Meditation From Winning & Influencing Mindfully

I have no idea how many times I say something, or write an email, or post, with irritation on my mind. Or hit the numbers for Verizon, with exasperation. I do know that when I do, the result is often not great.

When I remember to be mindful - to consider my timing, be honest, and be kind no matter what (and no matter who) –the result is decent. The other person seems more interested and relaxed. And I feel ok, even when I don’t get what I want.  

Timing, honesty, and kindness: I’m loving this recipe because it feels like a win.

Transcript

Finding the breath.

The breath in the body,

The way the body is breathing.

Just beginning to attend to the breath as it flows in and out of the body.

As a way of settling the body,

Settling the mind.

Resting in the present moment.

And then maybe calling to mind a communication that you are going to have sometime today,

Tomorrow,

This weekend,

Next week.

And maybe it's with someone who might not be someone that you can count on to speak to you,

To communicate with you in a timely way or with kindness or honesty or benefit or with a heart full of goodwill.

You know,

There might be someone like that.

And see if you can take the next few minutes and just cultivate your own goodwill towards that person.

Thinking about something about that person who,

Something about that person that you can appreciate.

It might be the simplest,

Most inconsequential thing like the way that they wear their hair or the fact that generally they're on time.

And see if you can cultivate in your mind,

In your heart,

A kind of goodwill towards them.

And then consider how you can communicate with them in a timely way,

Timely as it relates to them.

If you can choose your time,

When would be the best time to talk with this person or communicate with this person?

So many times when I practiced,

I would send emails late at night knowing they would be waiting,

Lurking on the recipient's desktop in the morning to kind of jump out at them.

And maybe that's not the best timing.

And then considering with this mind and heart of goodwill,

How you can be honest with the person that you are about to talk with.

And that may mean being more vulnerable than you're accustomed to being.

And then if the expression of your goodwill would look friendly or kind,

Then let it look friendly and kind.

Let it be friendly and kind.

Imagine bringing true kindness and friendliness,

Affection.

You can go all the way to affection with this person and really benefiting them,

If at all possible.

How can you benefit them?

And then in this last moment or two of our sit,

How does it feel to think about,

To consider,

To contemplate wise communication in this way?