The 1 Key Principle That Has Freed My Mind

I talk about the one key principle that has changed my life forever, and it will change yours too if you listen to this episode with a curious and open mind, and live into what I am speaking of. This principle works across every single area of life. If you listened to the audio, I would love for you to write to me and tell me what your key takeaway was, it means I can learn what people are taking from my work. In return, I will send you a follow-up resource that will help you going forward.

Transcript

Let's hit the record button guys. Okay, Here we go. What's up Claire? What's up everyone here? Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome into this space. I create these sessions. Because I love the community that's on this platform. I love the vibes. I don't know what it is. We're just like we're in similar. We're in a similar space, Right? There's a reason why we're here. It wasn't just this thing that we just scrolled on social media and we were like, Oh, Let me just browse on that. It's we're in this in this container for a reason. That's why I keep coming back keep speaking and guiding on this platform because it's a beautiful bunch of people. You guys, You, All of you. So welcome. If this is your first session with me put a yes in the chat. If you've never seen me before. Never seen me. Don't know who I am. Who's this long haired guy? Put a yes in the chat. Well, Actually my hair used to be out here, But it's like slightly it's not as long now, But I'll still I'll still declare myself a long haired guy. Yes, Yes. Yes, We are Rob, Serena, Dan, Catherine, Giann. Hope I'm saying that right. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Nice to see you. Nice to connect. Hopefully we'll be connecting more and more. And so I'm assuming everyone else that's here knows me. That's that's quite a lot of people then. Okay, Interesting. That's that's my assumption if I'm doing the math or some people just haven't said yes and that's okay too. And also my awesome Mary Mary Mary Lou Mary Lau. I don't know if I'm saying that right, But nice to see you too. So these sessions are I usually speak about something I might guide a meditation practice at some point, But I'm really trying to provoke insight. I'm not attached to what I'm saying as being absolute truth for every person. I'm just speaking words into existence almost like you're listening to music and then you you feel something within yourself. You decide what to do with that. I'm not trying to tell anyone what their truth is and how to live their lives. I'm just provoking. I'm provoking that truth in you by saying these things sharing my experiences telling a story. Maybe I don't know. Let's see. I freestyle everything. I don't have a plan, But that's that's how I run these sessions. So when you're listening listen for insight. Listen for that sensation when you're like, Ah, Or you smile or I feel something here. Capture those moments. And those are the moments when something deeper than your intellectual mind is listening. You can call it soul, Spirit, Wisdom, Intelligence. The most powerful part of you. The mind we have collected through our experiences. The soul is the most intelligent part of us. So listen with that part. That's my invitation. Even if you don't know what I'm talking about. How do you do that Raj? Just you'll feel something. Just listen for feelings. That's my first invitation. And second invitation, Like I said, Listen to things take whatever you want, Leave the rest like a buffet. I always use this distinction of I'm a buffet waiter. I'm here to show you everything you choose what you like. You take some more of it. If you want you choose. And so and there's a donate button you can press the donate button and donate at any point if you wish. I usually just say I collect the donations and then they're just going to go somewhere else. I don't know what I'm going to do with it, But it's great to see there's a bunch of donations. Oh, What should I do with this? Let me just share that somewhere else. So it's there if you want to use it. And there's the chat. You're probably wondering when is he going to start talking about this one principle that will free your mind forever? The one principle, You know, That's bold statement. That's even bold for me to tell myself. So I have a lot of principles. I even I even made an A to Z of principles. I made that last week. Anyone wants to see this A to Z. I just got the whole alphabet and I said these are the most powerful principles of how I how I think we can improve our lives. If you want that I'll send it to you. It's fresh. It's exciting. But there's one. There's one that underscores everything. Because it's been most powerful for me. And it is. Being an owner. Versus being a victim. And the words. I'm going to explain them further, Right? Because the words itself you your your mind is probably trying to figure out like what is what does that mean? Oh victim. I don't like that word. That's what I thought the first time. I was like I don't like that word victim. How dare you? And I'll tell you how this came into my into my life actually. So. So here's a bit of a backstory before I explain why this is the most powerful principle. I spent most of my life. Dimming my light. And I if you've heard this before I'm just going to tell you again, Right? Because you might listen to it differently this time. Like when you listen to a music in a different way. I'm just going to keep repeating stuff. Dimming my light. I knew when I was a kid even I knew myself as like the guy who had potential. And you know what? Um, Everyone else thought that about me too. And I was excelling in school. Like I was the smartest kid in my class, But I was so embarrassed of it because I'd be the guy who's getting like all who the teachers are like, Oh wow, Like this this he's so amazing. Like he's so good at everything and then I'd start getting embarrassed about that. And you know, I remember one point in in high school. There was this class for elite mathematicians. I don't know how the hell they did this. They were like recruiting people from all over the school and saying oh wait, It's like some weird like MI5 stuff under the radar. They were like, Oh, We're going to pick out these kids from the whole school and then they secretly brought us in and I was a part of this class of elite students, Right? And then I was embarrassed because I didn't want to I didn't want to stand out because most of my life I feared I feared having the spotlight. I feared people looking at me. I feared being judged. As I was carrying this belief inside of myself that something's different and wrong with me. This is the paradigm that surrounded my entire life, Right? Entire life even throughout adulthood something's wrong. I don't fit in I'm rejected. I'm not accepted into groups. That was another thing I used to be really worried about at at heavy social anxiety. Anyone has any social anxiety challenges put yes in the chat just so I can feel into you. Social anxiety or any kind of like things with confidence. Yeah. So like being pulled out and standing out it that's not that's not what I wanted. I wanted to fit into the average. I wanted to just be a guy that blends in into the and doesn't get seen you know, I was like I don't want to stand out. I don't want to be this this guy who's special. I just want to be average. So I dumbed myself down. Dumped myself down through school. I got average grades. Well, I still got okay grades, But it wasn't it definitely wasn't my potential. And then I started carrying this thing of like, Yeah, I know there's potential in me, But I don't want to show it showing it means danger showing who I really am and what I'm capable of that means I'm going to get rejected. That's what I was carrying around for my whole life. And another back story is like when I was younger and there was like a bit of yeah bit of this rejection actually occurring within like small groups within like family groups and family friends and stuff. So I was kind of bullied in a way right I was bullied and I was laughed at and made jokes of so this whole story came up because of that. So through my life I was like I don't want to I don't want to stand out. I want to be there. I just want to be like everyone else on a blending. Yeah, So you can relate to my school experience. Can anyone else relate but a yes in the chat? Because I used to think it was only me. So if you relate put a yes in the chat. So then what occurs I think for humans for me for sure, But I think for humans is when we have this potential that's not met we play this role. We play this role of I have to do this to fit in I have to be like this. So that true self is covered up somewhere. And then this resentment starts building. Resentment to people who have done things to us. People who have put us down or to the life that has happened to us. And it comes into adulthood. It did for me anyway came into adulthood. I was carrying around this like this identity crisis or like trying to be confident but I couldn't because something was in the way. So then it was like I can't be because I have because I'm not like this. I am a rejected person. I'm in this type of person. People don't like me. This is all this these things happening usually at the subconscious level, Right? Like really deep somewhere without even knowing like I saw the surface level things of I don't feel comfortable in situations. I'm not very confident as a person. That's the story I've said to myself. I'm not a very confident person. I can't speak in front of people. I can't be in I can't do this. I can't do that. So then I became a victim of my own thinking. So that's where the first word victim comes in. Remember the principle I'm teaching you today is victim versus owner. Victim victim to my own thoughts. Victim to the story victim to the past. And we so protective over this, You know, Like I coach people one-to-one. And and this is just normal right? This isn't judgment against anyone but everyone I have worked with will somehow protect their own limitations. They'll say it's because this because of this. Is because of this. And they'll step into that victim mode. I'm not confident because of this. I can't do this because of this. There's a because always attached to it. It's that story we're upholding. That's what I'm talking about when I say victim mode. And again, I didn't realize I was in this for my life. I was just walking around saying yeah, I got social anxiety disorder. I gave it the real name, The full name, You know. I went to a doctor and they were like, Yeah, I think Raj you have generalized anxiety disorder. And I was like, What the hell does that mean? And then he's like, It just means that you you're the type of person that you there and he put this label on me. And I was like, Oh great. I have this thing now to explain it. Ah, Yes. So I became a victim of that now. Now I'm a victim of this thing. I'm a victim of my own belief. This story holder is like there's a person behind me with a with like a hat on. Saying Raj, You're this. I'm a victim of that guy. The guy, The guy that I just created, The story, The make-believe person that said you are this. I'm a victim of it. I'm powerless. That's another way you can talk about it. Powerless. I'm powerless to my belief. So notice if you're having those insight moments. Remember at the beginning I said to you if you have an insight moment, If you have a realization, Revelation, If something clicks, If you have a sensation, Capture it, Write it down, Share it in the chat, Write insight dash if you have an insight moment. Dash if you have an insight moment, I want to hear from you. I want to see what comes up. So Just one part of this victim mode and I'm going to talk about owner in a moment. I'm not all doom and gloom. This isn't like I'm going to go into a moment. And I didn't like I said, I didn't realize I was in this until one day actually a girl said to me, She said to me, Raj, You're being such a victim. And I was like what? I was like flabbergasted. Like what dare you say that to me? What do you mean? I was confused as well as like tense. No, I'm not being a victim defending myself. I'm being a victim of my own victimhood defending myself. You know, When we defend ourselves, When someone says something to hurt us and we go in defensive mode. That means we've given into the story as well, Right? We're giving in, We're believing it. Because why else would we defend ourselves? What's the need if there wasn't this part of us which was like felt insecure? So I was like, What do you mean? I'm not a victim. I was, I didn't realize it. I was, I was blaming myself. I was saying I'm like this, Like there's just something wrong with me. I just, I just can't make decisions. I just can't do this. This is just who I am. I've always been this way. I can't, Powerlessness, You know, Powerlessness is a trait of victimhood. I can't. So I realized what victim meant at that point with a harsh awakening. And if I was to describe it a little bit further, It's Here's one example. The weather. Oh, It's raining outside. It's a horrible ugly day outside. It's not actually, But let's imagine I'm from London. So it could be that way. I can say, Oh my God, It's raining. I'm so depressed because of the rain. The rain has ruined my day. Or I could say that person has done this to me. It's all your fault. You're doing this, You know, Victims blame as well. You blame other people. And again, When I'm talking about this, I'm saying I've been there as well. Not looking down at anyone. I'm just explaining what this means. Blaming, Saying, Oh, You did this. Your energy. You're making, You're making me feel this way. These words like these being thrown around. You're making me feel this way. The weather is doing this to me. I'm a victim of the weather. I'm a victim of you. Here's where it gets even deeper. And this might hit a chord for some of you. My parents. I'm blaming them for everything. They did this to me. They didn't bring me up right. Blaming again, I'm a victim. And I'm not saying like, Here's the thing, This, That could be true. Maybe they didn't do the best they could have. I'm talking about the state of power you have within yourself. There's no power in that. There's no, You're not moving on from that place. There's no way you can go when you, When you say you're to blame. I can do nothing about this. There's nothing, There's no movement there. So when I talk about the state of owner, Owner is okay. Stay screwed up. I'm going to own this. This is, I have to deal with this and live with this. Whatever happened in my past, I have to live with it right now. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter about how it occurred. Doesn't matter who is to blame. What am I going to do about this right now? I'm going to own this. What am I going to do about this? I'm the one living with it. How do I move forward with this? This has been the most powerful principle for me. Because I felt stuck. Because I felt stuck for most of my life. I felt like I was stuck in my psychology. The psychology that was not confident. The psychology that couldn't do, Speak in front of people. The psychology that determined that I'm not going to mix in with people. That determined that I'm not accepted. If I'm a victim of that, There's no way to go from there. I'm limited. An owner is like, I own the mind that's telling me this. I own the thoughts. They're mine. I own the way I react to them. Okay, They don't feel nice. Let me slow down. How do I own this? What can I create from this? And it's basically a shift in energy. It's like taking the steering wheel of a car. Your mind can be driving you. Your psychology can be driving you. You can be wrapped in the backseat with stuff covered in your mouth. You're a victim to your own life. You're in the backseat, Tied up. Can't do anything. So what I'm really talking about is you're getting out of that backseat. And you're stepping in the steering wheel. You're driving. You're taking the driver's seat. That's what this owner-victim distinction is about. And ultimately, It's a shift in consciousness. It's a shift in who you're being. So let me know. Can you feel that ability to own a situation? Are you able to do that? Yes or no? Are you able to switch from a victim to an owner? I want to hear in the chat. Is this possible? Just in general, For the moment. Are you able to distinguish this shift, This shift in state? Can you feel it as an experience? As I'm talking to you, Can you feel what I'm trying to transmit to you? I guarantee, Even if you don't believe me, You've done this before in your life. With some situations, It's just harder. So what I'm trying to frame and create for you is being able to do this with every part of your life. With relationships. With your health. With your mind, Your psychology. The blocks. With the career that you want to create. Finances you want to create. Owner is like the power principle, The number one. Because you can affect all of those areas. Bad health. Okay, Let's go there for a moment. You don't have good health, Let's say. I was very thin for most of my life. This is another part of my life that I'm going to talk about for a moment. I was very thin. Insecure about myself. Looking in the mirror. I looked in the mirror and I was like skinny man, Thin man, Weak man. You're weak, Raj. You need some muscle. You're a weak man. Very insecure about it. It made me feel small as a person. So I could have stayed with that. I could have been a victim of that. But then what did I do? I said I'm going to start trying to build some muscle. It wasn't easy. But I was taking ownership by making that decision to start working out. And there's another phase of my life where I was overweight. You're probably thinking, How many lives have you lived, Raj? I was overweight. I was at least, I don't know, In pounds. But kilograms, Around 20 kilograms more than now. So 50 pounds, Let's say, More than now. I had a big injury and I gained a lot of weight in a rapid amount of time. Because I wasn't exercising nothing. So then I got into this state of being this big guy. And it's really hard to shift weight. If anyone's ever had weight challenges, It's not easy to shift weight, Right? So I had to go and own that and learn how to shift weight from myself. Any health problems you have, If you find trouble sleeping, You can be a victim of that. And say, I have trouble sleeping. I'm just going to live like this forever. I think so much. I'm an over-thinker. This is just how I've always been. You know that line. This is just how I've always been. That line is so dangerous. Because that means you're accepting that. You're not going to change. You're protecting it. You're protecting it. You're defending it. You're defending the thing you don't want by making an excuse. So if you have sleep challenges, How can you own this? How can you own creating a person, A way of being that doesn't have sleep challenges? There is a way. I guarantee you. I had sleep challenges for a very long time. I used to sit in bed sweating because I was thinking so much. Sweating and moving around in bed, Getting angry and all that. I used to just throw my pillow around because I couldn't sleep very well. Because I was thinking so much. So I was like, I'm sick of this. How do I, What does it take to be able to be a person who can sleep better? It wasn't instant. It wasn't like, Oh, A magic pill. But I started creating that. So you see, This is why this principle is so important for me. And I think it's important for humans. It's ownership versus victim. Victim is having a reported life versus a created life. That's another distinction I want to share. A reported life versus a created life. A reported life is when you are not able to be a person. A reported life is when you just talk about challenges and you talk about what's wrong. It's like, For example, You'll say, Oh, The country is a mess and I can't believe they're doing this. How do they expect people to be this? Always saying, Oh, Like, Yeah, I'm coping. I'm coping and everything's going OK. Yeah. Yeah, This is my problems right now. And then there's a full stop. That's not moving anywhere. That's stuck. It's just stuck. You see what I'm saying when I play it back to you, Right? It's just stuck. That doesn't do anything. Created life is, Ah, Yeah, Times are tough. But you know what? I'm actually working on this thing. And yes, It's not moving fast, But I'm making some progress. And you see, The tone is even different. When you hear someone talking that way of a created life, You feel the optimism going through them. You feel a little brightness in their eye. It's a created life versus a reported life, Owner versus victim. And ultimately, What this is underpinned by is being owned by the mind versus living through your spirit, We can call it. The world of possibility. So I'm going to pause there, Guys. Now I want to hear what your challenges are. Put in the chat. You've heard everything I've said. Some people have shared their insights. Feel free to share more insights, Guys. This has changed everything for me because I could have been what the doctor said, Which was go to this therapy, Raj, Listen to the therapist. It was actually quite useful, I'll be honest. It was actually okay. It wasn't life changing, But it was actually okay. I could have said I have a generalized anxiety disorder. So I can't do this job. I can't do this. That's not really the truth. That's an idea we hold onto in our heads. You know, People have done some crazy things like defeated cancer because they have gone into ownership mind. There's been odds against us as humans. But when someone steps into that mode, They're going to find a way. The magic within them is going to spark beyond logical. There's no logical way to explain it, But if your energy states there, Doesn't matter. You're going to make it happen. So with that energy, Guys, Tell me what you're going to work on. Tell me what your dreams are, Your wishes. Tell me where you're getting stuck. Put something in the chat and I'll speak on it and I'll help you find a way. I like to use the word way shower. I'll show you the way somehow if I can. So put something in the chat, Guys. Tell me what you've gotten so far. If you've had any insight moments, Put some questions in the chat. Tell me what's happening for you right now. And we'll make this a kind of interactive flow for the rest of this time. Okay, I'm going to read a few things from the chat. Keep sharing, Guys. Just share whatever is coming through for you right now. Owner versus victim. I'm not saying it's easy, By the way. I'm saying this is a thing we all naturally have access to. Guaranteed everyone has done this. It's nothing like you have to be a yogi and live in a cave. It's nothing like you have to be a yogi and live in a cave. It's nothing like you have to be a yogi and live in a cave. It's none of that. Like all this stuff helps. Meditation, All this stuff really helps. But this is our innate way of living. It's within us somewhere. Okay, So. . . ArgiFilm has its own limitations. The story I'm telling myself is. . . Hmm. . . You're rewriting your story. Yeah, Awesome. Yeah, That's what it really is. You're re-authoring what your life is meant to be, Right? Because there's this default mode that your life can turn into. You know how they predict. . . I don't know, Like they predict the stock market based on past data. And that's actually my background. My background is in data analytics. Believe it or not, Believe it or not, Consulting and data analytics. So I see the world that way sometimes. So everything that's happened in the past is your data. So the line is like, Oh, I'm going to predict where the line is going to go next. It's going to follow the trend of, Oh, You're not confident, You're anxious. So the line is going to follow this. What we're trying to do is break that. We're trying to interrupt the pattern. And we're trying to put new data, New things into that. We're saying, Actually, We don't even need that old data. Let's start fresh. So re-authoring your story, Exactly. You know, You have one insight and your whole life can change. And it's real, Right? You could go outside and you could be walking across the road and someone can hit you with their car, Right? You did not predict that. That can change your entire life right now. So there's so many things that our mind cannot predict. Okay, Insight, A victim of my own belief. Yeah, Tell me which one that is. What is your belief? Christine, Which one are you a victim of? Irene, I'm stuck as well. I understand and accept what's happened and how I feel, But I cannot seem to be able to move on. That's a great stage you're in and I want to acknowledge you for that. You understand and accept. You know, It's great that you understand and you've accepted where you are. That in itself is beautiful. So don't forget that you've gotten to that place. It's beautiful. And acknowledge yourself. Any one of you here as well, Acknowledge yourself. And then the part on moving on, Where do you want to move towards? That's the question. Where do you want your life to go? Because now is where it gets challenging because we don't know what's coming next and we try and predict what's coming next. So there's even more of like this overthinking, Right? But let me ask you, Where would you love for your life to be? You choose. Tell me right now. You don't have to think of the how. Forget about that for now. Be like a kid who's playing and imagining and just being free. Where would you love your life to go? That's a question for all of you. Where do you love your life to go? That's the state of ownership. Jonah will say, Where would I love my life to go? Does that help, Irene? Let me know. And I'm going to come down to the rest of the comments. It's beautiful and exciting to own the story and the shifting state. Yes. It's a feeling of inner freedom. So you recognize that state. Yeah, All of you recognize that state, Right? All of us. I can do anything I set my mind to, But I'm guilty of being stuck in some areas. That's OK. It's OK that you're feeling stuck. And all of you, It's OK that you're feeling stuck. And actually, If you're feeling stuck and feeling some discomfort, I think that's a sign. That's a calling occurring. You know, We frame all of this stuff up as bad. And this has been a big insight for me, Actually, Of I'm framing all of this stuff up as bad. But what if it wasn't bad and it's just a sign? You know, It's like if your car was stuck in the mud. You would want to know about that, Right? You would want to know that it's stuck. You would want the sign. Or let me let me make it a more simple example. Let's say your gas light was low in your car, Your fuel tank. You would want to know that it's running low. So your car is just giving you a signal. It's the same for us. If you're feeling stuck, It's just your being giving you a signal. Hey, Irene. Hey, Irene, You're feeling stuck. Go fill up some fuel. It's giving you a sign. It's the mental thinking about it that turns it into a bad thing. It turns it into something wrong. So you're feeling stuck. OK, What do you want to do about that? What do you want? See, When you go from victim to owner, You go out of the just this is feeling bad. I'm feeling stuck. What do I do? What do I do? You go to the next level of OK, What do I do? What do I want to do? It's a creative space. It's like being an artist. Do I create? What do I want to create? This sucks. I'm stuck. OK, What's next? What do I want to create? You know, It's a it's a swift, Swift transition from victim to owner. You get your power back. Does that help? I'm seeing some little hearts on the screen. It feels like people are pressing a lot of hearts right now. So I'm sure that hit someone with some insights. Those hearts are really fun. It's a great indicator. It's kind of like if I was in a room and seeing smiles. It's hard for me to read a room when I can't see people. So I appreciate your comments, Your signals, Whatever you put in the chat. It shows it gives me some feedback. So stuck in a job that's not fulfilling anymore. Awesome. It's not fulfilling anymore. You've you've done you've done great. Well done. You see how I've interrupted your pattern just just there by saying that. Just right there. I've turned it into an owner situation now. Well done. You're stuck in a job. Great. You know, If I was if I was rolling into victim mode with you, I'd say, Ah, That's so bad. Yeah, That must feel so bad. Yeah, Like that's a shame. Yeah, Something's wrong with you for feeling that way. Yeah, What's wrong with you? Why do you feel stuck? You should you should be grateful for what you got. You know, Have you ever heard someone say that to you when you when you're telling them how you don't like something in your life? And they say you should be grateful for what you've got with that condescending tone. No, I don't want this. I don't want this. I want something more than this. I want to hear your condescending tone. So you see, It's a powerful thing when you turn it around and you say. Oh, I'm I'm feeling stuck. So. What what does not stuck look like? This is stuck. Stuck is this situation. What does not stuck look like? What is what is what's this like thing where it's not stuck and is moving around like my hands? What is that? What does that feel like? Owner mode. This is how I'm coaching people, Right? I am recognizing the blocks. I'm recognizing how it sucks to feel that way. I'm not like a stone cold machine who's who's disregarding people's feelings, But I'm trying to bring you into a resourceful state, A creative state where you can move on from it. So does that help? I hope that helped in some way. Stuck with being single and lonely in general. Yeah, OK. So. That's a tricky one. What do you want to do about that? Are you ready right now to move to a relationship? What does lonely mean to you? These are some of the questions that ask if I was coaching you one to one to really flesh this out. Really get into the depths of this, Like. Why does this not feel good for you? What is it you really want? And in general, We want to feel connected to humans, Right? And in this moment, Like I don't have an aggressive. Aggressive approach to this, Because I can say go and own this and go and find a partner right now. But my wisdom, See, Like it's not always useful to use that wisdom and say, Go and find a partner. Sometimes it's just being with that feeling of single and lonely doesn't feel good. And then and that's still taking ownership. That's saying, Yeah, This doesn't feel good. I don't like how this feels. And it's OK for me to feel like that. Whereas victim in this situation is like. Why has this happened to me? Why me? Look at everyone else. Why? Why do I feel this way? Why did this have to happen to me? And again, You might be feeling that right. And it's OK. I'm not trying to undermine any of your feelings. When you get into that state of. Yeah, This is what the situation is. It doesn't feel good. That's just where I'm at right now. Then it diffuses some of it. Hope that helps, Martine. OK. I'm going through a breakup. Let me see what else I see. Did I miss anything? Stuck, Fat and anxious. Tell me more about that. I want to just throw stuff out there. Irene says, I'm going through a breakup just before getting married and I'm depressed. My life seems to have no meaning anymore. And I feel lonely even. If surrounded by people. Yeah. If you put the frame of victim versus owner on that, What is the insights that come to you? I don't want to tell you what to do with this situation. That wouldn't be serving you powerfully. I like to serve powerfully, Right? Sometimes it's useful for me to say things, But I want to throw it back to you. What can you do with this situation? What is the most resourceful part of you saying to you? Let me know what comes up. OK, Moving on. You guys are very interactive. I love this. It's great to have this interaction in the group. I hope you're finding this fun. This is me like on the spot. I call it spot coaching or there's other names I've used sometimes like bullet coaching. But bullet sometimes. Bullet doesn't sound like a nice word. Let's just say spot coaching in this moment. Seeing if I can help direct your flow, Direct the river to some place where it washes something up. So if this is helping guys put a yes in the chat, Let me know if you're finding this useful. Owner versus victim practical. This is a practical. This isn't just theory, Right? This is this is a practical tool. It's a way of being like you put on you wake up in the morning, You put this hat on. I don't know if you wear hats. I would love to buy a really beautiful hat that is just the hat. I've got a few like that, But anyway, Just imagine this is you're putting on your hat. You wake up and you're like, I'm going to own this. In every situation, You're going to own this. You you drop you drop all of your let's say you eat eggs and you drop your box of eggs on the floor. It's cracked yolk everywhere. How what a mess. That's a complete mess. If anyone's ever dropped an egg on the floor, It's the worst kind of mess to clean up. It's a nightmare. You could be like. It could completely drain your energy. You could be like a victim victim. You could hear your mother in your head shouting at you. You know, All of that stuff might come up. Judgment or you just go and clean the eggs up. Same thing with life. If you have an argument with someone. All of this story can come up. You know, The most honorable thing sometimes to say is. Is to just own up when you've screwed up. With a person with an argument, Just own up instead of defending yourself. Be with the person. Then you release so much. Release so much tension. Anyways, Let's get to the next comment. See what else is coming out. Great that you guys are having fun. I'm glad that you're finding this useful. Thanks for letting me know, Guys. That was that said something. All right, Let's go to the next comments. My belief is that a painful physical condition is not curable. Interesting. So I'm not a physician. As such, So I'm not going to say too much on this. But I do know a lot of things are affected by the mind. Lot. The ability to heal physical ailments. Can often be greatly supported by their mind. Or the opposite. That's all I'm going to say on that. And I don't know if that gives you anything. That's all I'm going to say. I was in fight or flight mode. For most of my life, I was constantly tense. My body was involved because my mind was creating things about danger. The whole physical system, When it senses danger, It tenses up. Because there's a belief in our head that we're in a dangerous situation. Even when someone says something that we don't like. Because it stirs up stuff inside of us that tells us something's wrong with us. And that means danger. So it's incredible what the mind can do. So I tried all of these supplements. Magnesium and oils and special scents, Aromatherapy and getting massages. That helps for a short moment. But when the program is still alive, The fundamental program, It doesn't matter if you short circuit it with a massage for a moment. The program is just going to keep waking up. Keep waking up. It kind of reminds me of the zombies when you shoot them and then they're like, Ahh. And then they wake up. They keep coming back. Until you figure out how to turn the zombie into ash. Anyone seen zombie movies? You're probably getting what I'm saying here. Are you? I don't know. You tell me. You can tell I'm in a flow right now when I'm talking about stuff like zombies. So. Let's. Where was I? Let me get that. That's. Yeah. So that's what I'm saying about physical stuff. I don't know if that helps. Does that help anyone in the chat? OK. Next thing I saw was. Someone said, I'm a victim of depression and anxiety and I'm listening to you. No, As I'm listening to you, My inner tone changed from victim to owner. Awesome. Which is very reckless and dominating at the same time. Tell me more about that tone. I love that you said tone. You know, Even in our voices, It's been proven, Actually. You can check the science. The way we speak. The way we speak. There's a different state of communication when we're speaking from an empowered state. When there's full clarity, Confidence, When we're in the owner place, The whole sound is different. People used to say to me, Did your voice change when you went on a spiritual development? And I said, Yes, It did. Or better to say, My voice was released. I found my voice. The full expression of it came out. That's why I love to speak, Because I'm not I'm there's no thinking going on. There's no blocks. There's no should I say this? This will sound smart. Let me say this. That's none of that's happening. It's just coming through from my from my stomach almost. It's coming from my stomach. Through in my heart, Through the voice box, Rather than it's coming from here, From my thinking into the voice down to here is coming from below. So it's it's easy for me now to express myself. Because it's just coming out naturally. And a lot of people will actually contact me about finding their voice and speaking confidence. Expressing themselves. Because they hear my story and you know, Like I could probably send you some old videos of me. Yeah, I've got some old videos of me when I'm trying to speak. And it wasn't it was different to this. I was like stuttering and thinking or talking too fast and in my head, You know. Because that's what happens when you go into ownership is relentless. Nothing's stopping it. It's confidence as you know, This thing we call confidence is just this. So if you felt the tone inside yourself, The energy, The vibration, Like I said, It's in all of us. It's ready to be awakened. It's just asleep sometimes. So then the victim is talking instead. You know, The true self is asleep. The owner is asleep. So it's like, Oh, You know, You know, Like when you go to a hotel and then you read reviews about this amazing owner. They're like, Ricardo is so brilliant. They've given it five star reviews, A thousand five stars. And they're like, Yeah, You have to see Ricardo. Ricardo will make your stay amazing. He's so friendly and fun and entertains you. And then you get there. And then this guy, This guy called Mark is at the desk and you're like, Where the hell is Ricardo? Where's the guy that I wanted to speak to? He's not here. And then this Mark guy is like some some. What do you call it in in America? Substitute teacher. It's like a substitute teacher who's just come in, Who's just come in for like 30 minutes. He knows nothing about the place. He doesn't even he doesn't even do this for his job. He's just a stand in. That's what is happening a lot of the time when we're in our thinking. We're trying to be someone else. We're trying to sound good. It's like the real us isn't even there. Ricardo is not there. It's the substitute teacher that's that's trying to do the job just about managing frantic because he or she doesn't really know how to really do this job. But they're trying their best. They're a bit frantic and messy and doesn't really sound authentic. They're a bit nervous because they're new on the job. Something's just off. So this whole process of coming into yourself, The owner is bringing back the boss. I should I should I should cut this clip out and post it somewhere. I've never said it in this way. But yeah, That's that's how it's coming through. So let me know if that was useful. If that's coming through for you, Hold on to it. Love it. Nurture it like a little plant that you're pouring drops of water into and giving sunlight. That's the way to cultivate this owner state, Nurturing it like a plant. Practicing it as well. Practicing being an owner. If you want to be confident and do speaking things or you want to change your relationship, You have to take action and actually do it. And then you start getting to know the owner even more. That's my that's my thing I want to share with you. You have to also be it right. You know it, You feel it, But also being it in real life. And that can be tricky. That's what it takes. All right, I'm going to go into comments a few more guys. I might miss some of them. I'm just going to just pick a few. I haven't picked yours. It's nothing against you. But just for the sake of time, I'm just going to pick a few. Self-conscious of what others think of me and being judged by family. Yeah, That's a good one. And I notice people press heart when I said that. Maybe that sticks for everyone as well. Being judged by family. How can you own your relationship with family? Family does this to me. Family judges me. There's a slight victim in there. Family is doing this to me. What those people think of me is doing this to me. They think this, They say this about me, So I feel this way. Outside is coming in. My challenge to you is how can you own this? How can you own what people think of you? How can you own your thoughts of what people think of you? Okay, I think that people are judging me. I think people think I'm not good at this. Imagine you own those thoughts. Yeah, This is what I'm thinking. Is it always true? You know, If anyone's had Byron Katie's work, Put a yes in the chat. Byron Katie's work. Is it true? Is it always true? Turning it around. Byron Katie's work is all about turning it around. She's really talking about the owner owning it. If you haven't, I recommend you read Loving What Is Byron Katie. I didn't like it at first. I'll be honest with you. But as soon as I started getting into it, I was like, Yeah, This is simple but good. Okay, I hope that helped. Who was that? I've lost it. Okay, Whoever that was. I've lost it in the chat. First time here and the connection on my end goes and comes. I don't want to miss the main point from the topic. Oh, Okay. So you might have missed some of it. That's fine. Letting go of familiar feelings is sometimes scary. The new paradigm is unfamiliar and therefore not in my control. Of course it's scary. Scary to let go of what you think is true. It's like jumping off a cliff. And actually there's a whole other story about how I kept having this meditation visual. I was in a journey almost, Let's say an altered state, And I kept seeing myself jumping off a cliff. Jumping into a crazy water. Because this is what was happening for me when I was starting to let go of this inner stuff. It felt like I was jumping off a cliff. And I wasn't happy in the water at all. I didn't like it. It's very scary. That's what is happening. We're letting go of stuff. It's almost like a baptism is occurring in a way. A rebirth. Reinvention. Okay. What else? Right. Someone said I think when we believe we're being judged, We're judging ourselves. It can be. It can be. It can be where we're projecting that, Right? Someone's judging me. Or it's like this defensiveness. Because that's what's ultimately happening. The survivor response kicks in. Because this feels like a threat to our existence. Someone's judging us. This is a threat to our existence. For our ancestors, Being judged meant there could be a risk of us dying. Getting released from the tribe. So it doesn't feel good. So we have to defend ourselves. So it could feel like there's a risk. So that's what it could be. It could be what you said. We're judging ourselves. But it also could be we literally think that there's a danger. You know some part of us thinks there's a danger. Of course that's not rationally true but it's connected to some kind of story, Some paradigm, Some program which is telling us that. We have to almost unshackle that. Unshackling it. From having a hold on us. Okay guys. Oh, How do you turn them into ash? Ah, You're referring to the zombies. It's funny you say that. Because it brings me to another movie. I don't know where this is from. But it's almost like you think about all the zombies. You keep on shooting them, Shooting them, Shooting them. And they keep coming back to life. And then you find this light button which destroys all the zombies at once. And that button is to realize that this is to realize the ultimate truth. The ultimate realization. That all of this is a figment of our imagination. That we ourselves have created. When you realize, Oh I made this. Ah, The zombie. I designed that. Oh, It's my zombie. Oh hey, You're my zombie. I own you zombie. You're mine. You're mine. And it's almost as if you stand there. You know, You're fighting the zombie, You've got your sword. And you're like, Oh I'm so tired of fighting. I'm fighting all day long. I'm going to shoot. It's coming back alive. And then you just stand there. And then you let them attack you. And then you realize, Oh it doesn't actually hurt. Oh, They don't actually have teeth. Oh, It's kind of tickling me. It's like a tickle. It's like a tickle. They're tickling me. They're not actually doing anything that's hurting me. Oh, And then the next stage after that is, You're on the floor, Like being tickled. And then you look around and you're like, Oh there's no zombies. What? Where did the zombies go? And that's the awakening process. You've awoken to reality. You've awoken to realize. First these zombies can't hurt me. So that takes your body out of fight or flight. You're calmer now. And once you're in that state of calmer, You can have, You can access realizations. Such as, Oh there's no zombies. Oh, That's cool. Hmm. And that's my mic drop for today. I've been full of amazing analogies right now. I don't know what's happening today, But I've been full of great ones today. Thanks for commenting on that. I'm going to write this down. I wish I had an assistant who just wrote down these things or recorded them. And then posted them all over my social medias. Because these things just appear somehow. From nowhere. And that's what I'm trying to encourage into you is stepping into a different state of being. Beyond the psychological mind. It's something different. Owner. An owner is playful also. An owner is intuitive. Gets intuitive things. Owner intuits metaphors, Analogies. Owner has stories that just come without thinking. And owner realizes there's the zombies, Oh they're tickling me. I don't need to fight them. They just want to tickle me. They just want to have a tickle party. And then realizing, Oh there is no zombies. Okay, Even better. And that's the stages of development that can occur. So that's all I have to say today guys. I'm going to pause there. Let me know what you've gotten from today. Let me know what your biggest takeaway is. How was this session for you? What have you got from this? Other than entertaining zombie stories. What have you got from this? What are you taking away? What's your insight of the day? What's your insight of the day? Own it. I want to hear you own your insight of the day and write it in the chat. Own it. Because when you're open to realizing, Oh like, Yeah I could work on myself. I could be wrong. You know when you're open to saying I could be wrong about what I thought. You're saying I'm willing to let go of my analytical thinking. My ego. So what's your insight for the day guys? There's over a hundred of you here. Wow. That's a great turnout. What are you taking away? I want you to put it in the chat. You've been here for over an hour. Time is precious. What have you gotten from your investment? What's your return on the investment of your time today? Put it in the chat. Because if you haven't gotten anything then yeah. Maybe you'll get it later. I don't know. But what comes to mind right now? What's your insight? What are you leaving with? There's no meditation, Active meditation practice today. But the way I like to teach is almost like it's a meditative journey through the whole session. The stories, The sharing, The questions. It's all meditation in the end. And that's owners versus victim. And owner is just like yeah. Where are we going? Let's go. Owner is like yeah, We've got some problems. Let's go solve them. Owner is like yeah, This sucks. What should we do about it? Owner is like I'm going to take responsibility for this. If no one else is, I am. Victim is like I can't believe they did this. Victim is a reported life. Reporting on the life. Oh this is what life is. Yeah, I'm just about coping. Yeah, I can't believe this. I can't believe this has happened to me. I don't do anything about it. I'm stuck. Once you make that tiny little shift of a creative idea, You've crossed the bridge. And this is the thing that's changed my entire life. That's why I've decided that this is the one principle I wanted to teach today. Because I think it is the most important that I want to teach today anyway. Because it is a whole way of being. So, Anyone else want to share what they got from today? I've seen a few in the chat. It's okay to make mistakes at work. No. Did I read that right? Oh yeah, Yeah I did. Yeah, It's okay to make mistakes at work as I learn and grow. I can own my situation despite thoughts. Yes. Exactly. And acceptance of what is. Yeah. What else guys? I don't think you guys are playing big enough if you're not putting it in the comments or what you're feeling. I'm calling you out. Calling you out because this is going to help your development if you put something in the chat. What are you taking away from this? Because you're going to go back to your life. I'm going to press the end button. Anytime soon you're going to go back to your life. And I want you to have a shift in your life. Even if you never see me again. What are you taking away? Own it. What are you taking away? Release your voice. Yes. Alright, I'm seeing some hearts. And that's all for now. I'm going to leave it there guys. I want to leave that with you to own within your life. Even if you don't want to share. No judgement from me. I'm going to leave that with you to own. To take this session and see what's happened for you. Message me. Write to me. Find me online. My website is withraj. Com. Find me there. Send me a message. Tell me what you're going to own. Tell me what you're challenged with right now. And I'll send you something that's going to help you. I'll send you the A to Z if you like. If you like this one principle from today, I'll send you the A to Z of my principles. And I made this when I kind of went into this weird trance. And I was like, Ah, It'll be fun to write an A to Z. And I just grabbed all the letters. And I just did it by intuition. Quickly. Firepower. This word, This word, This word, This word, This word, This word. And I explained what the words mean to me. So if you want to see it, It's kind of like a mad scientist expressing himself on a piece of paper. Send me a message and I'll send you that document of principles. I've also got some video resources with meditations, With all sorts of teaching. I've got a course. And of course, If you want to have a conversation about working together, Specifically me being in your life, In your face, To help you show up as an owner every day of your life, Then we can have that conversation too. So find me. And I'm also on Instagram. Check out my Instagram. It's also Rajgulsia. I post a story every day about what's happening in my life. What are my learnings? I'm a teacher. I'm a coach. What am I learning? What's going on for me in my inner world? I'm posting all of that stuff there. So you can check that out if you want. So I'll leave it as that guys. And like I said, Get in touch. I'd love to hear from you. I always say this at the end because I sometimes get messages from people saying I have been thinking about messaging you for a while, But I didn't know how to do it or the right opportunity or I felt a bit shy. So here we go. Go and do it. I want to invite you to my space. There's permission. Cool, Guys. Should we leave it there? The one principle. Okay, You ask the questions. I'm going to say this is the last words. Victim versus owner. Being a victim to our thoughts, To our life, To everything that's happened in our past. Being a victim, Being limited by that versus being an owner, Which is I own it all. I own my mind, Own my body. I decide, I choose, I create. That's owner. Not saying it's easy, But it's the state I'm encouraging people to go into. So, End of session there. See you soon. I haven't got any sessions planned yet. It'll probably be next week sometime. So keep a look out. But yeah, No idea. I might not do one for a while. I'm not sure. But you can click on my profile and I think you can follow my profile. Check out my meditations and you'll get a notification next time I've got a session. Cool. Let's leave it as that guys. Have fun. Enjoy your evenings, Mornings, Afternoons. And remember, Be an owner. Let that ripple into your soul. That's my last words.

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Thanks Raj, “I created my own zombies” and “there are no zombies” and thus there are no zombies to act upon is my take away:)