EFT Tapping | Getting Over Social Anxiety

Really want to attend a networking event but scared to? Or maybe you want to try speed dating? If socialising has been something you WANT to do, but fear is getting in the way - try this EFT Tapping to let go of your fear!

Transcript

Hello, Beautiful soul. Welcome to Tap Into Your Magic. My name is Heather, And I'm going to be taking you through a tap-in today to help you clear social anxiety so you're feeling more confident going out and hopefully make the most of this summer. I really want to meet new people. I want to make the most of this summer. I wanna go out and network. And sometimes I even book a ticket. For that event. Find the right outfit. I do my hair and makeup. For about an hour before I'm supposed to leave. I start to feel really anxious. Start to think about all the people I don't know who are gonna be there. How's it going to go? What will I talk about? What if I'm overdressed? Or a million other things that run through my mind. But at the end of the day, I just end up watching the next episode on Netflix. And I tell myself I'm taking care of myself. But I know deep down that I'm just avoiding. I'm avoiding getting. . . Because I know I really want to meet new people. I want to socialize. I don't wanna feel alone anymore. Perhaps it's been a while since I've been in a space with new people or had a new experience. And even though it feels really overwhelming for me right now. I'm choosing to deeply and completely. Love and forgive myself. And I'm ready to take action. Maybe I don't get rid of my social anxiety altogether. But I find a better way to manage it. Alright, Take a deep breath in. Exhale. Shake it off. Okay, If you're a fan of visualisation, Just before we get into the next part of the tapping, This is really important. I'd love for you to close your eyes. If you're not somebody who can visualise very well, You might just want to have a mental picture. But I'd like you to imagine going to a social event, Like you're walking through the door of this new space, Whether it's speed dating or a networking event or some sort of event, Right? And just notice how your body is feeling as you visualize this. Maybe you're thinking, Oh gosh, Who will I talk to? I don't know anyone here. Oh, How long should I stay for? What's my get out clause? Like there might be a myriad of thoughts and feelings coming through. Just be with that for a second. Don't worry about it. Don't come out of the meditation or visualization. I'd like you to. . . Re-enter the space. And this time I want you to feel as though you belong there. That everyone in there could be a potential best friend, A potential lover. That those people in there are just dying to. . . That everyone feels the same as you. Nervous, Sweaty palms. Feel insecure. It is normal. And I want you to come out of that visualization and hopefully you're feeling a different sense of. What these events bring because what normally happens when we're going to go to an event the reason we don't is we start to visualize or we start to create scenarios in our head that aren't true about how oh what if this bad thing happens but The more we're able to visualize it going well, You know, This study's done on this, The better it's going to help you. As I mentioned, We're not, We can't eradicate social anxiety altogether, But we can manage it. So let's begin tapping at the top of the head and hopefully this will feel really, Really good. I'm going to learn how to manage my social anxiety. And not see it as something that stops me from living my life. Because the truth is. . . 99% of people who go to these networking events feel the same as me. We all feel nervous. All feel anxious. We're worried about how we might come across. Feel insecure. And I know I'm not alone. But the problem is I put all the attention on me. What are they gonna think about me? Will they like me? And instead I'm going to take the attention away from myself. Think about those other people in the room. How can I make them feel good? How can I make someone laugh? How can I ask an interesting question? And that makes it feel less scary. Because I belong in every room I enter. Especially if I paid a ticket for it. And. . . I know that this fear It most likely comes from childhood or past experience. Where I have been told or I believe networking and meeting people. Terrifying. Maybe I'm afraid of rejection. Newsflush, We're all afraid of rejection. Well, Instead of seeing rejection as something that determines my self-worth. I just think, Okay, One door closed, Another one opens. And that I love myself. You And I don't need to change to please anybody. And the more that I love and accept all of my quirks and weirdness, I'll also find people just like me. I don't have to put on a mask. Because every time I avoid going to a social event. I miss out on the magic. I miss out on maybe meeting my new best friend. Or my new lover. All because I didn't give myself the chance. And instead of going over the worst case scenarios, I choose to focus on the best case scenarios. If I go to an event and I don't meet people that vibe with me, That's fine. There'll always be another event. And I'll have plenty of funny stories to take away. So I'm going to commit to going to one social event this week. And I'm gonna do some exposure therapy. And I'm gonna walk in there with my head held high. Knowing I'm there to change the vibration. Knowing I belong in that space. And that I can't really trust my feelings. On, Oh, You should stay in because what if this thing happened? This thing happened. What if my nerves are just excitement in disguise? And I'm really excited to meet new people this summer. Or whenever you watch the video. And so it is. All right, Take a deep breath in through your nose. Exhale shake it up and hopefully you are feeling a lot calmer about going to a social event and just remembering those things. We all belong in those spaces. I know I used to avoid networking events like the plague. I'd book tickets and then I wouldn't go to things. And then I realized it was just because I personally was afraid of rejection. I was afraid that people wouldn't like me. I was afraid that it'd be a waste of time. You know, You can come up with a million reasons. But then I thought, Well, If I go, Who knows what could happen? And I go to a lot of networking events now. And once you've been to one, Honestly, The rest of them become a lot easier. And you understand how to talk to people. Listen to me. What I do is. I tend to gravitate towards a small group of people or one person who's also alone and talk to them. And then I branch out rather than trying to go to a big group, Which is quite intimidating. Or you can also bring a friend along if that helps as well. But yeah, Commit to a social event and you probably have some really fun stories and maybe meet someone amazing.