3 Steps to Sorry 1.
A clear acknowledgement of the hurt caused,
Expressed sincerely,
Without focusing on your reasons.
I'm sorry that I hurt you.
Then let go.
Step 2.
Only if both people are guided to this further exploration.
This is an exploration of the feelings you both had at that time,
Which may lead to a deeper understanding of why you acted the way you did.
Step 3.
Let go,
Allow and trust in the process as things unfold.
If you find yourself revisiting the situation in your mind,
Try setting an intention or saying a prayer each time you feel hooked.
This will help you stay grounded in daily interactions and each instance becomes a small micro-practice for your wellbeing.
You deserve that validation.
Life is tough after all.
I created this audio because I was stuck in my own feelings about my actions.
The realisation of the damage I caused came far too late.
Once I was able to fully own my actions in Step 1 without justifying them,
I began to move forward,
And it felt freeing.
In my case,
It wasn't the right time to move to Step 2,
To explore the feelings and the reasons behind what happened.
And it may never be the right time for Step 2.
Sometimes people may just not want to go there.
And this is something we need to rest in acceptance with.
Therefore,
We sometimes need to go from Step 1,
The sincere apology,
To Step 3,
Which is allowing,
Stepping back.
I can rest in Step 3,
Choosing to set an intention for the relationship to heal and sometimes even offering a small prayer for this.
Now consider your situation,
Let's say it only involved Steps 1 and 3,
Without exploring feelings or justifying your actions,
Which is Step 2.
Over time,
Positive moments may arise,
Gradually building on each other.
Sometimes these moments can lead to a restoration of trust,
Or occasionally to a reconciliation where the relationship grows stronger than it was before.
This could take time though,
If it happens at all,
It may not,
But at least you've acted in alignment with your values.
Three steps to sorry.
Number one,
A clear acknowledgement of the hurt caused,
Expressed sincerely,
Without focusing on your reasons.
I'm sorry that I hurt you.
Then let go.
Step number two,
Only if both people are guided to this further exploration.
This is an exploration of the feelings you both had at that time,
Which may lead to a deeper understanding of why you acted the way you did.
Step number three,
Let go,
Allow and trust in the process as things unfold.
We are only ready to truly make amends when we can sincerely apologise for the hurt we've caused,
Fully acknowledging it,
Period.
