When You Can't Stop Helping | Selfgentle 12

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.

For the ones who give and give, and aren't quite sure where they end and everyone else begins. This episode explores what happens when helping becomes the thing that proves you deserve to be here — and offers a gentle invitation back to yourself.

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Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. You are tired. You said yes when you meant to say no. And somehow you're still the one holding everything together. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from this. It's not just physical. It's the exhaustion of not being sure where you end and where everyone else begins. I've been there. Most of the people I work with have been there most of their lives. And helping is not the problem. The problem is when helping becomes the thing that proves you deserve to be here. When you can't stop, It's often because somewhere inside you, Stopping feels dangerous. Like something will fall apart. Or like you will fall apart. You won't, Dear one. The help you keep giving to others is also yours to receive. Starting now. Starting with yourself. Let's affirm this. Repeat the sentences after me or just listen to my voice. I am allowed to receive as well as give. My worth is not measured by what I do for other people. I can pause without everything falling apart. My needs matter too. I can help from fullness, Not from fear. I give myself the same care I give to others. I am the most important person to consistently deserve my own gentleness. Sit with this for a moment. And you can come back anytime you feel yourself disappearing into someone else's needs.

Reviews

Very timely, thank you