Facing Someone Difficult

Facing someone difficult with compassion and non-judgmental awareness can be very transformative. Take a trip in nature with a stroll through an autumn landscape where you meet someone familiar. Let me know what you think of this one!

Transcript

Welcome to this meditation of facing a situation or a person that has been troubling you.

Take in a deep breath through your nose and out through your nose.

And let's do that again.

And let's just start to bring awareness to this present moment as we are resting here in full awareness and taking this time for ourselves to heal in a beautiful way.

So see yourself out in nature and you're going for a walk in a beautiful scenery.

You see the trees swaying in the wind.

You can hear the leaves rattling.

It's autumn or fall as they say in America.

The summer has passed and it is now autumn.

You smell the freshness in the air.

You see things on the floor that have dropped from the trees that will soon turn into new life.

You keep going along and really tuning in to the bliss of nature and everything that is communicating with you.

So it's not just calming you,

It is also telling you many things.

How to be more present.

Just really tune into this to what is going on here on your beautiful walk through this autumn landscape.

You walk along a very long path but you can't see the end of it.

It keeps going,

Keeps going.

And on the side there are trees planted in a beautiful way guiding your path.

Trees grow in different directions and although it may look chaotic to some people,

Nature is in perfect balance.

The trees support each other,

Giving each other nutrients when one is weaker.

They don't judge each other for how they've grown as they know that everything comes together as a whole.

And the trees need each other and their uniqueness in order to form the forest which ultimately benefits and ensures the survival and existence for each and every one of them.

As you take in more of the sensations and smells that surround you,

You start to see a person appear in the distance on this path.

Set your intention of how you want to greet this person when they cross you.

You cannot see who it is,

You cannot see if it's a male or female or who it is,

But you know it's a person and you have the opportunity now to choose how you will greet them.

Or maybe you choose to go with the flow and to just greet them in whatever way feels right to you in that moment.

You both get closer and closer and you're both enjoying this blissful autumn landscape.

Seeing the squirrels running up the trees chasing each other,

Having fun,

Breathing in this beautiful fresh air which rejuvenates both of you.

And you start to feel so happy that this person gets to also experience the bliss and the nourishing nature that you get to experience.

It feels great to share like this and to know that they're also doing something to nourish their being and to let go of struggles they've been facing in their day-to-day life.

As they get closer you start to realize it is the person that you've recently had a bit of a challenging time with.

If this is an argument that has happened recently or trouble that has been going on for a long time it doesn't matter.

You set the intention not to change how you want to greet them.

And as they get closer and closer you bring absolute awareness to how you feel as they come closer.

Not judging anything that you feel,

Just bringing awareness to how you feel.

Awareness and acceptance and non-judgment of how you feel.

You feel the way that you feel for a reason and there's nothing wrong with that.

Maybe the way that you feel was to protect you.

So as they get closer and closer you only have a couple of steps left until you meet each other and you can see that they've also recognized you and they're getting ready for this moment of meeting each other.

You can now see eye to eye and you can now go ahead and greet them in the way that you'd like.

Maybe there are not many words needed here right now,

Maybe just looking into each other's eyes is enough of communication already and you were exchanging things that you both wanted to say to each other or wanted to understand about each other but you haven't yet had the opportunity to do so.

Maybe words are being exchanged and what is it that you want to tell them right now?

Is it your side of the story that you want them to hear that you feel you need to express?

Do you feel the need to apologize for anything that you've done?

Whatever it is,

Whatever you feel like saying right now,

Trust yourself,

It's perfect.

Love how this person responds to what you're saying and notice how their guard drops just a little bit as they understand you more and more because this surrounding,

This peaceful nature has such a calming effect on both of you that your channel of communication is much clearer and you both have much more compassion than you've had before.

Feeling this compassion deep in your heart,

It is now your turn to listen to what they have to say to you.

What is it that they're saying?

And as they express themselves and share their version of what is going on in the situations that you've been in,

What is going on inside them that made them act the way that they did,

Just bring non-judgmental awareness to how that makes you feel.

Knowing there's nothing wrong with the way that you feel but it could be telling you something about some traumas that you have,

Some wounds,

Some things you could maybe work on a little bit.

Or maybe it is clearly communicating with you what your boundaries are or what they should be.

You can really feel how nature in this moment is aiding both of you in your communication and your healing because so many birds and beautiful animals have started to gather around both of you.

Some birds are singing a beautiful song and the trees are there to calm both of you.

You're in a very safe space here right now and it feels good just to have expressed yourself and to have listened,

To have gained a little bit more understanding of each other's pain and where both of you are coming from.

If you'd like,

Just before both of you go in separate directions,

You could hug to say I hear you.

It's okay but you don't need to.

You could also just thank each other and go your own ways,

Whatever feels right to you is perfect.

Walking back down this path in the opposite direction,

You're both enjoying this nature as much as before.

It is still healing you as much as before.

It is fully accepting you as much as before and you feel lighter having had this exchange with that person.

You realise that communication really is key and although it can be uncomfortable to face things at times,

There are many lessons to be learned from facing things.

Maybe there are things in us that we can explore and heal.

Maybe there are boundaries that we need to set,

Healthy boundaries.

Just trust yourself and honour yourself for facing this situation with so much love,

With such an open heart,

So much compassion and you will carry this into all relationships and all the people that you meet,

Making this world a better place.

Letting go of hatred and being stuck in the ego,

Always wanting to be right but instead returning to love and open heart,

Compassion,

Gratitude and most importantly the willingness to listen and understand but also to express yourself,

How you feel and not judging yourself for it.

Feel the air,

The fresh air in your face,

Hear the sounds that are made as you walk on this path and get ready to return to this room as you open your eyes.

Have a beautiful day.

Thank you for meditating with me.

Much love.

Reviews

I had a very challenging day. I had 3 different situations where I was met with people who had aggressive behavior towards me. I absolutely hate conflict. I usually have an automatic response to flee from the situation. I found this meditation at the perfect time and it helped me be able to explore what happened today with compassion and empathy for the other people involved. Thank you for creating this meditation.

Thank you. This mediation helped me to deal with some painful feelings I have experienced in relation to a colleague at work. It gave me greater insight into the cause of the difficulties and helped me to see my own part in this situation through a lack of boundaries.

Thank you, thank you!
I am going to a family gathering today and must be In the presence of one of my brothers that molested me as a small child. It’s been awhile since I have had to face him. In this meditation, I was able to draw boundaries and express myself to him. I feel better prepared to see him now.

This is what I need to remember