There's a simple yet powerful way to instantly improve how you feel.
Whenever you feel down or upset thinking that life isn't going your way understanding that when your expectations are different to the reality around you,
That's when we experience disappointment and misery.
Whenever I feel distressed or angry,
It's usually when I'm fighting against the flow of life,
When something is happening in the reality around me and I'm resisting it in some way.
Because I'm starting to have these negative emotions,
The first thing that I do is I start blaming.
I blame everyone and everything for how I feel and how I feel is usually someone else's fault.
Whether it's my boss or colleagues at work,
Whether it's my partner or my children and I never really think about how my expectations are causing me to feel the way I feel.
You know,
The truth is that nobody can actually make you feel anything.
How you react is completely based on how you view a person or a situation.
I wonder if you've ever noticed that we spend a lot of our time in our minds and not actually living in reality.
We spend so much of our day listening to the voice in our head.
Thinking,
Planning,
Scheming,
Coming up with ideas of how life should be and never really appreciating what is actually going on in life.
Think about it.
What do you call something that is in your head but not in the reality?
I call it a fantasy and we spend most of our time living in this fantasy and we find ourselves being let down all the time.
Not by what is actually happening in reality but by the fantasy of what we've created in our head.
And when I feel like that I ask myself this question,
What expectation did I create of this moment?
What fantasy did I create of what the moment was going to be like?
And usually we'll find that you're upset because you expected a certain outcome and life just delivered something else.
So our emotions are really based not on life but on our expectations.
And whenever I become aware that I've created a fantasy,
An unrealistic expectation of life,
Then all of a sudden it allows me to just let go.
Because I'm no longer fighting the reality,
I'm simply reminding myself to let go of the fantasy of what I thought this moment was going to be like.
What I thought this person was going to be like.
What I thought this situation was going to be like.
I can let go of that fantasy and bring myself back into peace.
I know what you might be thinking,
Does that mean that I should never make another plan?
No,
I don't think that's what I'm saying.
Plans are actually really useful but it's when we tie our happiness to an expectation that everything is going to go according to plan,
That's when we're going to set ourselves up for misery.
Instead,
We need to learn how to live with unpredictability.
Because you and I both know that life really is a roller coaster.
Every day things are going to happen that are totally unexpected.
Situations are going to change,
People are going to be different every day.
And if we create a harmony with this unpredictability of life,
If we're able to live with the reality of the moment,
That's when we can bring ourselves back into peace.
And the more that we can live in alignment with this roller coaster of life,
The ups and the downs,
The more content we'll be.
So do yourself a favour,
Try to live for the next 24 hours with no expectations.
Decide that you're going to be happy with everything that happens no matter what.
Now do you know someone who could really benefit from thinking like this?
Then share this important lesson with them and you can improve how that person is feeling right now.
