The Price For The Illusion Of Non-Loneliness

In this talk, we address the hidden cost of staying in "half-relationships" just to avoid being alone. Many of us trade our peace for a social standing or a hollow sense of company, but if your heart is hurting, you aren't actually less lonely; you're just distracted.

Transcript

A lot of women, Men too, But I see this in women even more, Are afraid of being lonely. They will agree to half relationships, Situations where they're not treated well. If that's you, I have a question for you. What price are you paying for the illusion of non-loneliness? Because it is an illusion. If you're not being treated well, Your heart isn't happy. Your heart isn't satisfied if you're not being treated well. So how much are you giving? What are you giving up for the illusion or for the social standing of not being lonely? I find that the best actions come out of rest. The best words I've written, The words I've spoken have come out of silence. The best relationships come out of time alone. If you don't allow yourself time not in a relationship, Or if you're not okay with the stillness, The true depth between relationships, I don't think you will end up in a happy relationship. And if you are in a relationship that you know you're in, Just to not be lonely, Start writing down. Start a notebook. What are you doing in the relationship? What are you receiving in the relationship? But most importantly, When does your heart hurt? Start writing down when do you feel pain? When is the relationship hurting you? And then, And I'm not saying relationships should be transactional. It's not about like, Oh, He gives me this, I give him this, She gives me this, I give her this. It's not about that. But if your heart hurts, There's a reason that you feel in pain. Start jotting those situations down, Read through them, See if it's worth it. And I wish you only happy relationships, And I wish you only relationships that actually make your heart sing.