then it engages with the ego of other people and when an ego engages with another ego,
Particularly when someone is scared or frightened,
That invariably results in a flare-up.
It results in upset.
So for me it's so helpful to realise this that when I realise I'm okay it's like I'm rock solid and it's like I can experience things that might be uncomfortable or not very pleasant and yet I can navigate with a sense of ease and internal power.
I remember there was a time probably about a year ago when somebody sent me an unsolicited,
Very unkind email and he sent not just one but three and I absolutely knew I was okay.
Albeit I could see that the email he sent was inappropriate and rude and was completely unfounded and from my place of realising I was okay I arranged to meet this person for a conversation and from this place of okayness I realised that it wasn't going to be right for me to meet him on my own and that I just needed to invite my husband along to sit in on the conversation so that I had a witness and support and then I met this man and I was really clear about the nature of the emails he'd sent and how inappropriate it had been.
Now he tried to press my buttons and triggers and things that he'd obviously done in the past with people to infuriate or frustrate them but the difference was in this situation that I deeply knew I was okay so I was in a really rock-solid place and pretty much there was nothing he could do that fazed me and I knew beyond his bluster that he was okay too.
I wasn't here to have an argument with him I was here to communicate and just share that he had stepped over some boundaries and had said things that were unfair and unkind and I did that from a place of love and I did that from realising I was okay and that he was okay and the opposite is true when I forget that,
When I get lost in my ego and unsettledness then I look to others as a threat and I start to engage with them in a way that puts them down or defends myself or attacks them.
When I forget I'm okay I forget other people are okay as well.
So today is just a reminder when you know you're okay you'll know that others are okay.
When you forget you're okay you'll forget that others are okay.
Let me know your thoughts and of course don't forget to join me again tomorrow for another five minutes in nature.
