When Your Life Hasn't Caught Up Yet | Selfgentle 27

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Self-gentleness with Femke series. Sometimes you shift internally, at the level of belief and self-understanding, and then look around to find your life still reflects the older version of you. This episode sits with that disorienting gap between inner change and outer change, and offers a way to be with it that isn't despair. If you would like to explore self-gentleness more deeply, you can find Femke's Self-gentleness courses on Insight Timer. You are also warmly invited to join Femke's Self-gentleness Hour, a free live session on Insight Timer every second Friday of the month.

Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. You have changed. At the level of what you believe about yourself. How you see yourself. What you know that you deserve. And then you look around at your life And it still looks like the old version of you? The same patterns, The same reflexes, The same external circumstances, And you wonder Did anything actually change? It did. Inner change. An outer change. Don't move at the same pace. The inside shifts first. The outside takes longer. Because it involves other people, Structures, Habits with their own momentum. You are just in the lag between who you've become and what your life has in time to reflect back on. And that's okay. And that is what real change looks like from the inside. Because it's still happening. I really would love for you to start to trust that. So let's affirm this. Say the sentences with me or just listen to my voice. My inner shift is real. Even when my life doesn't yet reflect it. Change moves at its own pace. I can be patient with that. I'm not behind. I'm in the middle of something. I can trust what I know about myself, Even when my circumstances haven't caught up. The gap between who I am and how my life looks is temporary. I am the most important person to consistently deserve my own gentleness. Whenever you feel that you've done so much and it's not showing yet, Then come back here and listen again. Because you are not. Trust on yourself. You are exactly right. Always and especially right now.

Reviews

Oh, my, did I very much appreciate these observations and resulting affirmations! And they showed up with perfect timing… which seems to reinforce your central message. Thank you! 🙏🏼