Hello dear friend,
I know you feel exhausted,
Tired and most likely you had enough of always seeking approval from others,
Starting with your parents,
Family or significant other.
When we seek approval from others,
We dismiss what is true for us and unconsciously we choose to give our powers away.
We make ourselves believe that what we really want for us is not that important.
Instead we choose to be nice people and rely on what others want for us.
Doing things only to please others hurts our soul and damages our self-esteem.
Take a deep breath and let's begin our practice.
Settle into a comfortable posture,
Feet firmly planted on the ground.
Place your shoulder blades together and press your shoulders down and away from your ears.
Open the chest and heart space.
Presumably you don't have any neck injuries,
So if you wish you can rotate your head gently to your left and then to your right.
Place your hands in your lap,
Palms facing up.
When you're ready,
Allow your eyelids to settle down and cover your eyes.
Breathe in from the center of the earth right into your solar plexus and release.
Feel your connection to your center and ask yourself the question,
Who would I be if I wouldn't ask approval from others?
Relax your body so more energy can flow,
Move and transcend through you.
Who would I be?
Notice the image that is coming up for you in your mind's eye.
Notice how it feels in your body to be strong and deeply rooted in your feet.
You might be seeing now doors opening for you,
Bringing you new possibilities,
Opportunities,
New ideas and thoughts.
Rest your awareness in the most safe place within you.
For a lifetime you have been seeking others' approval.
Acknowledge your spirit being by your side.
You are never alone.
You are always supported.
Whose approval did you need the most when you were a child?
Bring that feeling back into your body and notice what is your experience now.
Perhaps it comes up as a tightness or heaviness in your chest area or perhaps as a constriction or spasm in your solar plexus.
Breathe into that tightness.
Keep breathing and releasing.
You are doing great.
Imagine a small hole in the middle of the tightness.
As you release the pressure,
Visualize energy seeping out through the hole,
Letting go of the tightness and heaviness.
Take a moment to imagine in front of you the parent whose approval you were desperately seeking.
Tell them that by not receiving their approval,
Your life experiences felt like they were missing something.
Keep breathing in and out.
Slow and deep breaths.
Now go one step further and imagine your parent giving you a big hug,
Saying that they are sorry that they weren't aware of how much their approval meant to you.
Truly apologizing,
Asking for forgiveness as well as giving you their approval.
Take a breath and notice how you feel in your body.
Notice if you experience a shift in your mind and physical body.
With your breath,
Open up the space for any feelings and emotions to arise.
Now that you have the approval of the most important person in your life,
Do you still need others' approval?
Feel deeper and deeper within the core of your being and feel where is your awareness.
Where does your awareness take you in this moment?
Is there still some tightness or congestion anywhere in your body?
Keep breathing to open up the space and create the sensation of openness and spaciousness in your body.
Knowing how valuable you are,
How much you matter to the people who love you dearly.
Take this moment to embrace,
Acknowledge and honor your true value.
How much do you value yourself on a scale of 1 to 10?
Where 1 is not at all and 10 is I deeply value and love myself.
What would it mean to you to have the approval of certain people?
Take a moment to reflect on this question.
Would it change who you really are at your core level?
Remember that your ego will always look for approval.
Even when it has the approval of the whole world but missing one person.
You won't be able to satisfy your ego ever.
Conversely,
Your heart and soul never need anyone's approval.
Just be honest with yourself.
Do you need others approval just to boost your ego?
Relax your body and begin releasing the pressure and tension that comes with desiring others approval.
Practice how would it feel like to let it go first at the mind level.
Take a breath.
Now let it go at the emotional level.
Take another breath.
Let it go from your physical body.
Take one more deep breath and see it vanishing from your energy.
Take a breath and release.
Let yourself feeling what you are feeling in this moment.
Perhaps you are experiencing the thought of feeling less of a human being.
For letting go,
Depending on others for your own decisions.
Breathe in and out,
Relaxing and softening your body.
Notice how you feel in this moment.
Rest in your heart space and become conscious of your true value.
Take this moment to truly and deeply approve of yourself.
Don't give your power away by waiting for others to say yes to you.
How do you feel right now?
Maybe you feel a sense of unconditional love,
Knowing how hard you strived to make yourself proud.
I invite you to feel a wave of peace washing over you.
Say quietly to yourself.
I am at peace with everyone and everything.
I approve of myself.
Rest in this awareness for the next few breaths or for as long as it feels good for you.
