How To Go From Fear To Freedom, Anxiety To Action

A recording of the live event where I talk about going from being paralysed by fear, to going forth in the world. I share the times where I faced fears, what it did to me and how I was stuck in it for years! Until I eventually broke out. I also talk about the times where I still face it. We only have a limited existEnce in this body, make the most of it! Fear is OK, holding onto and avoiding it (anxiety!) is what causes the challenges.

Transcript

Alright,

So yeah,

Because fear is saying,

I expect you to do this.

Fear is saying,

This is what I want you to do.

You better do this.

It's like pushing.

And that creates anxiety,

Because now you have to measure up to this thing.

You have this thing in the back of your head.

And I'll tell you,

For me,

When I try and do too many things or have these thoughts in my head and these expectations,

I'll spend the day having this in the back of my head,

Like this cloud is chasing me everywhere,

This phantom is behind me,

This ghoul is like chasing me.

That's the ghoul of expectation,

That's the ghoul of your mind.

Fear anxiety.

Freedom,

Which is really what I'm talking about today,

Freedom,

Is when you just decide to do something with that voice,

Listen to it.

I spent most of my life running away from this voice.

I spent most of my life running from it,

Like,

Oh my god,

This is such a scary voice.

How do I make it stop?

And I'm going to tell you a bit about my background.

So I had a ton of anxiety and fear of being myself.

I don't even think I knew what being myself was,

Actually.

You read it in books and people are talking about it all the time.

You read these books by Eckhart Tolle who says,

Be in the present moment,

Be here.

And you're like,

Yeah,

That sounds amazing,

But how?

I was in that mode of like,

Yeah,

Reading all these books,

But I was like stuck in fear,

Stuck in not feeling comfortable.

There was this edge all the time,

This like haunting almost,

This voice and people call this like the saboteur.

One guy said it to me.

He said,

I've got a saboteur in my head.

Some people will say like a parasite or ego,

Something just like pressuring you.

Fear,

That's what that is.

Fear speaking.

Fear forms anxiety after time.

Fear is okay in a moment.

Fear is okay in a moment.

And let's go down that hole for a moment.

Let's go down there.

Fear is okay.

If there was a car,

You are crossing the street,

There's a car.

You need that fear response to kick in.

If you can't see it,

You're going to just,

Your instinct will tell you,

Oh my God,

There's danger.

Run.

Great.

Thank you,

Fear.

You're so helpful.

If there's a wild pack of lions and they're looking at you like,

Oh,

Wow,

Tasty,

Tasty piece of meat.

I'm hungry.

I need that person.

Fear is good there.

Again,

It helps you.

I don't know what you're going to do in that situation.

I've never been in a situation with lions,

But,

And actually,

You know,

This takes me to a story and I'm bouncing all over the place because that's how I do these sessions.

I just get into a flow.

I don't know what to say.

There's no notes,

But I just,

I just,

Some things just come up and what comes up for me now is the story of Daniel,

It's in the Bible.

Daniel's den.

And I'm,

I've not grown up Christian or anything like that,

But I love the lessons behind some of it.

It's connected with me a lot recently.

Daniel's den.

He's thrown into a pit.

If you don't know the story,

He's thrown into a pit of lions and they're like circling him and he's in there just like,

Oh my God,

What I do.

What he did was there was a crack in the ceiling.

It was completely dark.

Right.

Let's say this den is surrounded by lions.

There's a crack in the ceiling,

Which is letting light in.

He stands,

Focuses on the light.

Calm,

Calm,

Calm,

Focusing on the light.

In the Bible,

They'll probably say,

Yeah,

That's focusing on the light of God.

Right.

God focus on the light of God.

But if you don't believe in that kind of stuff,

That's fine as well.

Like really the meaning behind it is,

Yeah,

Focus on the spirit,

The fate,

The other mode of operating.

He focused on the light.

He was still,

He was calm.

The lions were around him.

If you focus on that light within you,

You go to freedom.

So I don't have any like complex formula or anything to give you here.

You know what this is.

I don't care what development stage you are in.

That doesn't even mean anything really.

I don't care if you're new to this.

It doesn't matter.

I don't care if you're having challenging times.

It doesn't matter.

You have something which connects you to this something of faith.

Not religious faith can be if you want,

But I just mean just knowing that there's this light in me.

There's this light.

This is there.

There's something else.

Takes you to freedom.

Switching gears from fear to freedom.

So that's what has to happen.

How do you do this?

You might be saying,

Well,

Raj,

Sometimes I can do this,

But yeah,

So it's I don't really know what you mean.

How do I do this more often?

How do I live in that?

If you are trying to grasp onto it and desperate to know,

Then even that is an act of fear speaking.

I need to be here all the time in this place of freedom.

That's an act of,

Well,

I want this.

I'm yearning.

I'm yearning.

I'm desperate for this.

Then there is fear speaking,

Which wants you to be there.

The way and that,

You know,

It sounds counterintuitive,

Right?

You might be thinking what?

Well,

You just said focus on the light and now you're saying don't focus on the light.

That's the world I live in of how to bring polarities together.

How to how to make the impossible possible.

It doesn't need to make sense in terms of logic.

It's a practice,

I'd say.

Really what will take you there is surrendering the neediness,

Surrendering the neediness of it,

Desperation of it.

Because then you can sink into it.

Letting go,

Surrender.

You know,

There's that guy who wrote the book Surrender Experiment.

It's very popular.

Read that book.

If you if you want to grasp this concept of surrender,

Letting go,

Your mind will say the opposite,

But you have to surrender.

You have to go the opposite way to what your mind says sometimes.

And you know,

If you've ever practiced yoga,

You know,

The best position is when you lie down,

You lie down at the end,

Shavasana.

That you know why the yoga teachers say to you,

This is the most important part.

Don't skip this,

They say.

You know,

I remember being in classes and and people would be people would finish the class and they'll rush out when this moment occurs.

You know,

When you say you lie down,

They say,

OK,

We're done with the yoga part.

OK,

Great.

I've got to rush out now.

Sorry,

I can't stay for the lying down part.

That's the mistake ever.

Biggest.

Don't ever do that.

And I hardly say don'ts because I feel strongly about this.

That's your practice of doing nothing,

Of letting go,

Of surrendering.

So that's one way you can practice this.

There we go.

There's a practical how for you.

Go and lie down.

But not sleeping.

Conscious laying down.

Awareness of yourself laying down.

Let go.

That's why yoga is a great practice.

It's not a physical like it's not.

Well,

It is.

You're using the physical body,

But it's it's a practice of letting go constantly.

The yoga teacher will be like,

Hey,

Twist your arm this way while twisting your other arm,

The complete opposite awkward.

It's the most weird and awkward thing.

There's so many reasons that you're not sometimes seeing for why this is.

Yes,

You stretch your physical body.

Yes,

You work your spine.

That's great.

But it's also a practice of can you be in these positions of comfort?

As a human,

Not as a physical entity,

As a human,

Can you take yourself into this?

Go to the amount of uncomfortability that you feel from it.

I've taken from it after my years of practice of yoga.

I see it as a life practice now.

But you don't have to do yoga either.

This is just a suggestion,

By the way.

Find a way to allow yourself to access that place of letting go.

Because fear is the desire to have control,

To know everything that's going to happen.

Intellectualizing,

Analyzing.

That was me.

That's why I don't I speak from the heart,

Because I know how hard this is.

Stuck in that.

I was stuck in that.

I was stuck in fight or flight.

I don't know if anyone can relate.

But I used to sweat a lot,

Worry about things weeks in advance.

Think think think think about everything,

Every decision,

Every social interaction.

Doubt myself constantly and just try and think my way through of like,

What's the solution?

How do I get to what I want?

Constant constant thinking.

That's anxiety.

So I couldn't take it.

I took actions,

But they were like clunky and fear and smothered with fear,

Let's just say.

The actions would be like,

Yeah,

I'm going to do it.

But there was still part of me was just holding back,

You know,

Holding back,

Dimming the light.

And anxiety sometimes stops actions completely.

So the other part of this session,

Anxiety to action.

Fear is the cause of anxiety.

Even if you don't know it yet,

Subconsciously something's planted in there.

It would be like from our upbringing,

From the nurturing,

Whatever,

Right?

Whatever's happened in the psychological part of ourselves.

It was for me and it is for everyone actually.

That's what this fear stuff is.

But anxiety is,

It can be prolonged.

It can feel painful physically as well.

It affects your body,

Right?

Definitely affects,

I used to have digestion problems,

All sorts of stuff.

Cravings,

Constant cravings and like pleasure seeking to try and balance out the,

Or like,

You know,

De-stressing.

I would have to have all of these activities to de-stress.

That's the society we live in now.

We have to find things to de-stress because we've built up stress.

So it would be like this building of anxiety I had inside and then find a fix,

A quick fix to try and stop it.

For me it was like I'd go and lift weights,

Heavy,

Heavy,

Heavy weights.

Like the heaviest weight I could find that I could lift because it was like,

Oh yes,

It was like a thrill.

It was a buzz.

That was one part of it,

Right?

There was so many other things.

I used to get very drunk,

Party with friends and you know,

That was still fun.

I'm not judging any of that.

It was fun that I'm not taking away from those experiences.

But now I'm operating from a different place of not be this like need to de-stress and seek pleasure because of the anxiety that was there underlying.

And anxiety I think is probably the thing that everyone faces.

Probably the number one.

Because there's a grasping on and it's a believing of the mind.

It's believing all of the stories.

Yeah,

Things happened in the past.

Yes,

There's a psychological part of it.

Yes,

All of that's true.

And I went down all this massive part of understanding psychology,

All of this stuff that's out there like the shadow self,

The Jungian psychology,

All of this stuff.

There's tons of it out there in a child.

Some of it is useful.

But what I have come to believe now is accessing the spiritual part unlocks everything.

It takes away from whatever you're feeling psychologically.

It's like there's a different plane of existence.

It's a complete different operating model.

It's like you take off your outfit and actually you take off your outfit full stop.

You're naked.

You don't put on another outfit because that's what I was speaking about a minute ago.

Psychological mind gets you to put on different outfits,

Change your outfits,

Do this,

Do that,

Do that.

Spiritual,

You take everything off.

You're naked.

You're just with your true self,

Naked,

Fully naked.

No need to cover up.

No cover up process.

So that's what I mean by freedom again.

And once you have this freedom inside,

You can create freedom in your outside world.

And this is for example,

Some people want to work with me as their coach to help them create freedom financially,

For example,

Or freedom in how they spend their time and their energy.

All of that has to come from a place of inner freedom first.

Then you can create whatever you want on the outside world.

That's the easier part.

But bringing those worlds together,

Yeah,

It requires you to go back into the spirit part of you.

Fear to freedom really means being in your psychological story versus being in limitless reality.

Psychological story is limited to that box that you put yourself in.

Reality is there's no limits.

You're free from it.

And that's why I call the other part of this action anxiety to action.

I know I'm really diving in here.

But the other thing I want to say is most people I speak to,

Including me a lot in the past,

Still sometimes now,

There's all these dreams and ideas and wishes and hopes and I want to change this.

I want to do that.

But the action part doesn't happen because fear keeps us away from taking those actions.

You're in a relationship that's not serving you.

You're staying in it because,

Well,

What will happen if I leave?

You're in a job that is mediocre.

Well,

You're doing well.

Sure,

You're doing well.

But you want to start something on the side that really excites you.

But you can't take the action because something's stopping you.

Your ideas,

Your,

Oh,

I haven't got the time.

I can't.

Well,

I,

You know,

You make up these excuses to yourself to justify it.

I did that.

I did all of this.

I did all these excuses.

I wouldn't be here today if I didn't take this action,

But it took me a while to actually do them.

I was having these ideas of teaching meditation,

Mentoring,

Guiding people,

Coaching people for a while,

But it took me years to actually do it because I was so stuck in fear of am I good enough?

How can I do this?

Is this possible?

What will people think?

What about this security?

It's just this like cage,

This cage.

Because for most people,

Or not most people,

Let's just say some people,

Life's fine.

That's okay on paper.

And people say to me sometimes,

I don't have much thing to complain about.

I've got a decent life.

I'm in good health.

And that's okay,

Right?

That's good.

That's great.

But there's always this part of ourself which knows that there's more to life.

There's more to life.

There's more in us.

Like the late Wayne Dyer said,

Don't die before all of the music out of you.

That's cool.

Because that's always been the thing,

The theme for me.

I don't want to live with regrets and not fully experience,

Fully let everything out because that sucks.

That's the worst.

That's worse than the anxiety.

That's worse than everything.

That's why probably it feels so anxiety provoking and crummy.

That's what it was for me.

Because I knew there was more but I couldn't act on it.

I couldn't take action.

That's like torture.

Knowing that you can but you don't.

Can anyone relate?

Yeah,

The quote from Wayne Dyer is.

.

.

I might be getting this wrong though.

Like I mean the exact words but it's something along the lines of,

Don't die before all of the music is out of you.

Get it all out.

Who wants to live with regrets when they're older?

Or even now?

You know,

It's coming towards the end of the year.

Let me make it real for you right now.

Remember,

Most the end of years I would be very depressed and birthdays,

Very very depressed right?

It would hit me hard like the reality of life.

Oh my god,

Another year?

Another year of my life,

My birthday again?

It would just hit me like,

Oh my god I'm getting older.

Oh my god,

Time's passing by.

I didn't enjoy birthdays.

And I've started noticing this around with people when it's like birthdays are fun yeah but there's always this part of,

Oh I'm getting older.

I used to get so depressed.

I used to question my existence,

Especially end of the year.

Because it was really,

I knew there was more potential inside that I wasn't using because I was scared to take actions.

And everything started changing for me when I went down this path of personal development,

Let's just call it.

Improving my health.

Yeah,

Working on like my spiritual self,

Understanding more about the mind and then taking action and doing this stuff that I'm doing now.

I said to myself,

Wow I'm not gonna let my mind stop me.

And here's one thing that really switched for me.

When I went to Japan,

I think it was a few years ago,

I was having this anxiety of,

Because I had come back from traveling.

Traveling for a while right?

And then I said to myself,

Yeah I don't need to travel anymore,

I've done enough travel.

I don't need to do it anymore.

It's fine,

I've done it.

So I gave myself this excuse.

But then I was desperate to see Japan,

For some reason it was just coming up into my awareness.

Really talked myself out of it.

And then three days before the flight was due to go,

I booked my flight right?

Just booked a flight,

Because I had time off from what I was booked a flight.

I was there and I was like,

I was sitting on the plane smiling all smug and thinking,

Oh my god I'm actually doing this thing that I didn't think I needed.

I thought I was comfortable.

I was scared of doing it.

But now I'm here.

Oh wow.

I'm sitting there eating sushi and having fun.

And seeing all these robots.

I made it happen.

It happened.

Easy as that.

Same thing happened with all of the things I'm doing now.

I was doubting myself.

I studied to become a coach.

It was quite a big investment actually.

Studied and I was scared of doing that course.

Soon as I said,

You know what,

I'm going to just pay right now.

I paid for it.

I felt sick inside.

Oh my god what have I done.

But then look,

I did the course.

And I said to myself,

That was the best decision ever.

The same with all these things that I feel scared of doing.

Starting with clients.

I felt scared to start with clients.

I started doing it for free for a while.

Just to build up my like,

Well I'm worth something.

I can help people.

I did it for free for a while and just built up these hours.

When I did that,

I was taking action.

Again,

Taking action.

Building a craft.

Becoming a master at something by slowly taking action.

So I'm not saying just big plunges and big decisions.

I'm saying just do stuff.

Don't sit there thinking idle.

You're dead if you do that.

And that might sound harsh.

But I'm going to be harsh.

Because I think that's what I realized to myself.

I said to myself,

Oh my god,

You're just like floating around in this body.

The body that has thoughts and ideas and oh yeah I should do this,

I should do that.

But it's non-existent.

It's just floating around in there.

I'm not actually doing anything.

I wanted to write a book for a while.

I'm so hesitant about this.

I'm a lamb.

But a few months ago I started writing every day.

Every day I wrote something.

Made a start.

That process is happening.

It scares the hell out of me to even think about publishing a book.

Scares the hell out of me.

So even if you see a book from me one day,

You're going to have to know that I went through this fear process every time I wrote.

I want you to know that.

It's just fear talking.

Action has to happen for you to create anything.

This is where most people struggle.

I for sure did.

I still do sometimes.

If I want to do something new,

Big and exciting,

I want to hold back.

I'm tempted to hold back.

Every time I'm tempted to hold back.

Say no,

No,

No,

I can't do this.

Doesn't matter how spiritually developed you are.

New things will feel scary.

So there's no like,

Oh,

I have to heal my process.

I have to heal all the fears before I can do this.

I got stuck in that.

I got stuck in the needing.

I've got to heal everything before I can help people or before I can do this thing.

Then I'll do it.

No,

That's an excuse.

You're going to get lost in the trap of spirituality.

That's the trap of spirituality.

Really is ego is not spirituality then.

Fear.

With all of that said,

I want to slow down and see what comes up for you guys.

You've been listening.

If you stayed this long,

You've been listening to everything I said.

And this is coming from a deeper place than me even.

This is like being channeled into me to just roar it out like a lion out there.

So that's hopefully sending some vibrations towards you.

I'd love to know what is coming up for you right now.

What is like one thing that you've got from listening to all of this?

One insight.

I like to use that term one insight.

What is one insight you've got?

Share in the comments and then we will continue.

Because I go into rambles.

I go into deep rambles,

Which really is me flowing and wanting to impact you somehow.

Because there wasn't this kind of stuff when I was challenged.

I was in my room alone,

Like in paralyzed thinking that nobody understood me.

And I'm sure you guys feel this way too.

Like what do I do with this thing that's in my head?

This overthinking,

This anxiety.

What do I do?

Firstly is great that you're here.

It's great that you're here.

Secondly there's a way out.

There's a way out.

There's a solution.

There's a way forward.

So hopefully something I've said so far has helped.

Anyone have any questions?

Put the questions in the chat.

Thank you Dave.

Yeah,

People have said that to me a lot.

They say to me into a jazz session.

Well maybe that was you,

But I think a few people have said that to me before as well.

Coming in to just get comfortable and just listen.

Listen and see what comes up for you.

I love that you said jazz because sometimes I even prerequisite this to people.

I say listen like you're listening to music.

You don't need to write everything down.

You don't need to find a way that this fits into your mental model of life.

You don't need to hear something I say and be like,

Oh yeah,

I know that.

No,

Just listen like you're listening to music.

Hear all of it.

Feel it inside yourself.

And then see which insights pop up.

When you hear music it's like,

Oh,

I feel that.

I felt that bit.

So yeah,

Ask me some questions.

Put all of your questions in the chat and then I'm going to talk about them in a minute.

So Naomi's question was,

How do I start the path to freedom?

So the path to freedom first requires you reminding yourself what freedom feels like.

What does freedom feel like for you?

Becoming familiar with that,

Right?

Because if it feels like it's foreign,

It feels like it's something you've never felt,

Then it's going to be harder.

But it's not foreign.

There's these times we go out and walk into nature and we say,

Wow,

Nature's amazing.

It is,

But it's igniting that feeling inside you.

Freeing from the mind,

You connect to something deeper.

So first remind yourself what is freedom and then start creating habits around that,

Practices I'd say.

Surrendering is a practice.

Meditating is a practice of deciding to let go,

Of not controlling your mind.

It's so hard to meditate,

Right?

All these thoughts are hitting you.

But just the act of doing that is sending a signal to yourself to say,

It's okay for me to sit here and listen to this.

All you have to do is sit there and listen to it.

You don't have to do anything special.

You just have to observe it.

Observe the fear.

Observe the desire for attaching to the thoughts.

Observe your meaning making to situations.

Oh,

They did this to me.

This means this.

Observe all of that whizzing around.

Once you observe it,

You start cooling it down almost.

You start seeing it like a movie.

And it's difficult.

It has to be difficult.

I don't think I've ever met anyone who said to me,

I love to meditate.

It's difficult.

We're not used to this.

We're used to doing stuff.

We're used to being in a program in our mind.

So starting the path of freedom,

I'd say that's the place to start.

It's awareness.

I call awareness the front door of a house.

If I'm ever working with someone,

I will help them raise awareness.

Because once you raise awareness,

You get to know everything else.

Your eyes open.

You can see things that you couldn't see before.

Then you can start getting free on the inside.

And then you can start creating freedom on the outside.

What job am I doing?

What am I doing with my money?

How am I managing that?

What am I doing with my health,

With my energy,

With people?

You can start creating freedom all around you.

But it has to start with awareness,

Slowing down,

Knowing yourself better.

So I hope that's useful,

Naomi.

Let me know.

And anyone else?

Was that useful for you?

I'm going to come to the comments in a second.

Next question,

Julie says,

What's the best affirmation when anxiety hits?

I'm not a fan of affirmations.

I'll be honest with you.

I've done them.

I think there's way more powerful things you can do than spend your time with affirmations.

Because it's like,

You know,

All these books will say,

Write these affirmations out and keep writing them out,

Keep saying them,

Keep saying positive thoughts.

It's like trying to fight what's reality,

Fighting what's already there.

You know,

When people say think positive when you're having negative thoughts,

Why?

Why are you trying to fool yourself?

It's like trying to fight it.

Be with the thought.

Be with whatever is happening.

When anxiety hits,

Be with it.

When is when we fight it and we were trying to run away from it,

When we feel shame with it.

That's what it was for me feeling shame,

Huge amount of shame.

Shame is toxic.

Shame of like,

Oh my God,

I'm the anxious guy,

This can't believe this is happening again.

Can't believe this is this is this is me.

This is my identity.

Oh,

Yeah,

I thought this was over.

It's happening again.

It's constant.

So when you practice affirmations to try and get rid of stuff,

It's can it can sometimes and I'm saying sometimes purposely it can sometimes reinforce that there's a problem.

You're reinforcing the fact that there's this problem here that I've got to do an affirmation for to try and make it go away like a spell.

You know,

I say this spell and the boogeyman appears and I say this other spell and the boogeyman disappears.

You know,

If it's just on that verbal,

Mental level,

Nothing's going to happen.

You just say stuff and then try and make yourself feel stuff.

I think that's creating work.

So what I say instead is just be with the reality of what's happening.

See the truth in it and don't give it so much power like it's something terrible is happening.

Sometimes I get messages like,

Oh,

My God,

Raj,

This is happening and I think this is going to happen and you know,

This is happening for me.

I'm feeling this way.

All I'm doing all the time is redirecting people back to their heart,

Back to the truth that's there away from the story in the mind.

So to answer your question in a long way,

I would say the best affirmation is to just feel in your heart.

Find the truth.

See what that's saying to you.

Listen to it when anxiety hits.

Listen let go.

Like I said before,

Let go of the need to fix.

I've got to fix this thing.

I've got to fix it right now.

I'm feeling anxious.

I've got to fix this.

I've got to go for a run.

I've got to go and do this.

I'm going to do this and this and this list of things.

I've done that and it works.

Yeah,

It works for sure.

So I'm not trying to sway you off that.

It works temporarily.

I think coming back to the heart,

The truth that really gets you there.

Anyway,

Hope that answers the question.

Julie,

I think that was.

I would love to have a conversation about this because I'm not trying to knock good enough people affirmations.

That's great that you have these good intentions.

I'm not here to shame anything,

Right?

Because I sometimes feel like I come across that way.

Like I'm trying to shame people's way of doing things.

It's really just to help you see other ways and just to tell you what I've done.

Like I love that people have these good intentions and you're trying your best.

But I always want to give alternatives.

So I'm going to go to the next question.

Someone said,

I can't find the name for this because I've just got the question written down so apologies in advance.

Someone said holidays.

Oh,

Sorry.

It was Ava.

Yeah,

Here we go.

So holidays are very sad and anxiety.

Yes.

Any advice to get through these situations?

What meaning are you assigning to the holiday?

What meaning are you assigning to yourself?

What are you telling yourself?

Instead of trying to get through this situation,

I'd say go into it.

I'd say meet it.

Then you get wisdom,

Right?

And that's what I meant when I said,

Hey,

It's great to do these things to de-stress and to take away the instant discomfort,

Like eat and run and even healthy things,

Right?

Like go into a sauna to relax.

They're great.

They're useful.

They're fun.

But you don't get any wisdom from that.

You don't learn anything.

You don't learn anything about yourself.

That's why I stopped doing all this stuff that I used to do.

I used to do crazy things,

By the way.

I used to go to the sauna steam.

I used to do an hour of yoga.

I used to meditate for this long.

I used to do all this list of stuff.

I ran,

I.

.

.

So many things.

They all worked.

They all helped me.

But it was too much.

It was my own created illusion of what I needed.

So when you're feeling discomfort,

Be with it.

Be with it.

Listen.

Take some breaths.

What is it saying?

Is it true?

Is it really true?

And this is also like what's her name?

Byron Katie says,

If you've checked out Byron Katie's book,

Loving What Is,

It's great.

It's questioning it.

Questioning the thought.

Because what you're having is a thought when you have anxiety provoking situations.

The thought is telling you this.

It doesn't mean it's true.

It's the thought that says this.

Question it.

And if there is part of it which is true,

Then that means you're being called to action.

You're being summoned to do something about it instead of being stuck.

That's the other side of this coin.

One side is like let go.

It doesn't mean anything.

The other side of the coin,

Because like I said earlier,

I like polarities.

I like seeing both ends.

Other side is,

Hey,

You're being summoned to go and take action and change something right now.

But this is both of these are coming from the soul.

The soul is telling you,

Hey,

You're not playing life.

You're not playing life well enough.

You're not living life fully.

Something is off key right now.

You better go and do something.

If you ignore that voice,

Well,

You're going to be stuck in misery then.

I did that.

I was like ignoring the calling from the soul.

I like to call it.

Calling from the soul is different from the illusion,

The illusion or voice of the ego.

Calling from the soul is like trying to inspire you to do something and change something that you have to listen to.

Or you're going to be in misery.

All of you here.

And I'm saying this because I know this.

I ignored it for a long time and it just hurt.

Even now,

Like this topic,

Fear and action,

Even now there's things I want to do sometimes and I don't.

I don't listen to that voice well enough.

So I'm still learning.

I'm still improving.

But what I know now is to give it some,

Give it a mic,

Give it a microphone.

And then do a tiny little action,

Tiniest one.

Otherwise you're stuck in stagnation.

And like I said earlier,

No one likes to be in stagnation.

It's like you start questioning your life.

Like what the hell am I doing in my life?

Hell am I doing?

This year has passed.

What the hell have I done with my year?

These five years have passed.

Oh my God.

What?

Wow.

I'm how does time fly so quick?

You know,

I've said this before.

People say this all the time.

Oh my God.

Time is flying,

Isn't it?

Where did all these years go?

You become one of those people who just accept and believe that this is what life is.

That oh time just flies and oh I didn't get a chance to do these things because of this and that.

Yeah.

I wish I did this.

That would have been nice.

Oh,

Maybe I'll do it.

Maybe I'll do it.

And then that maybe I'll do it never happens.

And then five years have passed and you're still in maybe I should do it.

Suffering.

That's your suffering that you create.

So I'm going to leave it as that.

I'm sure that hit you in some way because that even hit me to say it again out loud.

Let me know.

Did that help guys?

I think that's all the questions I've got so far.

And I think anyway.

Oh Lynn said if our real self is a divine spirit,

Then who is feeling the pain?

The body's in pain.

Well depends what pain we're talking about.

Who is feeling the pain?

Okay.

So our real self is the one that's watching this.

It doesn't have a form.

It's like hey,

I have this body.

Yeah,

You can pinch yourself and it hurts.

Yeah.

But well,

You're experiencing that as well.

So how can you be this body?

Right?

It's like if I had this bottle.

Oh look.

This is a form.

I have one.

I have an arm.

So you're experiencing the experience.

That's all I can say without going super deep into that question because that's yeah,

I can go into a deep answer but I'm going to leave it as that for now.

Are there any more questions?

Who wants to ask one more question?

One more.

Whoever's here will get an answer of anything in life that you have a question about right now.

And then I might scroll through and see if I've missed anything.

Thank you for all the comments guys.

You guys have been really active.

So I'm just scrolling through now.

Okay.

Reviews

I’m going to listen to this over and over. It moved me to tears. Thank you for sharing your journey, thoughts and experiences. 🪷🙏🏽✌🏽

Really great. Thank you.

Thank you for this insightful talk and sharing your story 🙏

Apparently you were talking to me 😁 Thank you Raj! 🤍

That was amazing! I really resonated with your message. Would love to hear more about your journey and book. I would like to write a book too.

Be afraid but do it anyway.. that’s how we change/ expand! I plan to go to a Christmas concert this weekend by myself. This is a fancy one requiring tickets. I’ll keep you posted. Grateful for your wisdom, Raj. ❤️🕊