I Do Not Need Their Approval

You do not need everyone's approval. You are not here to be judged, measured, or compared. Come to this meditation when you know you need to let go of being approved of. When you feel you're losing yourself in what someone else thinks of you, use this meditation to gently bring you back. We will call back the parts of yourself using a powerful visualisation and affirm your worthiness together.

Transcript

Come into this space when you can feel you are placing way too much importance and energy on what someone else thinks of you whether they approve of you,

Whether they like you,

Whether they think positively towards you and that could be someone that you're dating,

Someone that you're waiting for a message back from could be someone that you're with in a partnership,

It could be your boss,

It could be someone completely different but that feeling of I'm anxiously awaiting their approval or I'm worried they're going to see me in a bad light or I'm worried that something's going to go wrong What happens when we come into this space is that we completely disconnect from our own self-value,

Our own self-worth and we place all of that power,

That deciding nature in their hands and it's simply not true What someone else thinks of you does not define who you are and what someone else is thinking or approving of does not define who you are so let's get comfy together and we're going to take a breather to begin with and we're going to start to affirm all of the reasons why we don't want to be over there with them and slowly start to bring your power back so when you're ready find a comfy position and you can do this laying down,

You can do this sitting up whatever feels best for your body today and when you find that place we are just going to start to breathe we're going to start to ground back into the body because no doubt if you're thinking about someone else,

Feeling anxious about what they're thinking then you're not going to feel grounded in your own body so just start to allow your chest or your belly to rise and fall as you breathe take some long deep slow nourishing breaths breathing in allowing the chest or the stomach to rise breathing out and allowing the stomach,

The chest to fall back down again this somewhat comforting grounding feeling of the body rising and falling this is your anchor,

This is your base up on more breaths here,

Just feeling into that,

Feeling into how your breath feels,

How your body feels and so bring into mind whatever is going on for you right now with giving away your power placing too much emphasis on what they think of you and i want you to almost see this as though there's this golden ball this golden crystal or you might even think of it a bit like in harry potter that golden quidditch,

This really valuable golden ball and i want you to imagine that this belongs to you golden ball,

This golden energy totally belongs to you and yet you have allowed someone to come along and steal that from you whether they did it intentionally or not whether you in fact actually gave it away to them and they didn't even want it or whether whatever has happened with it doesn't matter i want you to imagine that this person is over there,

Wherever they are with that which belongs to you feel into that,

Start to see that this person who hasn't messaged you back this person who you don't know where you stand with this person at work where you're feeling on edge with them that you don't know what they're thinking of you whoever it is,

Picture that they are holding this precious golden ball that belongs to you and effectively they've stolen it whether they did that intentionally or not or whether you handed it over to them now this ball represents your value it represents the value that cannot be taken away from you and so just as though you've realized that someone has a belonging of yours that you've forgotten to call back,

You've forgotten to ask for it back i want you to imagine in your mind that you are now energetically taking that back so picture them again wherever they are,

Wherever you see them and you're just perhaps calling it back so that you don't even have to be there almost maybe it just flies through the air back to you this powerful call or maybe you approach them in your mind and say hey this actually belongs to me,

I'm going to take this back you either see them handing it back to you or you see that they maybe haven't even noticed but this ball,

This energy that represents your self-worth,

Your self-value flies back to you so quickly because it knows where its natural home is,

It knows who it wants to be with it wants to be with you just breathe into that,

Feel that sense of it's back with me that person over there has none of my energy at least not in a bad way again a couple more breaths there as you start to feel back into your power this person no longer has any power over you and you affirm to yourself that you are valuable,

You do not need anyone else's approval you do not need to be giving your power away running around after other people making sure they approve of you because it's not possible for everyone to approve of us nor should they,

Nor do we need them to the only person who you need to get the approval from is from yourself because that will change your life if you approve of you,

If you like you then that sets the tone it sets the tone for people coming into your life who value you as well and it means that you are holding such a level of self-respect that is magnetic and is also compassionate and kind it doesn't mean you are above anyone it doesn't mean that you think of yourself as better than it means that you see yourself just in a positive way,

In a way where you have so much respect for yourself that you wouldn't treat yourself badly if someone doesn't want to message you back then let them,

Fine,

Their choice,

Their decision if somebody doesn't want to date you anymore that can feel heartbreaking,

I know,

But fine,

Then they don't want to,

Then they're not a match to you don't let that make yourself feel as though you're not good enough if someone doesn't see your value at work,

Well come back into the power of why would i even want to be around them anyway why would i even want this person's approval if they don't actually see my value bring a bit of that fire back in of why would i want this person's approval if they can't see my worth,

I'm not racing around chasing after them again,

Not in an arrogant way but in a way where you realise any self-respecting person in their energy doesn't do that and that's not a criticism,

That's not to put yourself down oh no i'm not respecting myself,

No no no don't put yourself down with that,

Just see it that it's so important for you to hold this self-respect so a few more deep breaths here and if you want to,

If you want to journal on this a little further as you come out of this meditation stick around and i'll talk you through a few journal prompts but just start to bring your breathing back again and notice the rise and fall of your chest of your stomach look feel that more fiery energy back with you feel that which belongs to you is now back with you,

It's not lingering around in the ether with anyone else you do not need their approval if they don't see your worth,

Perhaps that's not someone you even need to be around and if they do,

If you do want this person in your life the more you see your own worth the better chance you've got of them seeing it too so begin to blink your eyes open if they were closed and so if you want to go a little deeper on this some journal prompts or things you can ask yourself are when did i start learning that it was a good idea or that i even should race around looking for people's approval where was i taught this,

Where did i learn this did i see one of my parents do that themselves did i feel with one or both of my parents that i needed to race around looking for their approval because i didn't get their approval where did i learn this who did or didn't teach me that it was actually a good thing to hold a high level of self respect a high level of self value to not place everyone's needs above your own did anyone in your life teach you that and if they didn't just acknowledge that maybe no one's taught me that in fact maybe someone in my life taught me the opposite of that go gentle on yourself and allow yourself to keep affirming this message that you are valuable and it's not your mission to race around trying to get everyone to approve of you you have permission to let go if people do not approve of you then they don't it doesn't have any reflection on your worth deep breath and i will see you again soon

Reviews

I never realized I gave away power and self worth to another. Taking back my golden ball of light was so powerful. Thank you 🙏