The Principles Of Healing And Growth

So in my role as a counselor and a coach,

I've seen a variety of clients presenting in a variety of different ways.

Different goals,

Different conditions,

Different needs,

Different wants,

Different desires,

Different everything.

And there's hundreds of difference of theories about.

What will help them from the realm of psychology and counselling?

Many,

Many,

Many spiritual traditions and techniques,

Religions.

And many different people's personal opinions.

You know,

There's science,

Spirituality,

And self.

And all of these things seem to be pointing in different ways to help people survive and thrive.

To help people overcome,

To help people adapt,

To help people grow.

To help people attain goals.

And in my mind,

I'm trying to conceptualize what's the principle behind all of these things that can help.

Everyone.

How can we.

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Combine all of that into one sort of zip file,

One sort of code,

One base instruction that you can go,

Okay,

I've got a problem or a goal.

How can I get there?

And I think I've come up with the answer.

Three A's.

Awareness acceptance.

The first step,

Awareness.

We need to be aware of what is arising.

Aware of ourself?

Aware of the situation.

Until we are aware of the problem or aware of the goal.

We can't do anything about it unless we have high levels of self-awareness,

Knowing who and what we are,

What we want,

Our values,

Our skills and our limitations.

Our past.

We can't really take action.

We can't really do anything.

Until we become aware of our external situation.

Family,

Friendship group.

Country,

Geopolitics.

Trends and forces,

All of the things external to us into we're aware of what's going on.

We may know ourselves,

But ourselves in what context?

In what space?

So the first step is awareness.

Become aware of who we are,

Where we want to go,

What our needs are,

Etc.

To get awareness,

We practice introspection.

Meditation,

People,

To therapists,

To coaches,

To friends,

To family.

We journal.

We turn our attention inwards and check in.

We do all of these things.

And we keep doing it.

It's a continual process.

We are not one thing.

We are a continually change.

It changes depending on the context.

The people around and the inner space and all of these things is a continual.

Continual self-awareness.

Okay,

We've become aware.

Next step is acceptance.

We need to accept reality as it is for what it is right now.

This is a deep sort of mindfulness practice,

But.

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You find it in almost every tradition and almost every theory of counseling and psychology.

We must accept reality.

Okay,

I'm aware of who I am if I don't accept it.

There's a mismatch and we find a disalignment.

That disalignment can cause internal friction.

It can cause internal confusion.

It can cause a whole variety of problems until we accept the reality of ourself.

Of our world,

We can't act.

And once again,

This is a deep,

Slow and ongoing process.

It can be very hard to accept reality,

Particularly when the reality is not.

Now,

Good,

Bad,

Or otherwise,

There'll be aspects of everyone's reality that they're not happy with.

Some people will have more things to be.

Upset about or concerned about or have legitimate concerns and things that need to be changed and addressed and tweaked.

I get that.

But everyone needs to accept who they are.

And what situation they're in before they can do anything meaningful about it.

Once again,

This is a practice that you can won't really get from Marvelness.

You sit,

You focus on the breath,

Your mind wanders,

You bring it back,

Your mind wanders,

You bring it back.

We note where the mind has gone.

We accept.

The contents of our consciousness,

And we bring it back.

It sounds very simple.

Too simple.

Daily practice over time helps you to accept.

And once again,

Journaling.

This is my reality.

This is what I'm feeling.

This is what I'm dealing with.

We become aware.

We start to accept it.

Going off into a fantasy or a dreamland or blocking it off.

Might be a defense mechanism that works.

It can keep you alive.

It can keep you going.

But it doesn't.

Really always often chase the situation.

The only way we can do anything meaningful about it.

Is to accept him.

Final part.

We've become aware.

We've accepted.

Now we're taking action.

Action Bull.

Be down a variety of different paths.

Action to help yourself,

Action to change the external environment.

Action towards a goal.

Action to seek help.

Others that we need.

Experts,

Advice.

Medications,

Interventions.

The action is hard to quantify because Whatever things you need,

Whatever goals you are going for,

Wherever you are at.

Will be different to everyone else.

But if you are aware of the problem,

If you've accepted the problem.

Then you can find an action that best suits that problem.

Oftentimes,

That action involves change,

Involves you doing something different.

But we need to become aware of that action and accept that action.

So there's a bit of circular logic in here.

But it's a process.

Awareness.

Acceptance.

And then acting according to the awareness and acceptance.

If we look over Science or psychology?

To look over spiritual traditions and techniques.

And if we connect into the self,

We can start to see.

It's like,

Okay.

I need to become aware.

I need to accept.

And then I can take action that is appropriate to my issues,

My problems,

My goals.

My circumstances.

And keep checking back in.

Awareness,

Acceptance,

Action.

The good thing about this approach,

This sort of three A's approach to self-improvement,

I guess,

To self-healing.

Is that Like,

Oh,

I don't like this in my life.

I'm feeling something in the body.

Like the body keeps the score,

Emotions,

Sensations of the body and messages.

Something's arising.

Okay,

I'm aware.

Let's dig deeper into that space.

Okay,

I'm accepting what's coming.

What actions do I need to take to resolve this?

And it's a continual process.