Irritated By Someone You Love | Selfgentle 07

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.

It can feel uncomfortable to admit it, but sometimes the people you love are the ones who irritate you most.

In these two minutes, we gently explore irritation without turning it into shame. Emotions are signals, not verdicts.

Selfgentleness does not require endless patience. It invites honesty with yourself.

This short reflection and affirmation practice supports you in staying on your own side, even when you feel reactive.

If you would like to build a steady selfgentleness practice, explore my course Start Living Selfgentle Today here on Insight Timer.

You are also warmly invited to Femke’s Selfgentleness Hour, every second Friday of the month, where we reflect and practice together live.

You can come back to this anytime.

Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. It might be uncomfortable to admit, But sometimes, The people we love most are the ones who can irritate us most. Perhaps they have crossed a boundary, Or maybe they don't see what you need, And perhaps you are simply tired. And then comes the second part, Where you judge yourself for feeling irritated. Self-gentleness doesn't ask you to be endlessly patient. It asks you to be honest with yourself, Because that irritation is often a signal. And that signal doesn't have to say anything about your loved one, But it says something about your own capacity. So when you feel it, Don't feel bad about it. You can notice it and ask yourself what you need. Let's affirm this together. You can repeat the words with me, Or just listen to my voice. I am allowed to feel irritation. I am allowed to feel whatever I feel. My emotions are signals. I can feel something without acting on it immediately. I don't need to blame myself for being human. And I can respond with clarity, Instead of being critical of myself. I can tune in and ask myself what it is that I need. I stay on my own side. I'm with me. Sit with this for a moment, And just know you can come back to this any time.

Reviews

Thank you, Femke. This was a gentle and sweet reminder. 🙏🦋

Thank you for these weekly Selfgentleness meditations.