Compassion For Empaths - LIVE Meditation Only 09/16/22

This is (part of) the recording of Femke's Weekly Live on 16 September 2022. This is the meditation only, in which Femke lets you experience for yourself how empaths can be compassionate with an open herat without suffering. The full talk& practice is also available in her list with audio tracks.

Transcript

Let's start by sitting or lying down as comfortable as you can.

And I really mean comfortable.

So make sure that for the next half hour or so you are sitting or lying comfortable.

That you don't have to move,

That you're not going to be annoyed because your foot is uncomfortable.

Really make it comfortable.

You can lean against the back of your chair if you like.

Yeah,

That's right.

Now gently close your eyes.

And be aware for a moment how you're sitting.

Use your sense of touch.

So you've probably feel your bum in the chair,

Your back on the mattress or leaning against the chair.

Your feet on the ground.

How is your face feeling?

Is there any tension?

Is your forehead relaxed?

Your jaws relaxed?

Are your shoulders relaxed?

Now bring your attention for a moment to your heart space.

It's the middle of your chest,

The place where your heart is.

Your beautiful heart,

Just in a biological sense is working really hard for you.

You don't have to ask it friendly to do it.

It just does.

It just loves you.

Just make sure that you are here,

That you are alive.

And next to this biological function,

It's such a beautiful place where you can feel love.

Where you can receive love of others.

Where you can connect with your authentic self.

Where you can connect with who you truly are.

So if you find it hard to have your attention on your heart,

Then just imagine that you see a light there.

It can be any light,

It can be a candle,

It can be a laser beam,

It can be a small light.

You can give it the color of your liking.

And I would love for you to really feel whatever is going on in your heart right now.

And that might be a little bit scary,

But don't be afraid.

Because your heart is not a place that is suffering.

Your heart,

When we say that we have a broken heart,

Is generally not our heart that is broken,

But it is our mind that is feeding us thoughts that are hurtful.

And your heart is then not broken.

Your heart is just telling you,

This is not right.

This is not right.

This is not right.

Whatever you are thinking now about yourself,

That is not right.

I am here to love you.

I am here to tell you that you are love.

I am here to tell you that you are lovable,

That you are worthy.

I am not broken.

Your mind wants me to believe that I am broken,

But I am not.

And I know that might be a hard message,

Man,

It doesn't feel like that.

But just know that your heart is never broken.

Your heart is alive and kicking.

Your heart is beating for you.

Your heart is loving you.

So when you connect with your heart,

It might be that there is still something on your chest.

But basically,

Whatever is on your chest is something your mind has put there.

So you know what?

Let's do an exercise to just pull those things out for a moment.

So you connect to your heart and I know you can feel the power of your heart just below everything.

You feel the fiery,

Pulsing knowledge of lovability,

Of you being worthy.

You can feel that.

You can feel it shining through because it's really,

Really strong.

But it might be that there is something on top of you that you have mistakenly perceived as a heartbreak,

But it's not.

So let's just pull it off.

And you can pull it off in a way that suits you.

So if you're a visual person,

Then you just imagine that you're pulling it off like breaking plaster,

Stones in your hand.

Or if you're more of a sensing person,

Then you can just feel that it's dropping off of you.

Maybe there is a song that bursts out of your heart and you see everything splashing from it.

And you know what?

Don't overthink it.

Don't use your head to do this.

Just let your heart,

Let your imagination,

Let your fantasy tell you whatever happens.

So now imagine that whatever came off is lying in your hands.

And you might want to visualize,

See what it is,

But maybe also not.

Maybe it looks like manure.

Maybe it looks like hard rocks.

Maybe it looks like little worms.

And maybe it is something that you cannot distinguish.

But it doesn't matter.

You just have something there now.

Imagine that there is a box,

A carton box standing in front of you.

Let's just put it there.

Yes.

And you can put it gently.

You can drop it.

You can throw it.

Do it as you like.

All right.

Go back to your heart.

Do you feel some relief?

Yeah.

Is there still something else?

And then let it drop off.

Let it drop off.

Let it just go off.

Just like that.

Into that box.

Yes.

Right.

Like that.

Make it a game,

You know.

Can you feel the power of your heart beating under it?

Can you feel that power of love just helping you to release those things?

Those things that are bugging you,

That have been holding you back so long,

That have made you believe that your heart might be broken.

I am telling you my dear friend,

It is not.

Your heart is brimming over with love.

With power.

All right.

So whatever wants to come off right now,

Put it in the carton box.

Yeah.

Maybe if it pours over,

Just make the box bigger.

This is your fantasy.

You are the director of your fantasy.

Make it as you like it.

Make it bigger.

Fill it.

Yes.

Like that.

All right.

Now let's take a step back.

Put your hands on your heart.

Can you feel that there is a relief?

A relative relief to how you started?

It might be that you cannot still feel the whole power of your heart,

But that's OK.

It's a process.

You can always come back to this practice.

But there is a sense of relief.

I want you to acknowledge that sense of relief.

It feels good.

Relief feels good.

Remember that whenever you feel relief,

That is good.

That's a message from your authentic self to tell you that you're on the right path of connecting with yourself.

That you become self gentle because you let go of things.

Now,

When you look at the box,

I would like you to blow up this box.

And,

You know,

I don't know,

You could think of having a piece of dynamite in your hand,

Throwing it in.

You could imagine that there is a big thunderbolt just banging right into it.

You can imagine putting some gasoline on it and a match and it just starts to burn.

You can imagine it putting it in a big bonfire at the beach.

Whatever feels good to you.

Really.

Just make sure that you set it on fire.

And it's your fantasy,

You know,

Nothing can go wrong.

All right.

So now it's burning.

And there's something beautiful happening.

Something beautiful is happening right now.

You know what?

Because when you look at those flames,

You see that the tops of those flames are colouring green.

I don't know if you've ever seen a really hot flame,

But the top can get a colour,

Blueish,

Greenish.

And this is what you see now.

And these green colours are becoming sparkles and these sparkles are lifting up into the sky.

The most beautiful sparkles.

They are so light.

They're so gorgeous.

They're so loving.

Because all the love that was stuck in these painful moments are being released by this fire right now.

And those sparkles now start to sprinkle all over you.

Like a rain of green,

Blueish sparkles.

Sparkles are a rain of love,

Just on you.

And when you feel your heart,

You feel that it glows.

It now takes the same colour as those sparkles and it just absorbs those sparkles back.

This is a cyclical thing,

You know.

Things that you release,

You set them on fire.

And they can transition to love and come back to your heart.

This is powerful.

Can you feel that?

Alright,

Now I want you to do a different exercise.

I want you to feel your feet on the ground,

Really firmly on the ground.

So put them down.

Make sure that your feet,

Your soles are on the ground.

And I would like you to imagine right now that from your feet roots are growing into the ground.

And they're growing deeply and they're growing widely.

Like the roots of a beautiful big tree.

And you feel those roots going into the ground.

And they're growing wide,

So you're feeling steady,

You're feeling balanced,

But they're also growing deep.

They're growing as deep as to the core of the earth.

This fiery core that makes sure that we are spinning in orbit,

That we're spinning around the X.

That this planet is alive.

That this planet is not dead.

And this earthy energy,

This fire,

Can now shoot up into those roots.

All the way up.

And this energy is coming through those roots into your feet.

Filling your feet,

Filling your ankles,

Filling your calves,

Your shins,

Your knees,

Your thighs,

Your buttocks,

Your whole pelvis,

Into your belly.

All organs,

Around all organs.

All the way up into your upper belly,

Your chest,

Your heart,

Your lungs,

Your shoulders,

Your arms.

It's shooting out of your fingers right now.

It's going up into your neck,

Filling your head and shooting out of the crown of your head like a beautiful fountain.

And this is something that you imagine,

Because of course this is not really flowing through you,

But feel this powerful groundedness.

Feel how you are grounded,

How you are connected to the earth,

This beautiful earth that is here to support you,

To feed you,

To carry you,

To be there for you.

Connecting with this mothering,

Grounding energy of the earth.

Feeling it flowing through you because it doesn't stop.

This fiery core is there and it's never depleted.

It's just flowing through those roots into you,

Flowing over,

Filling you to the brim with the love of the earth.

And while this is happening I would like you to bring your attention back to your heart,

Put your hands there.

What do you feel?

Can you feel this connection?

Can you feel this mother,

Mother earth taking care of you?

And you know what the secret is?

This is always happening.

This connection is always here because you are a creature of mother earth.

You are one of the children of mother earth and she is there for you.

And I know I am speaking in a metaphysical sense,

But just knowing that,

Feeling the earth below your feet,

Feel that you are supported,

That you are carried,

That's so strong,

That's so powerful,

That's already enough.

And visualizing this connection gives you a sense of belonging,

Being taken care of,

Being refreshed,

Rejuvenated,

Connected every moment.

This is happening always.

This connection is always here.

You just have to be aware of it.

You just have to allow yourself to know it.

Let's do a similar thing with our sun.

The sun up in the sky,

Imagine that it's just there with this warm,

Loving light.

And it's trickling down onto the crown of your head,

Filling your head,

Filling your neck,

Filling your shoulders,

Your arms.

Also now it's shooting out of your hands,

Into your chest,

Filling your chest,

Your heart,

Filling all of your belly,

Around the organs,

Through the organs,

Filling everything into your pelvis,

Your buttocks,

Your thighs,

Your knees,

Your calves and shins,

Your ankles,

Your feet.

Shooting into those roots,

All the way down to the earth.

So this is a different kind of feeling.

This is an empowering feeling.

This is a knowledge of knowing that you are worthy.

Mother Earth shows you that you are loved,

You are supported.

And this energy of the sun is letting you know that you are unique,

You are worthy.

So also this connection is always there.

You might not always be aware,

You might not always feel it,

But when you just spend a moment to make this connection,

You can feel it because it's always there.

When you think it's not there,

It means that your head made you think that it wasn't there anymore,

Because your head is relying on old information that you once picked up,

Old programming that tells you that you're not worthy,

You're not lovable,

But this is not true.

You are worthy,

You're lovable.

And this connection tells you this.

You just have to bring your attention here to just know it.

To just feel it.

To allow it to be.

Alright,

Let's bring your attention back to your heart.

And acknowledge how this feels.

This blend of love from earth,

The blend of love from the sun with that love from your own heart.

And when you feel this,

Almost like it's running through you all the time,

You might acknowledge that this love,

This light in your heart will never be depleted.

You only think it's depleted because you believe it's not there,

But it's always here.

So let's see if we can use this for feeling compassion.

I would like you to now think of someone that you love a lot.

Someone who doesn't have any problems,

Someone who is not really suffering,

Someone who just loves you.

And imagine that they are standing in front of you,

Get a sense of their presence,

You can say their name,

You can see them,

You can feel them.

And they are standing in front of you and they are smiling at you.

And when you look at their chest,

You see that they have a big heart,

This big heart that is filled with love.

Also they are connected.

If you take a good look,

You can see that they have the same connection going on.

The connection with the earth,

The connection with the sun,

The connection with their heart.

And now they are doing something so magnificent from that big heart that is never depleted because it's replenished all the time.

They are sending this big laser beam of light and love towards you.

Right from their heart into yours.

And you just feel it flowing,

Mixing with everything that is already going on in you and this is such an empowering and humbling feeling.

And whether this person is still in your life or not,

It doesn't matter.

This is someone that has shown you love,

That has made you realize that you are love and that you are worthy and that you can be loved every moment,

Every split second of the day,

Of every day of your life.

So reciprocate this light towards them.

Their light is still flowing towards you but you feel so much love for them,

You are just sending it back to them.

Back to their hearts and see how they receive it.

See how all these different streams are mixing and blending and that's ok.

It's a beautiful color,

It's vivid,

It's liquid,

It's flowing,

It's moving,

It's flexible,

It's supportive and if it finds some kind of a blockage it just goes over it,

Under it,

Through it,

It's ok.

It just pushes everything off,

Everything that is in the way that can fall into the box,

That could be set on fire another time.

So I hope by now you realize,

You feel the experience,

How easy it is to have this connection and to know that this is always there,

Always here for you.

Now I would like you to imagine that someone in your life that is suffering for whatever reason,

Whether it's just because they have a bad day or a bad mood or it's something really big,

It doesn't matter,

Just pick something that you would like to send your compassion to.

But if you pick someone and you feel immediately that you're cutting off all these connections,

Then it's wise to pick someone else because then you're not ready yet to work with this person and that's ok,

That's really,

Really ok.

Pick someone easier because I want you to know this connection that you just established,

To know that it is always there and if you pick someone that immediately makes you forget this connection then you just need to do some more work on yourself first before you can work with that.

So there's someone in front of you that you know he or she is suffering in a certain way.

Just smile at them,

Feel this connection that you have,

All this love in your heart.

And I want you to just open your heart and send this big laser beam of love towards their heart.

Just send it.

And you don't have to be worried whether or not they receive it,

Whether or not they feel it,

You just send it and you see it entering their heart and you see it spreading in their body from their heart into their shoulders,

Their arms,

Their belly,

Their legs,

Their feet,

Shooting into the ground,

Shooting up also into their heads like a fountain out of the crown of their heads.

Your love is flowing towards them and it's not depleted because you are still connected,

It's just flowing.

And while you're doing this I want you to tell them a message from this place.

You can find your own words.

I will guide you in a few words first and then I will be silent so you can find your own words.

I want you to know that I love you.

I love you and I know that you are love.

I see that you are suffering and I acknowledge that.

And I so wish for you that you can come to terms with whatever is going on and that you can start to feel that you are love.

That you are worthy of love no matter what.

That whatever is going on in your life,

Whatever pain you're having,

Whatever illness you're having,

Whatever heartbreak you're having,

Whatever is going on in your head or your body or your mind or your soul,

In your life,

In your relationship,

Whatever it is,

You are worthy of love because I love you.

And I know that when you connect to that knowledge,

When you feel that,

That there is room for improvement.

Because you are also suffering because you believe you are not worthy right now but you are.

And I want you to know this.

And I want you to know that even though you don't know it,

I know this.

I know that you are worthy.

I know that you are love.

I know that you are lighting up.

I can see it.

And really see this beam of your own heart entering doors.

See how they are lighting up from this beautiful light.

How everything jumps open.

How the roots from their feet are opening.

How your light,

Your love is shining through it.

How it's connecting with the earth,

With the sun,

With you.

And let that light expand.

Let it grow out of your heart so big that it's not just a laser beam but it's like a big bubble of light that is just flowing out of you,

Flowing around you while you're sitting in this big bubble and now it's also around them.

And not just them,

You just let it expand all the way until it encompasses the whole planet earth.

Even more,

Let it grow out until it encompasses the whole solar system.

Just take some time.

I might go a little bit fast but that's okay.

It's your fantasy.

This light is so strong it can be in a split second like that.

It can be as big as the solar system.

And you're in it.

And this person is in it.

And just see them and you might see that they are receiving it,

That they are smiling,

That they have a sense of peacefulness.

And you just know for them that they can get there.

You don't have to tell them in real life.

You can just make this connection and tell them on this level from your heart,

From your heart to theirs.

And the most important thing is also to acknowledge how you feel,

How empowering this feels.

To know this for someone else.

This is pure love my dear friends.

This is unconditional love.

This is unconditional love for yourself.

This is unconditional love for someone else.

And holding that space is so powerful.

And if you do this more often,

If you do this on a regular basis,

You will start to feel different.

And maybe that other person also,

But that is up to them.

That is not in your control.

That is not your responsibility.

But you will feel different,

Which means that you will be acting different,

You will be saying different things and that in itself might shift things for the better.

Just don't expect them to go where you are going if they cannot yet.

Because that's okay.

Everyone has their own journey.

Everyone has their own pathway.

And you are on yours,

Connected and well.

And this is so beautiful.

Alright,

Let go of the image of the other and bring your attention back to your heart.

Because I would really love for you to acknowledge for yourself that you are okay.

That you are connected with yourself.

You are connected with whatever you call it,

Your intuition,

Your connection with God,

Our source,

The universe,

The earth,

Human beings,

With yourself,

With your heart.

It doesn't matter as long as you feel how empowering it is.

Remind yourself to go here from time to time.

To carve out the moment in the day to make this connection.

Just for one minute.

Feel your heart.

Know it to be connected.

Alright,

Now you can let go of your attention of your heart.

You can put your hands in your lap.

And while keeping this feeling alive,

I would like you to take slowly your time to get out of the meditation.

I would start with wiggling your fingers and toes.

Maybe stretch a little bit,

Stretch your spine.

And then take a minute,

Maybe two,

To slowly open your eyes.

But make it slow,

Take your time.

Do it with ease,

Like everything in your life can be done with ease.

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Femke’s words are wise; her images vivid and accessible; and, most important, her voice resounds with love and compassion. An ideal uplifting meditation.