Breaking Free From A Culture of Fear, Guilt & Shame - by Jan Moller

COURSE

Breaking Free From A Culture of Fear, Guilt & Shame

With Jan Moller

This course is about personal growth, about the importance of understanding our own life history and how our way of being and living is influenced by toxic beliefs we carry in our subconscious mind since our childhood. It shows us how to know ourselves beyond our personality in order to return to the authentic version of who we really and thus, be able share our beautiful being with the world. The course is designed as an audio book and is an adaptation of Jan´s book “Self-Discovery, The Challenging Path to a Fulfilling Life". Listening to Jan sharing his thoughts, explanations, advice and recommendations, you will learn how to free yourself from the limiting and negative beliefs created by erroneous teachings received in the past. By understanding yourself more and following his suggestions, you will start feeling better about yourself and improve your way of relating to others, thus achieving greater harmony in your family, social life and work environment. For those of you who have the important task of raising and educating the new generation, this course will also help you not to repeat with your own children or students the mistakes made by past generations.


Meet your Teacher

Jan Moller, a Norwegian national, is a medical doctor, psychotherapist, senior management consultant, coach, keynote speaker, teacher, author, and musician. He has taught personal development, meditation and mindfulness in companies, business schools and universities in Europe and South America for more than 35 years.

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21 Days

4.1k students

4.8 stars

13 min / day

Clarity

English


Lesson 1

The Universal Inferiority Complex

In this first lesson we want to understand what arrogance is, where it originates and how counterproductive this attitude is to learning and development, and the disadvantages it brings to all contexts of life. You will have a chance to become aware of the lack of self-esteem in yourself and others.

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Lesson 2

Spiritual Arrogance

Here we analyze the phenomenon of religious fanaticism - its origin in early childhood, its characteristics, and its dire consequences for humanity.

Lesson 3

Beliefs Are Not Truths

Becoming aware of the immensity of the universe, we assume an attitude of humility toward life and others and we realize that our beliefs are never the truth. The important thing is to make sure our beliefs function as good maps to guide us toward well-being.

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Lesson 4

Lighthouses

The “lighthouses” are the natural principles or laws that do not change when we update or change our maps (assumptions/ theories/ beliefs). They serve as reference points to help us locate ourselves to know if we are near or far from where we want to be. There are 7 lighthouses. In this lesson we will talk about lighthouse #1: permanent change.

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Lesson 5

Responsible Selfishness

In this lesson we study lighthouse #2, The Law of Balance; and #3, "responsible selfishness". We will understand the importance of satisfying our needs in a balanced way and that this is not possible if we are extremely selfish (“I am always number one”) or extremely altruistic (“You are always number one").

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Lesson 6

Everything Is Interconnected

Lighthouse #4, "everything is connected with everything else", uses the holistic model of the human being to define the multiple human dimensions that must be taken into account to achieve balance. Lighthouse #5, "living is an art, indicates the level of complexity that life presents us and the self-knowledge and self-esteem necessary for the development of well-being.

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Lesson 7

The Inner Child

The inner child is lighthouse #6. We all carry inside the boy or girl we once were. Our ability to create well-being depends a lot on the knowledge and understanding we have of this aspect of our internal reality. The seventh and last lighthouse is "If I do not know myself, I cannot love myself." It makes us understand that self-love is only possible if we discover who we really are. If I don't love myself, it's because I don't know my true self.

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Lesson 8

The Paradigms Of Suffering

What if we used a map of New York to guide ourselves in San Francisco, or a map of New York from 1935 to guide ourselves today? We would get lost, right? We would not get where we want to go: a life of well-being. By using wrong or outdated paradigms (beliefs/ assumptions/ maps), we lose ourselves on the paths of suffering. We will consider a total of 8 of these paradigms of suffering. In this lesson we will look at the first two: #1 "Faith is enough", and # 2 "Who am I? is not an important question".

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Lesson 9

The Poisonous Pedagogy

In this lesson we will reflect on one of the most powerful, destructive, and outdated paradigm that has dominated human socialization since the Stone Age: the unwritten rule of “The good child is the obedient child". It is the basis of the so-called “poisonous pedagogy”. It summarizes the traditional autocratic upbringing and education that generates toxic feelings like fear, guilt, and shame in children and leaves them with a deep programming of fear of authority and a more or less blind obedience.

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Lesson 10

Real Men Don't Cry

With the paradigms of suffering #4, “Love has to be earned"; and # 5, “Real men don't cry", we analyze the traditional upbringing and negative effects of conditional love and the repression of feelings.

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Lesson 11

Sex Is Bad

The last three paradigms of suffering are “sex is bad", "success is achieving my goals", and "life is a struggle". Through understanding them, we become conscious of the different problems created by a repressed and distorted sexuality, by not knowing how to enjoy the present and by never being able to relax.

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Lesson 12

Experience, Not Faith, Is Enough

Awareness is the first step towards liberation because it enables us to choose new behaviors. The Paradigms of Wellbeing are the updated versions of the Paradigms of Suffering. As updated maps, they will help us reposition ourselves in the terrain of life and guide us along more positive paths. With them, we regain our self-esteem, natural happiness, and creativity. The first map of well-being is “Experience, not faith, is enough.”

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Lesson 13

The Most Important Question

The paradigm of well-being #2 analyzes the question “Who am I”? It is the most important question, because who are you going to love if you don't know yourself? It is also the most difficult question to answer. In this session we look in detail at how we develop a wrong and distorted self-image in early childhood. You will receive a map that explains the differences between "what am I", "how am I", and "who am I". It will also show you how to get to know the original version of yourself.

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Lesson 14

The Good Child Is Sometimes Disobedient

In this lesson you will learn about the maps of wellbeing numbers 3, 4, and 5: “The good child is sometimes disobedient", I am loved without doing anything", and "Real men do cry". For children, there can be a difference between being loved and feeling loved. Due to their cerebral immaturity, the love they cannot feel does not exist. Therefore, the important question for adults is not whether or not they love their children, but whether the children feel loved by them or not. In this session we explore what it means to give children unconditional love, and how to set limits without humiliating, disrespecting, scaring, or shaming them. We will also see that men have a particular need to learn how to better manage and express their feelings.

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Lesson 15

Sex Is Good

The paradigm of well-being #6, “Sex is good”, relies on Taoist sexology to offer a positive view on sexuality and gives practical advice to achieve greater satisfaction in our sexual life. Maps #7 and #8 "Success is enjoying the ride" and "Life is a mystery to be lived", show you the benefits of living with greater awareness of death and life´s mystery.

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Lesson 16

The Path Of Therapy

Two well-known paths of self-knowledge are the path of therapy and the path of meditation. The combination of the two is excellent because they complement and enhance each other. In this lesson we will analyze the path of therapy. One of the positive effects of psychotherapy is that it reduces the mental "noise" caused by the pain in our emotional memory, which enables us to meditate more easily.

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Lesson 17

The Path Of Meditation

Therapy reduces emotional tensions, but if it does not lead us toward meditation, there is a danger that we will get stuck in, or addicted to, the therapeutic process. In this lesson we will clarify what meditation is, as well as what it is not. We will understand that meditating while we go through the therapeutic process helps us integrate more quickly the new consciousness and the new self-knowledge acquired in therapy.

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Lesson 18

My Ideal World

I know that very few people are satisfied with today's world. I also know that with self-esteem, the human being is positive, proactive, creative, and loving, because self-love liberates the spirit and enables it to express itself. Consequently, and knowing that more and more people are improving their self-esteem and improving the treatment of their children, I dare to dream of a better world. In this lesson I invite you to dream with me.

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Lesson 19

The Paradox

In the same way that the stars are visible only in the dark, sadness and suffering reveal knowledge that joy does not provide us. How can we know what happiness and well-being is if we have not experienced unhappiness and suffering? This aspect of life is both a paradox and a mystery. In this lesson we will go deeper into this topic.

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Lesson 20

Does Evil Exist?

If our basic assumption is that the essence of the human being is love, how can we explain the existence of evil in the world? In this lesson we will try to answer this difficult question.

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Lesson 21

Does God Exist?

In this last lesson, we are looking at the consequences of consciously choosing the assumption that we humans are essentially good. It will become clear that this choice helps us avoid the role of the victim, it enables us to assume responsibility and it gives us power and freedom to take action.

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Recent Reviews

Sonia

Sonia

July 7, 2025

I loved this course. And the last session brought things together in a way that deeply resonated with and made sense to me. I feel more knowing of and at peace with my self, and a greater sense of my connection to all living beings... Wonderful.

Gregory

Gregory

December 30, 2024

Thank you Jan for all your wisdom! It's never too late to change

Myra

May 3, 2024

Some insights jewels

Gilberto

Gilberto

March 28, 2024

A very complete theoretical-practical review of funamental aspects of human existence done with reflection, openness and humility. It provides you with deep and rich reasurances and validation to continue on the path to wisdom and realizing the Good, the Cosmos in this world (with opportunities and responsibility). I'm very, very thankful.

Jill

Jill

December 21, 2023

Such an insightful packaging of wisdom and knowledge from your life. One part reminded me of Plato’s republic which inspired me to dream big and write down my ideal world which can help build my map to direct me towards a better future for myself and the cosmos.

Jocelyne

Jocelyne

September 22, 2023

Interesting new perspectives challenging us to see things differently rather than merely accept old patterns.

Ten

Ten

August 12, 2023

Great topics and explanations. Would have loved a little more on how to deconstruct negative programming and strategies to instill the 8 paradigms of well being.

Lucy

Lucy

August 6, 2023

It took me a while to get through the whole course but it has been a guide and a friend in my journey towards healing and enlightenment. Thank you Jan, your way of introducing the paradigms helped me understand myself better, from a cultural and individual perspective and it has helped me greatly in my journey to become a more conscious mother. I might still be a bonsai, but wish my daughter to be the wild beautiful tree she’s destined to be. Thank you!

Cristina

July 27, 2023

I hope Jan will teach more classes, and I wish that we would be offered the possibility to re listen to some of the material. Thank you very much Jan.

Celeste

June 27, 2023

I really enjoyed this course. It inspired me to think of childhood in a new way. I never believed it had that much influence on who I am today. Additionally, if I ever become a mother I will consider alternative methods of raising them and not blindly follow cultural customs.

Tanja

Tanja

March 15, 2023

Thank you 🙏🏻🌈

Alisa

July 11, 2022

Absolutely illuminating. Did the course twice in one year and likely will do it again.

Rita

Rita

May 23, 2022

Thank you for this wonderful course Jan. I love your wisdom, clarity and simplicity . A wonderful way in which you brought awareness to the big questions in our lives Namaste

Reiner

Reiner

December 31, 2021

Dear Jan, thank you so much for your wonderfull, enlightend course ! I am completely with you. This is for me the most beautyfull course on insight timer by far. The thruth you are teaching is right and real. I am a buddhist, was teached in a monastery in Bhutan by my master holy Lama Dori. May you be free from suffering Jan. ⭐️🙏🏻⭐️ Love, Reiner

vjh

vjh

December 9, 2021

I enjoyed every lesson. Thank you.

Teodora

Teodora

November 28, 2021

Exceptional, mind and soul challenging. I recommend this experience as it presents great questions and paradigms.

Jo

November 10, 2021

Amazing. This has really helped me along on my journey.

Alessandra

Alessandra

October 28, 2021

Many interesting takes on a number of crucial concepts. I applaud you for using so effectively the impositions of your upbringing. In love, thank you

Peter

Peter

September 20, 2021

Very enlightening…thank you. It’s a course that you can visit over and over again to get that continuous reminder it’s about love.

Dina

Dina

September 12, 2021

Thank you for this course, a lot of it really spoke to me and solidified a lot of things for me. I also enjoyed that it was long, something to look forward to every day.