Hi friends,
Thanks for joining me today.
It's Anita Kaiser here from Anita Kaiser Wellness.
And if you're not familiar with me,
I'm a coach who works with empaths and highly sensitive entrepreneurs.
I help them find more business success by healing the trauma patterns that are getting in their way.
And I wanted to talk today about spiritual bypassing and what that means.
It happens a lot in healing professions where for better or worse,
We want to move through the negative emotions quickly.
And as a coach,
As someone who's holding space,
As someone whose priority is nervous system safety,
It's really important that we don't try and rush through those negative emotions.
And negative emotions,
Right,
I think that term is interesting on its own.
There are a whole range of emotions available to us.
And just because some of them don't feel as good doesn't mean that they're bad,
Right?
Each aspect of us when we feel something is powerful.
So when you're feeling sad,
Most of us were taught to snap out of it,
Move on.
Why aren't you feeling better yet,
Right?
And part of that is because it's very uncomfortable for other people to sit with your discomfort,
Just as it feels very uncomfortable for you to sit with that discomfort.
But when you're feeling sad,
And you try and convince yourself that you should just get over it,
Or you're better off than other people,
Or it's not so bad,
Or whatever the story is,
You're actually telling those feelings and saying to your nervous system that it's not safe to feel that way.
And you're not feeling good,
And you're not feeling good,
And you're not feeling good,
That it's not safe to feel that way.
And so when you have that sense of not safe within you,
It's very hard to feel safe in the world.
Without that sense of safety,
It's very challenging to be in your power.
When you're working with someone,
You want to work with someone that can hold that space for whatever emotions you've got.
So if you're sad,
You want space to be sad until you're no longer sad.
And that might sound funny,
It might be challenging to think like that,
Right?
So many of us are often afraid of,
You know,
If I start to cry,
If I feel into that emotion,
It's going to be an abyss that swallows me up.
But I promise you,
It will not swallow you up.
You might be sad for a bit of time,
Depending on how long you've been trying to push that sadness away.
But the minute you say to that sadness,
Gosh,
I feel you and I love you anyway.
Everything changes.
All right,
I hope that was helpful for you.
If it was,
Let me know.
Thanks so much and have a great day.
