COURSE

How To Ask For What You Need In Relationships

With Stacey Bennington | Psychotherapist & Coach

Most of us were never taught how to ask for what we need. Some of us learned that needs were a burden. Others learned to ask indirectly, hoping someone would notice. And some of us stopped feeling our needs altogether, because it was safer that way. In this course, you will explore where that pattern started, why it keeps showing up in your relationships, and what it actually looks like to begin honoring your needs without apology. Each lesson builds on the last, taking you from understanding why needs feel dangerous all the way to practicing what a needs-honoring relationship looks and feels like in real life.

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Meet your Teacher

Stacey Bennington | Psychotherapist & Coach

Denver, CO, USA

Stacey Bennington is a registered psychotherapist in Colorado and a nationally certified school psychologist with an Ed.S. in School Psychology. She is also a board-certified medical support hypnotherapist, a certified integrative nutrition health coach, and a certified integrative attachment theory coach. With a multidisciplinary background, her work integrates attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and practical, body-based approaches to emotional well-being. She specializes in helping individuals and couples understand how early attachment patterns shape their relationships, communication, and emotional responses, including the anxiety that underlies so many relationship patterns, and how to build more secure, connected ways of relating. Stacey's approach blends science-based insight with accessible, everyday practices, supporting people in reducing relationship anxiety, reconnecting with their bodies, building awareness, and creating meaningful, lasting change.

5 Days

5 students

5.0 stars

5 min / day

Connection

English

Lesson 1

Why Needs Feel Dangerous

Before you can start honoring your needs, you have to understand why they feel so threatening in the first place. This lesson explores the early experiences that teach us needs are burdens, and how those early lessons become the blueprint for how we show up in every relationship we enter.

Lesson 2

The Needs You Give vs. The Needs You Crave

Most people are much better at meeting other people's needs than their own. This lesson explores the pattern of giving what you wish you were receiving, how it quietly drives resentment, and what your giving actually reveals about your own deepest unmet needs.

Lesson 3

Why Asking Feels Like Begging

For many people, asking directly for what they need triggers a deep, visceral shame. This lesson unpacks where that feeling comes from, why asking and begging feel like the same thing in the nervous system, and how to start separating the two so you can ask without the weight of that old shame underneath it.

Lesson 4

Learning To Receive Without Guilt

Even when someone offers exactly what we need, many of us struggle to receive it. We deflect, minimize, or redirect the attention back to them. This lesson explores the surprising difficulty of receiving, why it triggers guilt or discomfort for so many people, and what it looks and feels like to actually let something in.

Lesson 5

Building A Needs-Honoring Relationship

A relationship where both people can ask for and receive what they need is not built in a single conversation. It is built incrementally, through small acts of honesty and repair. This final lesson pulls together everything from the course and offers a practical way to begin building that kind of relationship, whether you are starting fresh or shifting the dynamic in something long-standing.

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