When our children are ready to leave.
When we are parents and our children are ready to leave it may be that they are 8,
They are 13,
They are 19 they are 25 or 35.
You see they may not leave the home at a young age but they may detach their hearts from yours because they are independent they want to be on their own,
They are fighting against authority you are trying to hang on,
They are trying to let go and so this podcast this affirmational podcast will help support you during this.
There is a deep intrinsic understanding that I have come to as often I get messages from the universe downloads as I'd like to say and today's download was around children possibly because I am thinking of my 20 year old who is still living with us but she is separating and I thought isn't this much like a divorce?
Maybe worse.
And we wonder why is it so difficult,
Challenging,
Why do we hang on?
And what do you do to hang on to that child who is trying to fly from the nest?
Do we give them everything they want so they want for nothing?
Do we get angry,
Frustrated with them,
Do we make demands on them that they must meet?
Are we unconditional or are we conditional?
Pulls at our heart strings you see when our child is born in most cases we fall head over heels in love,
We fall in love with the dream,
The future that we have laid out for them how perfectly it is going to unfold and how much we are an instrument of that dream entangled within the essence of a future that we have weaved together in a pattern that they may not have ever seen for their little souls were born with their own pattern their own weaving,
Their own instruments that they want to play out in their world,
In their orchestra,
Their play,
Their story and we fall in love with them,
We live day by day with them,
We support them,
We help them,
They need us they crave our attention,
They admire us they look up to us,
We fight,
We struggle,
We triumph we get through the difficult times,
The challenging times,
We learn,
We grow,
We evolve and so do they we have dates we have fun times,
We have entertainment we gather knowledge together we connect,
We hug,
We kiss tender little forehead kisses,
Cheeks we show our love,
We get love back it is very intimate,
Not in a romantic way of course,
But it is an intimate relationship entangled,
And then one day poof,
They're gone might be at first mentally,
Emotionally,
Could be physically but they're just gone,
And there is no returning or you can struggle with it,
You can grapple with it,
You can try to create a co-dependent relationship to force them to come back you can make them feel guilty or responsible but on a deep spiritual level that isn't what we should be doing,
That is not unconditional and so forever that relationship,
That childhood,
Those 15,
18,
20 23 years will not return it is like a divorce,
It's a divorce that you didn't want,
You didn't ask for and yet,
It is and I do not think we give ourselves credit for understanding the depth,
The longing the hunger,
The continuous and yet we can rise above that and find a brand new,
Intimate close,
Transparent relationship with them and with ourselves and with our spouses,
Our partners,
If that may be the way find a new,
Intimate passionate relationship with yourself,
With life understand who you are,
Now that you're not a mom now that you're not a caregiver,
A teacher a provider,
A therapist,
A nurse who are you now?
How much wisdom have you gathered?
How much warmth and love is still in your heart?
Where does it go now?
You can find the way,
All you have to do is search look,
Be open separate,
Divide,
Oh that relationship will come back if you do so,
If you find your own way your relationship with your child will return in its own way with its own strength but if we hang on,
Feeling that we're not ready for this divorce,
We're not ready for this separation,
This cannot happen well,
It might not it might not end so favorably but I believe it can be the other way around I'm ready to see what's around the corner what kind of new relationship can we develop?
Will it take nine months?
Will it take five years?
Will it take twelve years?
Because you remember when your child was young,
The relationship was very immature it was very one-sided and as they matured,
The relationship matured and so why can the next five years,
Ten years fifteen,
Twenty years not be exactly the same way?
Just not as codependent not as needy,
And definitely not as conditional namaste
