Welcome.
In this practice,
I'll be guiding you through some statements that are intended to help you in your process of healing from divorce.
First,
I'll be asking you to direct a series of statements to yourself.
Then,
If it feels right to you,
I'll be guiding you to direct some statements to your ex.
This practice might bring up strong emotions,
So please only listen to it when it feels like you're in the space and have the time to welcome your emotions.
Make sure you're as comfortable as possible.
Allow your body to settle into the surface beneath you.
And take a few slow,
Deep breaths.
Feel the support of the cushion or the surface underneath you.
Notice all the places where your body meets the surface and see if you can let your body sink into that support even more.
Give your forehead and your eyes permission to soften.
Allow your neck and shoulders to soften and release any tightness or tension as you breathe slow and steady.
As I recite the following statements,
You can feel free to listen and try to absorb my words,
Or you can repeat after me.
I am a good person going through a hard time.
I am open to learning and growing.
I meet my emotions with compassion.
I recognize and upgrade unkind thoughts.
I know that all feelings pass.
I know this chapter of life will pass.
I can and will get through this.
I am a good person going through a hard time.
Let's take a few deep breaths together now.
Now if it feels okay to you,
You can picture or think of your ex and direct the following statements to them.
Feel free to change anything I say if it doesn't fit for you.
I'm sorry we didn't make it.
We both did our best with the skills we had.
I will remember the pleasant times and grow from the challenges.
I let you go and I'm open to my next chapter in life.
I'm sorry for my part in our disconnecting.
I forgive you for your part in our disconnecting.
Now imagine releasing this person and letting go of any old ties you're ready to release.
You can send them well wishes or love,
Or you can envision a clear boundary between you.
Now you can bring your attention back to your breathing.
Take a slow,
Deep inhalation and feel your lungs fill up with air.
As you exhale,
Allow your body to let go of anything you're ready to release.
Let's do that again.
Slow,
Deep inhalation,
Fully releasing as you exhale.
Now,
Bring your attention to all the places your body is being held by the surface underneath you.
Really feel that support.
Now notice any sounds you hear.
If you're ready,
You can open your eyes.
Take a look around you and notice a few shapes and colors that you see.
I sincerely hope this practice was helpful and that wherever you are in the journey of divorce,
You will treat your body with respect,
Meet your emotions with compassion,
And think kindly towards yourself.
Thank you for joining me today.
