Why Love Feels So Hard – And How To Heal It - by Ranjith Vallathol

COURSE

Why Love Feels So Hard – And How To Heal It

With Ranjith Vallathol

This trauma-informed course helps you understand why love can feel so difficult, and guides you through healing anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment patterns. Through deep inner reflection, guided meditations, and compassionate practices, you’ll learn to recognize your emotional triggers, soothe your inner child, and build a new foundation of safety in love. You’ll leave this course with more clarity, emotional regulation tools, and a stronger connection to the part of you that is finally ready for healthy, secure relationships.


Meet your Teacher

Ranjith is a psychologist, certified neuroscience coach, and a yoga and meditation teacher with a background in applied psychology. Ranjith is also a certified Yoga & Meditation teacher as well. He blends modern science with ancient wisdom to help people heal emotional wounds and reconnect with their inner wholeness. His work gently bridges psychology, spirituality, and mindfulness to guide others toward deep personal transformation and lasting self-awareness.

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7 Days

326 students

5.0 stars

9 min / day

Forgiveness

English


Lesson 1

Why Love Feels So Hard

This lesson explores why love, something we deeply long for, can often feel overwhelming, painful, or unsafe. You’ll discover how your earliest emotional experiences and nervous system patterns shape the way you receive and respond to love today. This is the starting point for shifting out of confusion and self-blame, and beginning to see your relationship patterns with compassion and clarity.

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Lesson 2

What’s My Pattern? Identifying Your Attachment Style

In this lesson, you’ll learn how to recognize when your adult self is present in love—and when your inner child is unconsciously leading the way. We’ll explore how unresolved emotional wounds drive reactivity, people-pleasing, and fear of abandonment, helping you begin the process of loving accountability and gentle reparenting.

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Lesson 3

Meeting The Wound With Compassion

This lesson introduces you to the roots of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles. You’ll understand how these patterns were shaped by your earliest caregivers and why they continue to show up in adult relationships. With awareness comes the power to heal and choose something new.

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Lesson 4

Soothing The Storm – What To Do When You’re Triggered In Love

This lesson teaches you how to work with emotional triggers in real time. You’ll learn nervous system regulation tools and compassionate inner dialogue practices to help you stay grounded during conflict, rejection, or relational fear. A short guided practice is included to support integration.

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Lesson 5

Tracing The Roots – When Did I First Feel This Way?

In this lesson, you’ll explore when your core emotional wounds around love first began. By identifying the age and context in which these stories were formed, you gain insight into why certain triggers feel so intense—and how to meet them with presence and love.

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Lesson 6

Triggers In Love – How to Stay Grounded When You’re Activated

This lesson focuses on practical steps to stay grounded and self-connected during emotional triggers in relationships. You’ll learn how to talk to your inner child in the moment, shift your default response, and build trust with yourself—even when your heart feels overwhelmed.

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Lesson 7

Becoming Safe To Love – Walking With My Inner Child

In our final lesson, we integrate everything you’ve learned into a new, healing relationship with yourself. You’ll be guided through a powerful meditation to walk forward hand-in-hand with your inner child, embodying safety, presence, and love—no longer from fear, but from wholeness.

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5.0 (27)

Recent Reviews

Aimee

Aimee

November 16, 2025

Beautiful course! I now realize how important my inner child relationship is across all relationships. I also did your inner child course months ago and I truly loved it. Thank you for doing this work and sharing your light here! You're one of my favorites!

Arani

August 4, 2025

Insightful suggestions and reminders to hold compassion for oneself... And others 🙏💜 Thank you

Mathew

May 13, 2025

Really thoughtful, powerful and healing.

✨Sharon✨

✨Sharon✨

May 12, 2025

✨Thank you

Amy

Amy

April 28, 2025

Powerful and insightful Truly shifting

Jill

Jill

April 25, 2025

This course was just what a needed to help recognize my fears and patterns in love. I look forward to beginning the next course. Thank you

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