Dear friends,
Welcome to Mohanji Speaks.
These are answers to questions from listeners.
Thank you for sending them.
I will try to answer them as best as I can.
This question is from a listener and it's actually a series of questions.
So we'll take them one in turn.
But the first section is around sensations in the body.
How do you accept these without judgment?
One word,
The answer is witnesshood.
Imagine your body is like a car.
What is the purpose of the car?
Utility for travel from one location to the other.
What is the utility of the body?
To experience earth and various aspects of earth.
The journey is from birth till death.
When you are going through various sensations,
Various emotions,
Various experiences and when you are having various expressions,
Just witness them all.
Because that's not the end.
They are all coming and going.
Witness them,
Enjoy them,
Appreciate them.
So that you will be stable always.
You don't have to be involved in it.
At the same time you can experience it.
Experience life as it comes with gratitude.
Look at everything gratefully.
Even anger,
Hatred,
Jealousy,
Everything you look at it as flavors of life.
But you are not any of them.
You have nothing to do with them.
They are just experiences.
Various flavors you are experiencing.
It does not matter what is the cause.
But experiences you take as neutral.
They are happening.
They come,
They go.
You are watching.
And then along the lines of this,
The questions ask when is it important and necessary to express feelings?
How do you prevent abuse?
And is it enough just to acknowledge these feelings and write them down rather than actually addressing them to a person?
The situations of life have reasons for it.
The causes.
One of the major causes for every experience of life are the patterns.
Patterns have their roots in some kind of suppression.
Fear,
Guilt or those kind of emotions.
One other reason for these events of life are desires,
Inclinations,
Tendencies,
Fears and concepts or various things connected to various aspects of existence.
So they are all inside us.
And corresponding experience happens in life.
So what is the best way to handle them?
First of all,
Accept them.
Okay,
This is my situation and unique to me.
And then what best I can do in this situation?
If discussion will work,
Definitely discuss with another person,
Sort it out.
If acceptance will work,
Accept it.
If something has to be changed,
Like for example,
Relocation,
Removal,
Any aspect which takes you to be peaceful,
Which helps you to be peaceful,
That's fine.
But violence is not fine.
Somebody is showing violence and you become violent.
That only aggravates the situation.
It's only adding oil to fire.
But first of all,
Have awareness about the situation,
Each situation as it comes.
Look at it objectively,
Accept them as it is and then ask the question,
Now what can I do here?
What is the right action?
Always choose discussion first.
Discuss peacefully.
Sometimes the other person is not able to listen properly.
In that case,
You may have to use some other method where he gets to listen,
Maybe through a friend or through a person whom he respects or she respects.
Like that,
You can convey the message properly.
Or through your own kindness and compassion and your own lifestyle,
You can transform people.
This happens.
Some people do not get love from home,
But they get enough and more love from the society because of their kindness and compassion,
Because of their disposition,
Because of their orientation and expression,
They get love.
So instead of expecting love from everybody,
You choose to experience or you choose to express your highest potential.
That will fetch a lot of love and respect from the world.
That will compensate your situation.
And then about certain situations,
So this question is around about stopping engaging in enjoyable activities,
Sensual,
Touching or sexual and a view that a dogmatic approach to enlightenment is dangerous as the person is trying to kill pleasures.
You cannot kill anything.
The sensual,
Sexual and things related to senses are usually connected to instincts.
The primary instinct of every being on earth is survival.
Survival has two major aspects.
One is food for sustaining the body and second is sex to sustain the species.
For all the species on earth,
Both are not a difficult thing to handle because they go about their ways as per instinct leads them.
But for human beings,
Because we have a potential for higher awareness and liberation,
We consider some of these things as a problem.
They are not problems.
They are essential necessities.
Body needs them,
Species needs them.
We got to handle them in its own merit.
Whatever is connected to your body should not be kept in your mind.
Whatever has to be handled by your mind,
Let it be so.
What is required for the body,
Such as food,
Should be given to the body when you have the appetite,
When the body asks for it.
Sexuality is also essential in our system.
Otherwise,
Without sexuality,
There is no species.
These are all essential aspects of existence.
By suppressing them,
Denying them,
Or thinking that doesn't exist,
Or you have grown beyond it,
What happens is,
They come back with more energy and more impact.
I always recommend accepting because that's the right way to handle everything.
Accept whatever your conditions are,
Whatever your situations are.
If you accept everything of life,
I have these inclinations,
I have these tendencies,
I have these desires,
And that's fine.
All people have them.
Address them with a cool head.
Don't deny it and say that I don't have it.
You try to pretend to the world that you are beyond all this.
It won't work because no pretension ever works.
Pretensions do not work.
When pretension happens,
Suppression happens.
Suppression happens,
Postponement happens.
At another stage,
It will come back in its full capacity.
It's important that we handle everything of life,
Anything connected to instincts,
Anything connected to desires,
Tendencies,
And inclinations,
In its own merit,
And respect it.
We have to respect ourselves.
We have to respect our feelings and emotions.
And then,
How do you overcome it?
By focusing on something much larger,
Much higher,
So that the lower drops off.
That's the way to completely eradicate certain things from your system.
Keep your focus steady on a larger goal,
Such as your own personal growth through increase the awareness in the society,
To something much larger,
Such as you have the right to be peaceful inside,
And nothing outside can touch you.
If that kind of a situation can be conveyed properly with your own life,
Leading by example,
That would be a good goal in this lifetime,
Because the potential of being a human is well used.
That way,
You can come above everything,
And you can attach yourself or connect yourself to a very large goal,
Where eventually liberation would be the only option,
And it will happen.
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